hello sir /madam ,
i am worried about my son. he is not behaving same in school and at home.when he is at home , he start fighting , running, playing every thing except studing. but in school he behave like goat, dont think properly, if other kid beat him, then also he did not reply,???he is normal in study at home but in school he is not listening to teacher, not doing well, his rank is very last in school.,why ??
we dont know what to do??he dont like to write also? some time he become violent but only at home ??
what is the reason behind his nature ? what is the solution for this?? i am worried about his studies ? and careear?and development??
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Is it possible that your son is being bullied, or that he's self-conscious about his trouble writing?
Don't dread the conference with the teacher, and be honest about his behavior shifts at home too. You guys are on the same side, and only want what's best for your child. Your son's teacher might be a very helpful adviser in determining what the cause of shifts in behavior is, and ways to stop it.
This behavior sounds like it could be ADHD. My son has it and he acted like this, as have other children I know who have ADHD. I would suggest making an appointment with a psychiatrist and have him evaluated. I would also strongly suggest getting him in to see a therapist. He obviously has some issues he needs to work on, and the therapist can also help you, as parents, learn how to help him learn what is acceptable behavior. The very first step I think you should take is to go the school nurse and ask her to have all of his teachers fill out a Conner's Evaluation (he/she will know what that is...just ask!) for him that you can take to the psychiatrist. This will give the doctor an idea of how he is behaving at school, and then you can tell the doctor about his behavior at home.
All of the ADHD children I know have benefited from medication, used along with therapy, but don't expect things to change overnight. It takes a while to find the right meds and the right dose, and therapy takes a while to work out issues. But don't give up hope if things aren't all better in a week! If he does in fact have ADHD, medication and therapy will help! I hope this helps!
Dear S.,
You don't say how old your son is, but I'm guessing he may be in elementary school?
I have 4 boys and 2 are already in high school...so, I went through a lot! :)
What I would suggest is that you and your wife meet with the teacher(s) and your son and talk about the situation. Try to keep it positive and ask him what is bothering him. Ask questions that will give you an answer and not a "yes" or a "no".
Once you are at home, have another meeting with him and both of you express your love for him and that you will do anything to help him. And, one of the things you have to do to help him is to set certain expectations and if not met, the consequences. If he knows this in advance, he will think twice before doing it. Set clear expectations. As well as the consequences. And if you tell him you will do something, please do it. Do not feel sorry for him because he will use that against you. Also, you and your wife MUST stick together. Please do NOT override each other's decision. Be a team!
Also, dedicate a father-son day and go to the park, go fishing, go to the theater. He will see how much you care for him and he will think twice before doing soemthing that he knows will disappoint you.
Best of luck!
I would talk to the school's counselor or your own pediatrician about his behavior. How old is he? If he is having problems in school he could have some sort of a learning disability that is preventing him to focus. You could have him tested to see if that rules out any possibilities. Has there been a big family issues that he has been a part of? Divorce, Moving, Separation, Death, New School, Being picked on at school or on the bus? You could look into a family psychologist if there are family issues that may need to be addressed. Hope that helps.
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