Today is my birthday and a sad one it is. My husband and me agreed to celebrate my birthday yesterday, due to I wanted the family together for a dinner at home due to our oldest works all day Sunday at the church daycare. My husband asked what I wanted for the dinner and I told him, if he could please pickup food from Genghis Mongolian Grill, to eat at home that is all I want for my birthday. I placed the order by phone and he goes to pick up the food. He gets home and is very angry that the lady forgot to put in his tortillas. We’ve had this problem before with my husband failing to double check the bag when picking up anything. Instead of being mad at himself he proceeds to yell at me for ordering from such an inefficient place, starts slamming kitchen drawers, the kitchen pantry doors etc. Gives attitude the entire time at the dinner table. There goes my pleasant birthday dinner. I was absolutely hurt because when his birthday came around last month I made him a beautiful greek meal, made his favorite cake, bought him clothes (casual to dressy) decorated with balloons the whole nine yards! And what do I get for this birthday anger because he failed to check the order. I told him that I’m sorry his order wasn’t complete and that he should have checked the bag. If he was so upset to call the restaurant and let them know that his tortillas were missing and I’m sure they’d make it up to him on the next order. He didn’t care; he was just angry slamming things around, rushed to eat his food in less than 5 minutes; got up from the table and went up to his media room grumbling about his food order not being complete. I was shocked and appalled by his behavior. Things have been rough at work but this was no excuse to treat my special day as such. Plus, he never said happy birthday to me. Although, today is technically my birthday, he still hasn’t said happy birthday to me. Our daughters tried talking to him about his behavior and all he says to them is…what are you talking about. I tried to talk to him about his actions and how they hurt me, but he acts like nothing happened. Still today on my birthday, no birthday wishes from my husband. In all our years of marriage he has never act like such a jerk! I know things are stressful on his job, but he has ruined my birthday. I was thinking about trying to salvage my birthday while it’s still a bit early; maybe take myself out to a movie or la Madeline for a pastry. Am I wrong for wanting to leave him at home while I take our youngest out with me to salvage what is left of my birthday?
Thank you all so very much for the birthday wishes! You are all right, I'm getting dressedup now and going out. Taking youngest child of course since oldest is at work. I'm gonna go get my pastries, some of my favorite Thai food and go to the park and sit at the pond and play. Yes K i'm thinking about smacking him upside his head with tortillas the thought did cross my mind.LOL You all are wonderful! Thank you so very much. I'm gonna go salvage my birthday. in the words of Fried Green Tomatoes...TOOWONGA!!! Update: Went out for 4 hours, went to my favorite Thai restaurant the staff sang to me, then went to La Madeline for pastries, they gave them to me for free because it was my bday, went to grocery store for a few items and a grocery cart guy sang to me...that was hilarious and nice. Then my oldest daughter met me and her little sis at the park and we had a nice time dancing and playing. Then once I got home, husband apologized for everything and promised to make it up to me. Told him i'll think about what he can do, then my daughters and me danced around the house and blew up balloons. Thank you all. You all are a Wonderful Bunch of Ladies! Best Wishes to you All!
Happy Birthday! Yes, absolutely go out and have a great time. Leave the jerk at home.
Love K's idea of whacking him upside the head with tortillas.
Go! In fact, have TWO treats!
Happy Birthday!
Just saw K's Mom's idea- LOVE IT!!!! Too funny!
First, HAPPY B-DAY TO YOU, HAPPY B-DAY TO YOU, HAPPY B-DAY DEAR S., HAPPY B-DAY TO YOU. Believe me you'll be glad you can't actually hear me sing LOL. I'm sorry your b-day was ruined because of something so silly. My hubby is not good about b-day's so I do know how you feel. Anyway, you go and do whatever will make you happy, today is YOUR day. Have fun!!! Big birthday hugs to you!!
Go, enjoy your birthday treat at La Madeline! Take your kid(s) with you and have a good time and go to a movie! Maybe when he sees he is excluded due to his attitude, and he should be, he will come to his senses :)
Happy Birthday!
I am so sorry , but don't let it ruin your birthday, and Happy Birthday! Today is my grandson's 13th, we partied yesterday and had a great time, BTW. It is also my wedding anniversary, but as we are in the process of divorcing...I choose not to acknowledge that ; )
I say you're neither right nor wrong, you simply feel the way you do. Maybe your hubby needs time to himself, so don't feel guilty, go to a movie AND out for pastry. If he is still complaining when you get back tell him you're sorry he had such a bad experience and next time he needs to check the order before leaving the restaurant, but that you had a good birthday anyway!
I would take your child and go out, and on the way out make sure to tell him that he has ruined enough of your special weekend with is jerky attitude and you are going out to salvage what is left.
Happy birthday. Take your kid(s) and go out for and enjoyable dessert!
I can relate to getting mad and struggling to let it go but yes, he was being a jerk. I hope he figures it out and can make it up to you soon. Maybe when you get home from dessert he will have calmed down and you can talk to him.
If it makes you feel any better, my inlaws are coming out here and staying with us on my bday next weekend. I am so looking forward to being awakened at 6am--and then having to do what they want.....woohoo!
I love the whole "slapping your husband upside his head with the tortillas"--hehe.
I hope you have a fabulous rest of your evening and enjoy your time at the park! Happy Birthday!!!!!!!
He acted like a jerk and he does need to make it up to you. Don't leave this up to your daughters. Confront him and let him know how to make it up to you - I'd be looking for a gift card to a nice restaurant and enjoy dinner out with a girlfriend. He can stay home. I'd also dial down how you celebrate his birthday, clearly he isn't appreciative. For now, treat yourself and your girls to a nice dessert out. Leave him home.
No! You are not wrong.
I looked at your profile and read your question from March 2011 and it seems as though he has developed a pattern of behavior in the past six months where he blames others for his issues. He is not exercising and maintaining his weight and blaming poor quality furniture. Now he's blaming a restaurant employee for not getting part of his order. The violent outbursts and gulping his food and so forth are a warning sign that he is in trouble. It sounds like he is stressed to the max and needs some down time or a work out that will help take the anger away. When he is calm again you need to talk this out with him. He simply cannot act out this way. If he does not get his anger under control he will start to lash out at you and/or the kids.
Sorry maybe not the answer you are looking for.
Happy Birthday.
aww! your husband was being such a baby wasn't he? I don't know why it doesn't dawn on men that they can be givers at times!
Anyways, glad that you still had a great day with your daughters!
Happy belated birthday to you! :)
btw, you should really do the whole "tortilla on his head" thing just for fun when he's back to his senses LOL! good one K's mom!
He was probably more angry that he messed up your birthday by forgetting the tortillas than he was angry at you for ordering there. I guess if you had said "it's ok" he would calm down. Sorry your birthday turned out like that.
Have fun my dear :) I'll be right there with you in a few days if my family and or kiddos make my day full of too much work and bad attitudes. But I'm thinking positive. I'm going to be 45 on Thursday and it's going to be a great day no matter what anyone else says or does.
Heck no! I'd take the happy ones and go find something to do! Hit up a restaurant that will bring out some large stupid hat and all the waiters will blow in kazoos all the while singing some silly rendition of "happy birthday!". You still have time! If your husband can't pull his head out of his a$$ then so be it, you deserve to be celebrated as there is only one you:) I wouldn't even tell him you are leaving, I'd just quietly go, no one likes a party pooper. By the way, Happy Birthday!
Im glad to see that your birthday did have a happy ending and you had a great day!
Happy Belated Birthday.
I would think long and hard on how you want your husband to make it up for you! It needs to be good one so he doesn't do this again! ;)
To quote my two little girls. He was being a poopy butt! Bad hubby!!
Now to you Miss S.:
(Pretend you hear me singing, no on second thought you DON'T want to hear me singing...)
Happy Birthday to you!
Happy Birthday to you!
Happy Birthday Dear S.!
Happy Birthday to you!
I hope you salvaged it and had a good one.
I won't tell you about my awful 30th birthday that I thought would be AWESOME and instead SUCKED! How my hubby thought I'd be happy having it at my in-laws and my MIL whose bday fell 10 days before mine, celebrated hers and mine together and I helped ice my own f-ing cake. And how the last thing I wanted on a SPECIAL birthday was to celebrate with my inlaws!!!! But anyways. I was so upset I cried after that bday. But hubby made it up to me with a very nice belated bday outing 2 weeks later.
Please make him do a do-over when he's not behaving so poorly!!
Your husband (who knows he flubbed) will also feel better if you go out and enjoy yourself and come back happy.
I'm sorry your day has gone this way, but the entire day doesn't have to be ruined.
You're an adult.
You can go and do things that will make you happy.
My husband used to blow up over really stupid things and it embarrassed me to to end.
My son's first birthday party.....
He yelled at me in front of everyone because I hadn't dusted the top of the refrigerator off. It wasn't even dusty. PLUS, my mom told him that she's so short, she can't see the top of the refrigerator anyway so the only person upset was him. No one was checking to see if I was a good wife and had cleaned the top of the refrigerator. They were there to celebrate the baby.
She was trying to tell him not to worry about it and it just made him madder.
Who knows what's going on with your husband, but you can still have a good day.
To me, it sounds like he was even put out over having to pick up food. Who wants to ruin everything because HIS tortillas were left out?
It's immature to say the least.
My husband chose a reason to flip that no one else would ever have even thought of.
I don't know why they do that.
Don't let it ruin your day.
You're a grown woman and can do what you want to have a nice time.
Best wishes and Happy Birthday.
No sense stewing over flipping tortillas, in my opinion.
He's pissed off at you because he forgot to check the bag? Here's a clue for the hubby: Check any takeout bag from any restaurant and while he's at it, check the receipt too from any/all establishments.
He's having a TT on your birthday?
Well, you could ask him what he would like to do on YOUR birthday to make it nicer for HIM !
Happy Birthday.
Heck no! Take the kiddos out and have fun! If you have a little girl, go get your nails done then go get milkshakes and see a movie!
Happy Birthday!!! Take the youngest and have fun
