My baby is alil over a year old I had a DNA test done she wasnt his and Im not having another one done. I'm with a man that wants to be her dad can he just sign the birth certificate without us being married
Nobody has to sign the birth certificate right now. I suggest that you get married and wait a year so your husband can adopt her legally.
Please also consider premarital counseling before you do. Studies show that premarital counseling decreases divorce rates.
Good luck to you.
That's great that he wants to step up and be her dad, but where is her biological father? Don't you think he deserves to know he has a kid and have the opportunity to be in her life?
As the wife of a man who spent time with a woman who didn't tell him she was pregnant, I can tell you it causes a lot of heartache and anger down the road. Take the honorable road and find her father...give him the chance to be in her life or sign away rights - one or the other.
N.:
Welcome to mamapedia!!
uumm...birth certificates are typically signed at birth...but who knows!! So many women have babies with men they really don't know...
do you KNOW who the father is? If so - contact him and have him relinquish parental rights to the child and your "man" MIGHT be able to adopt her - if that happens, her birth certificate will be amended to show his name.
If he signs a LEGAL document stating that he is the child's father - then if you two don't work out - he will be held financially responsible for her - not to mention he would be falsifying information.
Here's a link to Establishing Parentage in California (if that's really where you are from).
Bottom line? You need to find the biological father. You need to let him know he is a father. Let him relinquish parental rights.
I hope you are able to support yourself and your baby on your own. If not - get an education and a job so that you can be a great role model to your child.
Good luck!
Your partner (fiance?) can legally adopt your daughter. In some states, though, your daughter's biological father would have to renounce paternity.
And, N., please, for your own sake, revise your post so it says the following:
"My baby is a little over a year old. My loyal, loving [boyfriend? partner? fiance?] functions as her father in every respect. Is there any way I can get his name on her birth certificate?"
People here can be terribly harsh about ungrammatical, confusing posts, particularly where they involve issues of uncertain paternity. If you want constructive advice rather than judgment, please take the time to make your post crystal-clear.
You would be lying to this child. If she ever needs blood or some sort of biological test done she will find out this person is not biologically related to her. It will devastate her.
You don't "have" to find her father but in the long run she will want to know someday.
I think you need to go ahead and find out who her father is. Not only should you get child support he should have the right to say "I don't want this child and I want to sever my parental rights". Once he does that this child is free to be adopted by anyone.
If the man you are with wants to legally adopt this child then he needs to do that the right way, into a marriage that is solid and not going anywhere.
You do realize once his name is legally connected to that child if you separate or divorce you could lose custody right? If he's legally this child's father then he has as much right to have full custody and demand child support from you. So do think this through carefully.
Your child has a real dad. I think it's premature to try to have someone else sign a piece of paper. If your boyfriend wants to adopt her, that would be the way to go after you get married and determine her real father wants to give up all rights to her.
Please don't do this to another child-- your daughter is going to struggle with this later. I hope you are mature enough to help her through it.
