Aloha J.,
It can be frustrating for everyone definitally. It took quite a while for my 11 year old to "not cry" about being asked to write out his work. He can do so much in his head and didn't understand the need to write out his work for others to see. Like we tell him all the time, we are not mind readers and we can't do the work in our heads like he does. He's more talented at that than we are. Being talented with mental capabilities is a blessing for him (now that he understands better how to communicate with others) because he can't be a physical kid due to heart defects. But that's a whole other realm of issues we have to deal with. Going back to ADD, Here's some information about Josh (another kid with ADD/ADHD) and his family's success.
Josh’s ADD/ADHD Story
Hi, my name is Kathy and my son Joshua is 13 years old. I would like to give you the Reader's Digest version of his life up until now. At 19 months, he was diagnosed with Lymphoma, a form of childhood cancer. After enduring 18 months of chemotherapy, we were told about the long-term side effects of all of the CHEMICALS they put into his body. They weakened his heart, and caused ADHD to mention only two things.
When he started kindergarten, right away, his teacher told us she thought he had an attention problem. We knew Josh was difficult, but we figured we spoiled him rotten when he was ill because we never knew which day might be his last. After urging from his teacher and the principal we made an appointment with a Doctor to test him. Sure enough, he was Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. A label we were never quite comfortable with anyway. So the Doctor suggested Ritalin, strongly I might add. We tried it. If the dosage was weak, it did not seem to do any good and a higher dose made him a zombie. We decided we did not care for this drug so we took him off of it. His doctor asked us never to come back to his office if we were going to do what we thought was best for Josh and not listen to what he told us to do.
We decided to try a Psychiatrist this time. He recommended Imipramine and Zoloft alternating the two. That did not work, so back we went and this time he suggested Clonidine. This one did not do any good either, so he told us to try Dexedrine. No luck. All the while we are fighting with his teachers, principals and school boards about his education. He was doing poorly in school because he could not pay attention long enough to learn what they were teaching. The worse he did, the worse his behavior got. The school decided to label him "Behavior Disordered" to go along with the label "ADHD". These are labels that will stick with him for the rest of his educational years. Not more than two days would go by that we did not get a call from a teacher, the principal, bus tickets from bus drivers and calls from school counselors.
I can not begin to tell you of the frustration, anger, turmoil and the strain it put on our marriage. Joshua was most frustrated of all of us. He wanted to be good, I could tell. He has such a kind heart. He would give the shirt off of his back if a friend needed it. He gets into fights sticking up for anyone who is being picked on at the time, no matter how big the bully was. We kept him off of drugs altogether for a couple of years
now. The teachers and the school really resent us for this. They want him drugged so they can handle him. We want them to do their job and teach him in a way he needs to be taught. What an uphill battle that is!
In October of 1999, my sister came up from North Carolina for my second
marriage. She gave me B Complex on that wonderful day to relieve some of the stress. I was amazed at how I felt. When she left to go home, she left me with a book and literature about Shaklee products. I read the book and was amazed to find out that they was somebody else out there that thought the way I did about ADHD. I began taking the Shaklee Basics and Soy protein. I feel wonderful, by the way. I talked my husband into taking them, which was no easy thing to do. He was convinced that his multivitamin from Walgreens was the way to go. He walks around work whistling now. He is the oldest guy in his department (only 49) and he is the one with the energy to unload 15 thousand pounds of produce from the truck. Then it hit me, what would this do for Joshua. Well, I can not begin to tell you how drastically it has changed our lives in such a short time. He has gone for 5 weeks now only getting in trouble once. He is calmer and more relaxed than he has ever been. He does not talk non stop anymore. He is the wonderful child I always knew was inside that body. So we were right about not keeping him on medication. None of them did any good, so is he really ADHD and Behavior Disordered? Or is it just that all of those drugs are horrible on the human body? Whatever, Joshua is a happy child now. In fact, he is sitting in his room right now writing a letter about how much better he feels. All in his very own words. He has asked me to type it for him We hope this will help any other parents out there who are as frustrated as we WERE. Shaklee is the way to go. Thanks Sis for loving us enough to share there wonderful products with us. We love ya! Kat >^..^<
Dear Aunt Cindy,
I thank you for giving my parents the idea of trying to take those vitamins. I think the vitamins are really helping me.
Well, where should I start. Well, so far I don't crave sugar anymore, well not that much. I think it has changed me a lot. I have been good for a whole month without any detentions, or smart mouthing the teachers. For about a week now, I have had a sudden interests in puzzles, something I could never sit and do before. I just started one a few days ago, but I'm not very far. For about a month now I have been really mellowed out. I have been stronger and I am getting taller every week.
I hate the taste of vitamins but I'll get use to them in about a month, then I won't taste them hardly.
Love, Josh
Bob,
Yesterday I sent out an e-mail to Frank Frey asking him to forward it through his group and beyond on that very subject. Josh takes the "basics" and soy protein. He divides his time between mom's and dad's houses so we needed something easy to transport. Also he is 13 and has the Ritter hard-headedness so we needed something he would agree to take when mom was not standing over him. In other words we had to get his cooperation and
agreement. Josh was able to see how his cousin Tristan (my son) had grown since the last time we visited. Tristan is ADD without hyperactivity and has always been a pretty picky eater. After three months on shaklee Tristan had grown two and a half inches. Joshua noticed. Tristan has now gone from the shortest in his class at 5'4" to 5'7.5" and a regular on the school basketball team. Tristan is on all of the same as Joshua but we
have added:
"Alfalfa" and "Garlic" (alergies),
"Fiber tabs" and "Herb lax" (teen acne),
"DTX" (he was on Cylert for 2 years for his ADD - which can cause liver damage - we found out after the fact),
"Vita-Cal" and "Meal Shake" just to round things out.
And when he is not looking I toss a little extra "Energizing Soy Protein" into his shake.
As Ann Westergaard is fond of saying "The only thing we cure is malnutrition" Just think of how many children, even in this great country, are suffering from malnutrition. I saw signs of it in the military when I was stationed in Korea and the Philippines but never would have guessed the size of the problem in America.
Hope this is a help to all.
Sandra Ritter
I know that was a lot to read, but I know it's not an easy issue to deal with for everyone involved.
Marie-anne :O)