This weekend is mainly focused on making our relationship and marriage stronger. All three kids are heading over to granmas on Friday and comin back on Sunday, so we have the entire weekend to ourselves! Now, the last time he wanted to spend the weekend together it was to save the deteriorating relationship we had. He had gotten caught cheating, so now I'm suspicious about the reason for this weekend together. Am I thinking negatively or do I haveevery reason tho be suspicious and paranoid??
Maybe he just wants a weekend with you... no kids... OMG what I wouldn't give for a weekend like that with my man!
There's trust issues with you because of something he did in the past. Honestly, I have zero tolerance for cheating. It just doesn't fly with me. There also seems to be lack of communication. If you suspect he is cheating... ASK.
All you have to do is ask.
Ask him why he wants to have the entire weekend to yourselves?
Because the last time, he was caught cheating.
I guess the point is, if someone is wondering something... why not just ask the person.
Ask him. He's the only one who can answer your question.
Maybe he's looking to prevent a repeat of the past by treating your marriage with new passion and fun?
Buy a new nightie and some sexy underwear.
I am hoping that he just wants to get laid....LOTS and by YOU, this weekend...NO other agenda.
Give him the benefit of the doubt and try to enjoy the weekend. Sometimes a man can be romantic for no reason just to show appreciate or show you how special you are and that maybe he realized his mistake and does not want to take you for granted. If you ask him before hand he might get offended and it may spoil the weekend if you were wrong. So I would go with the flow enjoy it and let your guard down. Rekindle the romance and try not to focus on the negative. After all sometimes a man wants to be romantic because it is a plus for him too lol!
I believe you are thinking negatively and thinking negatively just fuels negativity.
Whay can't you be positive and appreciate the fact that he wants to spend special alone time with you without throwing in the past and all the negativity.
Believe me.... if you are feeling negatively...you project negativity and he WILL pick up on that.
Put your past in the past, and COMMUNICATE and enjoy some special time with your husband.
Since you stayed with him and forgave him, IF he's not given you a reason after his affair, then I would go and have a good time.
What I might suggest ahead of time is to let him know how you are feeling and if he's going to deliver some bad news, do it before the weekend.
Blessings.......
Is there any other suspicious behavior going on, or is it just raw from a past experience? If he has been acting suspiciously (which sounds like he has from your last post), I would be a little paranoid myself. But for now, keep your communication open and calm and try and enjoy yourself. It's good for a marriage to rekindle, even for healthy ones. If something is up again, then I truly hope you get some marriage counseling and a safe place to stay!
I would probably be suspicious as well and just flat out ask him or better still approach it as 'you know last time we did this....' and see where it takes you. I would do it once you got there where there are not distractions (aka kids) and you both can focus on one another.
It could be that he just wants to draw closer to you and honestly just wants/needs time away with you. Try & relax, which I know is hard to do given the reason for your last getaway but it could be nothing. Do like was suggested by someone, get something sexy, some wine, cheese, candles & try & relax.
Just relax and enjoy your time with him. It takes time and time alone to make a marriage work. If he wants to be with you for a reason it could be just so you can be naked together without interruptions like kids asking for their allowance.
Yes you have every right to be suspicious, but don't let that ruin your weekend! Wait until Friday, see if he brings anything up. Maybe he does have something he needs to tell you and wether it is good or bad, he wants to make sure he does it right. If he doesn't say anything, just ask what prompted the weekend alone- but wait until Saturday.
If by Sat AM he still says he just wanted to be with you, then spend the next day and half loving every minute of it WITHOUT judgement or worry!!
Hope it turns out to be a WONDERFUL weekend!!
I agree with the rest, I think if you are wondering you need to ask! he is your husband afterall you should be able to talk to him !
But I also wanted to point out that negative thinking draws negative thinns toward you, and i think you need to get excited about a weekend alone with your man and no kids! relax and have fun!
If it were me, I'd be suspicious too! But try and keep an open mind and hear and watch his reasons when you ask him. That is what I would do. Also, remember to take care of yourself and honor your needs too! Mom's sometimes forget they have feelings and needs as well. blessings!
You have reason but you are also thinking negatively. It depends on how he acted when he asked you to go. Was he suspicious or was he genuine? how have you been getting along lately? If it were me, I would ask him straight out if he has done something wrong. ;o)
Don't focus on what could he have done, focus on your time together. I would love a weekend with my husband, it just isn't going to happen. My 8 year old is super close to me and wouldn't go to grandmas for the weekend, he would barely do it for a night. Buy yourself something sexy, a bottle of wine, candles, plan some nice meals together that you wouldn't eat with kids and ENJOY!
