My Father-in-law

Your husband has already done the right thing by breaking all ties with these people. They sound horrible and I were you, I wouldn't spend one more second letting them intrude on your happy marriage! Don't give them any power over you or your child... heaven forbid that that poor little baby would learn anything from these cold, selfish people. Be done with them, move out of the neighborhood and live the best you life can... forgive them for being rude, inconsiderate and pray that God blesses them with an epiphany b/c you can't save them or help them! Then, teach your beautiful children what a true family is... and cherish the love you have with your husband.

A.,
I am sorry to hear about the distressing situation with your extended family. When two marry, their families come along as part of the package. Ideally, you would hope this to be a positive addition to your life, but unfortunately, sometimes in-laws can be trying.
There are many types of people with varying personalities and quirks. Thankfully, you are not responsible for their choices and attitudes in life. They are adults, so their behavior is theirs to own. The way they are acting is about them--not you! Usually, when people behave as such, it is because they are unhappy or unsatisfied in some way. It is very sad. So, more than feeling angry or taking it personally, feel for their pain. DO NOT let them affect your family in a negative way though! Stay true to yourself and what you believe for your family while trying to offer kindness to them. If they do not accept it, at least you tried. You should try to keep the doors open, so your children can have a chance to have relationships with them, but try to supervise and do not tolerate any poor behavior toward your family. At the same time, while doing this, try not to give them too much energy. Use that energy towards something more positive and rewarding. Though I'm not an expert on family relationships, I hope my words helped some. Take care.

Sorry to hear about your problem. I myself have never been in that position but I have had friends that have. Although you have been treated wrong and even pointed out the things to them, you have done all you can do. Its time for you to enjoy your family and not worry about them anymore. That is their problem. Your husband is right to cut everyone out of yall's lives. Even though you may want your kids to have grandparents and be accepted by the family, it just probably wont happen. Dont dwell on this. Have lots of love in your house with who you have and Im sure your kids wont even notice who is in their lives and who is not.

Good Luck and Best Wishes

I have a similar problem with my husband's mother. She has always be rude to me, she will be nice to my face and then talk about me behind my back. She had said for the longest time I can't wait till I have grandbabies in the same city as me... well as soon as we had the twins she moved and we basically haven't heard a word from her. I send pictures to her as frequently as I send them to my family and I NEVER get a response. I have learned that you can only do so much. I am assuming that your husband's ex has full time custody of the 3yr old step son. All I can suggest is that when your step son does come over make an effort to have the father-in-law come over to visit with him too and maybe that will be a way of letting him know you aren't keeping him from the child. I think it's sad and I have sympathy for you... it's not easy having in laws that claim they want to be a part of your childs life but aren't and never will be. I have a very close knit family and they see my children every chance they get and my husbands dad see them as much as they can too, but his mom not a single strong effort to spend quality time with them. They don't know who she is and it's her fault. I hope this has given you some comfort in that that's who he (your father-in-law) is and you can't change it. Good Luck!

I don't think they are worth even thinking about anymore. having your immediate family be close and happy is what is important. Your kids and step kids are to be loved by you and everyone else is secondary. I would personally move farther away, you don't need that kind of treatment. You can respond back saying that you would never dream of keeping their grandson from them and you have nothing to do with that situation. You say that your door is open, but leave the rest up to them.