Girl down here in Texas within minutes, we have asked so many questions, we would know all about her people, What she did for a living, where she grew up, all about her relationship with my father.. About her divorce.
You just get in there, by sitting next to her and just talk..
"I hate that you are sitting here all alone. Tell me what is your family doing today? Oh you have children? Where do they live? Do YOU have grandchildren too? " "What is Santa giving them for Christmas?"
"Did you make this cake? what is it called? I love the texture, do you enjoy baking?"
You get the idea..
My dad sounds a bit like yours.. for a while every time we saw him, he had a new lady friend with him.. Sometimes, the same one for a few years. usually he lived with them or would marry them.. Finally he just told me.." I enjoy these different ladies, but I have decided, I am never getting married again.."
FINALLY.. he grew up.. At about 62.. He went to AA and got his life together. Still had some really nice lady friends. Usually way younger than himself. One of our favorites, is actually younger than my younger sister.
This woman is now my stepmother. We love her so much. My father told me, "I have asked her to marry me, because I want to take care of her and make her happy.". I said, "Amen, you finally, understand!"
It all boils down to , have you done enough to get her to participate? If you have then, it is on her. and I would quit worrying about her being there. It may be that your father just likes her hanging around. Many men HATE being alone..
Even with their children there, they like having a woman close by..