H.S.
Thank god for that! Thank you for nor raising robots, but actual people with some self worth . Unlike so many parents these days :)
My kids talk back too, I laugh loudly if they are being ridiculous.
Always ask your self : Is it important ? Before you give them some instruction. works for me.
As for your young teen... give give her the chores and responsibilities expected of a 14 year old... you know, clean the car, wash the bathroom, cook dinner, baby sit, get her up extra early, to start a load of laundry. explain she acts like hana montana, but is not a millionaire.
happy mommy journey.