I feel terrible. They live far from us (we are in MN, he is in GA). They have 3 kids and have been married for 14 years. He is a teacher, she works for the CDC and has a good postion (makes over $90,000). It's a mutual decision, but I'm worried about him. He's a fantastic Dad, I'm worried about him not sticking up for himself during the "split" of their stuff. I think she's going to stay in the house, he is moving out...
What kind of support can I offer from here? (we have 3 kids and I can't really travel to see them) What kind of advice should I offer (if any)? Is there anything he should for sure be thinking about? I know they are each seeing a counselor, as well as seeing one together to work through details. I don't know about lawyers at this point.
Thanks for your help.
J.
You can't fix it for him no matter how much you want to.
Just encourage him to continue to be a great dad despite all the weirdness that will probably transpire.
Just be there to listen when he needs an ear. He is going to need someone to listen to him with his feelings. Be supportive and listen. He will probably need more of an ear than advice.
Just give him encouragement! Encourage him to stand up and fight for his rights as a Dad, and keep him engaged with his kids, and just keep reminding him that they need him every day. I think too many times the poor dads get set aside and it is SO important for him and them to remain tight on a daily basis.
Just offer an "I love you."
Don't take sides...there are children involved.
I agree with the previous post - be careful not to jump to giving advice - this may be unwanted and bothersome....sometimes giving advice in a time like this comes off as insensitive. Be a good listener and judge what he needs from you.
how about encouraging him to 'make things right'........otherwise just lend him an ear
Tell him that you love him and if he needs information or wants to find out how other fathers got a fair shake with their custody arrangements, visit deltabravo.net.
