My Baby Is Doing Nasty Things Is This Normal?

He is most likely becoming more aware of that part of his body which I guess is normal. I would sit him down and see if he can tell you why he is doing these things, just after he does them. I would explain that his private parts are private, that if he wants to 'study' them that he should do it in the privacy of his bath or bed. Touching your breasts are not acceptable, they are YOUR private parts. Kissing he sees on TV is more make believe than anything else and is NOT appropriate for kissing his mom. Show him what a mom kiss is.

But, try to have these talks when you 'catch' him in the act. Find out if he has any questions about his privates and then answer them as best you can as is appropriate for a 4 yr old. It is most likely just a new found awareness and you and your hubby will need to explain appropriate behavior with that awareness. Do be sure to not make it 'bad' behavior, just a matter of when and where that is appropriate. Good luck! D.

Please do not use the word "Nasty" to your child.. Instead use the words, inappropriate or not appropriate. Your child is too young to be considered "Nasty".

Redirect his behavior. Let him know that" it is not appropriate to touch a woman's breast". "Breast are for Babies to drink milk from" and he i"s now a big boy".

When he tries to rub up against you, just tell him, "I do not like it when you rub up against me." "You may give me hugs instead". Then show him how to hug appropriately.

It's not nasty -it's normal! All he knows at his age is "If it feels good, I'll do it!" We explain to ours that there are private areas, and if you want to touch them, you should go in the bathroom or your bedroom. At age 4, you can tell him that your boobs are part of a private area on mommy and other ladies. My 4 year old has long had a fascination with breasts! For the last two years we've had to remind him that breasts are a private area because he loves to grab them! It's just natural and normal curiosity. All kids are different, so your other children may have exhibited this in different ways.

Yes, this is normal. Please don't worry or make a big deal.

That isn't nasty. It just feels good and he makes no identification with sex. Do your best to ignore it or gently walk away when you are uncomfortable. I would not make a big deal or even mention it. He will outgrow it soon enough. In fact, soon enough he will be a hormonal teenager that thinks his mother doesn't know what sex is, and that the thought of "Mom" and "Sex" in the same sentence is disgusting.

This is not that out of the ordinary, some kids just figure this stuff out. You need to just correct the behavior very directly. Tell him that touching any girls or women in private areas (breasts, etc.) is not ok! When he rubs up against you tell him it is inappropriate. Just stay consistent. You do not want him growing up thinking this is ok, be stern. I don't think at 4 he needs a specialists for something like this. If you are still having problems, talk to you pediatrician about it, he/she can direct you.

Good luck

You know, we become what we expose ourselves to as adults. Children are like sponges. You probably already know this since you have 7 children. They are curious. They want to explore. But the boundaries of exploration need to be established and reinforced.
My question to you is, have you considered who his influences are (older siblings, schoolmates)? Who takes care of the kids when you guys want to go out? What kind of television shows are ALL of your children allowed to watch? You mentioned he kisses "like the kissing in tv". Consider this. There are ALOT of sexual innuendos in Disney/Nickelodeon shows. We (as adults) have become too desensitized to things and forget the impact images can have on our children.
Finally, remember that even though he is a child right now, he will one day become someone's boyfriend, husband, father, or uncle. What you allow today will influence the behavior he feels is appropriate when he becomes an adult. I hope this helps you in deciding how to proceed.

While this behavior is normal, that does not mean that it is appropriate. The good news is that this can be easily remedied.

Given how you described the issue, I'm going to guess that you probably have a rather dramatic reaction when he does these things (yes, I'd be caught of guard too). If you are saying things to him like gross, nasty, and acting all surprised and freaked out then he may be doing these things to get your attention. If you're giving him a big reaction - he's getting attention from you.

Calmly and plainly state to him that his actions are not appropriate. If he wants to touch himself, he must do so in his own bedroom. If he tries to open-mouth kiss you or touch you inappropriately, stop him and let him know "this is inappropriate".