My Baby

I have 3 they all did that at 5:00pm. They were great babies but at 5:00 they just cried and unless I held them they screamed. We held them and they were happy. The strange thing is they are now 11,10 and 5 years old and around 5:00 they all still get crabby.
Good Luck and hold them while you can, they grow up so fast.
J.

He's 2 months old. He wants and NEEDS his mama's closeness. My advice, enjoy it now. You cannot spoil a 2 month old. They are an infant and you should oblige him. It doesn't last all that long, so this phase will be gone in a flash. Even now, my 14 month old is nursed and then briefly held in my arms while I rock him, before I lay him down for the night. We have no screaming, no tears. It's a peaceful bedtime routine. I lay him down, he just looks up at me with his sleepy eyes, I cover him up and leave the room, and that's the end of it. So just enjoy the closeness for now.

You cant spoil an infant. In fact, if you try to 'break' this habit, you will actually be harming his emotional growth. Just hold him...they grow so fast and I am sure, and one day you'll wish he'd want you to hold him :)

J.,

Just hold your baby! They grow so fast. He probably knows he wants to go to sleep, but wants the security of being close to someone. I encourage you to snuggle, cuddle, and rock him until he feels better.

Read www.askdrsears.com for more baby ideas.

Best wishes,
K.

I had a baby that wanted to be held all the time, I did it. I know some may not agree, but sometimes I think they just need that comfort of being close to mommy. For my child, it didnt last long, she eventually got past it, and was content being in the chair or laying in the bassinet. My son was different, he had torticolis when he was born and didnt want to be held, because it hurt him, but about 4 months old, the torticolis was gone and then he wanted to be held. Once again I did it, to make up for the loss of not being able to cuddle with him as a newborn. If its not possible to hold the baby, its ok to let them cry. Nothing ever happen to a baby for crying a little. Good luck to you

There's a sweet, simple, short and absolutely *amazing* DVD that came out recently that helps us understand the 5 different sounds/cries that all newborns make (all over the world, every newborn makes these 5 sounds) - Dunstan Baby Language:
http://www2.oprah.com/tows/slide/200611/20061113/slide_20...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunstan_Baby_Language

You can check out the DVD (for free) at the Cincinnati Public Library: http://catalog.cincinnatilibrary.org/uhtbin/ckey/1680633

I only *wish* I'd had this for my kids when they were born... it really does work, and it helps us (the parents) meet the needs of our babies best, because they're actually *telling us* what they need if we know what to listen for!

Also, doctors are now finding that the term "colic" is frequently just a misdiagnosis of an allergy (usually to cow's milk and/or soy) in the infant (whether getting breastmilk or formula - if breastmilk, the mom would need to remove all cow's milk products, if formula fed, a switch to hypoallergenic formula would be needed) - here's a short but *very* informative article that explains it more by a pediatrician who is an expert on colic:
http://www.wondertime.go.com/learning/article/interview-c...

Last, but not least, if he wants it (if it's a "want" at that age, it's actually a "need"!), do hold him as much as he asks. Babies are in our bodies for 9 months, and switching from that warm, cozy womb to the cold, huge outside world is a gigantic transition. A good baby carrier that keeps babies close and comfy, like a sling or wrap or soft structured baby carrier, is a *must-have*! A sling or wrap or soft structured carrier is typically a much, much better investment (same price or cheaper than a baby bjorn carrier) as they're more comfy and healthier for both baby and mom - here's a site that explains the different types of carriers:
http://peppermint.com/anatomy.html

These carriers are typically *not* available at big stores like Babies R Us, etc. Your best bet is to hook up with a group of moms who share a hobby of trying/using babycarriers and see what you like from what they're wearing, then order your favorite carrier online. There's a free, non-profit group of babywearing parents in town and they meet at least 1x a month, if not more often - they're super helpful, nice, and can help you find something that's really comfy for you and your little son:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/cincinnatiNINO/

Congratulations on becoming a mother for the 3rd time to your sweet baby son!

Many babies are like this and it doesn't sound like colic to me. Babies, children and even some adults will get grumpy/irritable at certain times of the day no matter what. With babies it seems to happen in the evenings. Sometimes it's because they're hungry & sometimes it's just because they want to be held. You *can not* spoil a 1 month old. They need you.

I understand it might hard to hold your baby with two other children...Maybe a sling would help a little. I never used one, but I've heard they work wonders.

In any case, he won't do it forever & I hope you find a way to make it work.

My son did the same thing for 2 hours every night. He even kept crying when we held him. I felt helpless and frustrated at not being able to console him. "The Happiest Baby On The Block" technique worked really well, especially for bedtime, (he was sleeping through the night by about 3 months) but I also think he just grew out of it. Hang in there, it will pass!

My daughter is 3 months old and everynight around 9:00 she goes through the same thing and pretty much I stand with her either rocking her or walking with her. Usually babies will have a fussy period in the evenings whether it is colic or not my daughter will calm down after an hour or so.

About the only thing to do is hold them, and rock them to sleep. Sometimes I think babies need a way to wear themselves out since they sleep all the time. With time this will pass I am sure!! Good Luck!!!

Read Dr. Harvey Karp's "The Happiest Baby on the Block". In short, he recommends the 5-S technique for soothing your child: Swaddle the baby, hold in a Side-lying position, Swing, Shush (yes. say shhhhhh really loudly but at least 6 inches away from the ear - it's similar to the sounds heard prenatally in the womb), and suck (pacifier, fingers, etc). The combination of these techniques apparently recreates the womblike atmosphere for your baby, which helps to calm the baby. The book is an easy read and the paperback version is $7.

My baby was colicky for 3 months and these techniques were vital to the preservation of my sanity.

Hello J.. That sounds really ruff, yes babies are only babies for a little time, but I understand that you have two older children to spend time with and to bath and get to bed, and all that other Mom stuff.
I would try a swing or bouncey seat. Since he is only 2 months old there could be a bunch of reasons why. Just to name a few; he could be gassy, tired, hungry, bored, lonely. Also, I would try having the 8 y/o hold the baby while u spend time with the 2 y/o, that might help with your stress AND it will creat a life long bond between the 2 boys. Best of luck!

if u work and when u get home ur child crys till hes held...think u got a hip baby. One thats being held all day and glued to the hip....huge thing to break..i'll only get worst.

If there is no one watching the baby and ur not holding this child non stop and hes crying in the evenings sounds like colic...thats a horriabe thing we faced with my daughter till she was about 13 months. I dreaded the evenings. The dr told me to give her 1/4 teaspoon of childrens milanta. It was the only thing that would do any good.

It'd say its one of the two.
good luck and if ur really concerned see a dr.
take care
R.

something that helps me to get things done and still hold my baby is to use a sling or wear my baby. that way he's still close to me, and i can have my hands free to get things done. www.thebabywearer.com has good info.

That sounds like colic. Don't know if you ever had to go through it with your other two, but it isn't fun. Most internet sources, books, etc. will tell you that a colicky baby will stop the evening fussing around 12 weeks or so, which looks like you've got a few more weeks to tough out all the crying. There is a ton of advice out there about what to do to get your baby to stop crying. Unfortunately, you'll have to go through them to see what works for your son. What worked for me was walking/bouncing my son.

Hi J.:
Absolutely -- hold that little guy. He needs you! The other thing you might consider is that a lot of babies get fussy around that time of night partly because they've been overstimulated throughout the day. Studies show that babies don't have a filter that can block out all the new things they see and hear every day. Think of like this: if you've had a crazy, stressed out day and when you lay down in bed, the wheels just don't stop spinning and you can't sleep. Frustrating, right? It sounds like you've got quite a busy household with your other kids running around, but you might try keeping the television at a low volume or trying to keep your baby away from the loud, rowdy play of your other boys in the afternoon (easier said than done, I'm sure!). Good luck...