My Almost 4-Yr-old Still Has BM While in Bed

try to stop giving drinks after 6pm sounds harsh to some but it trains the blatter to empty before bedtime with out the pressure during the night and also get him in the habit of going straight to the potty apon waking up.

I feel for you and your dear son, because I understand much of what you are going through after raising 5 children and helping raise 2 grandchildren!

If I were you, I would first take your child to the doctor. Likely, there is nothing to be concerned about here. If there is a medical problem the doctor will advice you there.
However, not only would I discuss my concerns about my child, I would also discuss my husband’s reactions to all this with the doctor.

Many people- especially men, seem to take it hard when a child does not adjust to using the potty in what some consider a timely manner. I know my little grandson I care for now took longer on the #2 part. In fact, he may have been 4 yrs old before he was completely potty trained. It is frustrating for sure, but it is something we need to deal with as adults. It just takes some little ones longer for one reason or another. It might be a physical thing or a mental thing. Regardless of what it is, if a parent is agonizing over it, the child feels that and reacts to it, likely agonizing themselves, and likely taking a longer time to get past the problem.

Please don’t be offended, but to me, your husband needs to just get over it! He is the adult. He needs to understand that this problem does not reflect on his or your son’s manhood (maybe he doesn’t feel it does, but I know a lot of men do!) Your husband needs to realize how his reactions are affecting your child.

I honestly feel that the sooner everyone calms down, the sooner your child will be ready to make the final steps in potty training.

PS Even after a child is completely potty trained, keep in mind that there is always the possibility of an occasional accident! It happens…

Consult a doctor to rule out a medical reason for this happening.

I suggest you take him to the Dr. There might be a medical reason as to why this is now occurring....

Just like people say "Don't give you little one fluids before going to bed because they may wet the bed", maybe you should try stopping all food and drinks atleast one hour before bed time and nap time. Let your little man sit on the potty for 10 minutes or however long you feel is best before he goes down for a nap or bedtime. He may say he doesn't need to go but you never know, sometimes the feel of the rim on their bottom makes things happen.

I am sure this is very frustrating to you but it'll work itself out. Make you can even make up a story about a "potty fairy" or Superhero in this case and tell him everytime he doesn't go poo poo in his bed, the fairy, oops I mean Superhero will leave a special note for him.

Good luck!

S.
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Be patient, he will out grow this. Maybe stop liquids a couple hours before bedtime. Maybe you can wake him in the night and bring him to the bathroom.

Dear A.. Every child is different. It sounds like he is past the time when he should have been potty trained. Therefore he has become comfortable going where he thinks he should go. His potty pants. I would bring his dinner time back to a earlier hour. It takes about 3 to 5 hours for a bowel movement to move through the system. I would watch the kinds of food he eats, and begin a rewards at the pot program.
He simply needs remedial weaning from his diaper. But try not to be too heavy handed. At four he is old enough to have
negative memories from too stringent a program.

Don't worry about it so much. Put him in a pull-up at night. My boys were just over 4 before they even STARTED doing BM's in the toilet. My husband used to get so frustrated by this, but like I told him, give them time, and time was what it took! He may just be a heavy sleeper. If it makes you feel better call your Dr to see if he thinks its a concern, but I think it may just take some time. Good luck!

My second child didn't like to have bowel movements in the potty. I used Fleet Glycerine Suppositories a few times so that she would experience "success" on the potty. We then made a HUGE deal out of her going on the potty. I used the suppositories just before nap time when she would normally have gone during nap time. I did not do it very many times because I didn't want to make her dependent upon them. It worked with my third child, too. Many children need quiet and calm before they will go.

My son when through the same thing during the day. I started giving him m&m's everytime he would go to the potty. It work with him getting him potty trained. He still wets the bed at night sometimes I put pullups on him at night. But we are working on that. But as far as him poop while he is asleep you might want to take him to a doctor to see if their is any medical problem. If not it maybe that he is a sound sleeper. But sometimes it takes long for boys to stop wetting the bed than girls. You can try taking him to the potty before he goes to bed. Sometimes my son goes to the potty before he goes to bed and he don't wet the bed sometimes and sometimes he does. Try that and see if he is still wetting and poop at night.

Hello u two.
This can be very difficult time. One of our 3 sons was 5 and starting kindergarden before he was completely potty trained. This is the advise I was given and it worked but check with your doctor first.

To begin with I got him an watch with an alarm I set it each time he went to the bathroom for two hours later. That helped him know it was time to use the bathroom. I gave sticker incentive for potty use. The BM at night was a little harder. I starting increasing our sons fiber earlier in the day. I also moved dinner up an hour. This got things going before he went to bed. Apple juice with dinner, Raisins and grapes with dinner. Things like that . It took me a while to realize he really need more time between dinner and bed to get his system moving. I also got rid of a bed time snack (it was a bad idea anyway.

These things helped but let your doctor know what is going on! Some times it has medical reasons for happening. Some kids dont like doing it in the bathroom. So it may be that he is holding it in till his body relaxes.

My bigest peice of advise is to get rid of the pull ups. I think they confuse kids and extend potty training.

Good luck this can be really hard on all of you.

Hope this helps!
M.