My littlest one is 5 and of course my only son, but i am having such a problem, he wets the bed at night so okay here goes diapers ugh. My husband thinks he should get punished for that i dont think so, i wouldnt allow that. So what should i do? Is it because he is not circumsized and he might have a uti? Or be sacred of the dark? I already tried leaving a potty near his bed no help there.
No I am and wont shame him at all, its not his fault, plus I have gotten in some arguments with the husband for defending my son. I will always defend my kids. I actually wet the bed a few times around 6 yrs old, plus my brother had issues so I think you guys are very right about genetics..
Please don't punish him....and no, it doesn't happen because he's uncircumcised. His body is just not able to stay dry at night yet. My 4 year old has never woken up dry, but my 2 year old stays dry all night and has for 6 months - every child is different.
Just be patient. Maybe get him overnight pull-ups so if he does wake up to pee he can do so more easily. And don't make a big deal about it, shaming him won't do any good.
If you go to www.pottytrainingsolutions.com they have some awesome solutions, including a thing you put in their underwear, when they start to pee it will set off an alarm that's close to their ear and wake them up. There's also a watch that does the same thing.
OR, you can start waking him up an hour after he goes to sleep, and again an hour before he starts waking up to teach him to get up and pee.
Good luck!!!
no. i wouldn't punish him. i'd talk w/your doc. i assume he's wearing those diapers that tell him when he's wet. maybe he just a heavy sleeper. i assume you already have cut fluids and made sure he pees before sleep : )
It's got nothing to do with training.
Night training has to do with bladder maturity.
Punishing him will do nothing. Short of getting him up every couple of hrs (which gets old FAST) you just have to wait till he stays dry.
My son just turned 6 in October and he still has to wear pull ups at night.
My son just in the last couple of weeks started to stay dry at night. Up until that point he was in a pull up at night. He turned six in August.
Find someone who can integrate his Spinal Galant and Spinal Pereze reflexes. Research them and find out more. It is through simple exercises that this can be overcome in a few days to weeks.
Is this something new? If so then I suggest there could be a medical or psychological reason for it. If he's just not yet night trained, this is common at this age and I wouldn't be concerned.
It might help to take your husband and your son to the doctor. The doctor can check to be sure there isn't a medical reason for this and then educate your husband. You having to defend your son is stressful to your whole family and could be a factor in your son continuing to wet during the night. It adds a psychological component, i.e. stress, to the issue.
If your son's Ph is off, then the sphincter muscles relax when he is sleeping, and urination occurs w/o him knowing it.
So punishing someonoe for having PH off doesn't fix it- correcting that does.
Anyway, I understand your husband's frustration, but here is a different solution.
NO sugar, soda pop for starters, and see WestonPrice for proper nutrition so his PH normalizes. If that is the problem, that will be the solution.
best, k
it sounds like he is just a very hard sleeper. He may just not be able to help it at all, which would be really unfair to punish him about. just invest in some plastic sheets or some pull-ups. Its really pretty common for kids to wet the bed up to 6 or so. Did anyone in yours or your husbands family wet the bed? its actually genetic. Lots of kids are long term bed wetter because of genetics.
I wet the bed well into my kindergarten (and maybe 1st grade??) year. My nephew also had a problem with it. I don't know what my brother's family eventually did for my nephew. But I remember my ordeal well. I had to come home early from my first "slumber party" because I was afraid I would have an accident and end up humiliated. For me, I was a very hard sleeper. I remember having dreams that I was in the bathroom when I wasn't, thus wetting the bed. The thing that finally helped me was a sensor that went between the sheet and mattress or mattress pad that would alarm when it got wet and wake me up. I don't know if they still have those,and i don't remember what we tried before that.
I do remember being really upset about the problem and wanting desperately to not have it any more. I'm sure there are lots of things that could contribute to bed wetting problems, so definitely talk to your pediatrician. But I agree that punishment likely won't help. For me, I was already so embarrassed and upset about it. I can't even imagine how much worse it would be to get in trouble, and I'm sure your son probably is further upset if he knows it is a matter of argument or disagreement among his parents.
I don't know what the problem is for your son and I don't know what the best solution for him will be. But feel free to show your husband my response if you like. We all do our best to try to provide the most constructive and effective parenting we can. And in some situations punishment is absolutely warrented. But I personally don't think this is one of them. I am 37 years old and I remember very well how difficult my bed wetting was for me as a young child. My advice is to support him and help him feel good about himself, that this will pass and you are going to work as a family to make it as easy for him as possible. It may take a while and several attempted solutions. But he will get through it, just like all the other milestones in growing up.
I don't know whether diapers are necessary or not, depending on how often it happens. But I'm sure changing and washing bedsheets is a giant pain and time consuming. Talk to his doctor and try to act like this is no big deal, so he doesn't get any more upset about it. Best of Luck!
