My 3 Year Old Won't Use the Potty!!!!!!

Then it's just not time yet. Since she is at home she doesn't see other kids going and just isn't getting the idea yet. Let her wait until Spring and then go whole hearted, no undies, dresses and running around with little under it. It will be warmer then and kids just tend to start well in the Spring when starting potty training.

She is not ready, put it away for a while. my son all of a sudded just "got it" about 3 months after he turned 4 and about 4 or 5 months after I stopped trying ... just drop it it will come. You can look up some potty training posts on the search or you can check my posted questions, but the answer will pretty much be along the same lines ... not ready stop pushing and take a break.

It's possible your daughter was not ready on some level, either physically (deliberate sphincter control and recognizing sensations in time), or emotionally (willing and eager to become more grown up and independent). Here's a wonderful, informative website you might find helpful. It gives a few variations on"readiness" checklists, plus tips on various training strategies, the best ages to start them, and the advantages and disadvantages of each approach: http://www.parentingscience.com/potty-training-tips.html

Our daughter was early everything.. Walked unassisted at 6 months, talked in sentences at 12 months. She had a great vocabulary.. But she was not ready to potty train until she was almost 4. It was not because I did not try, but she just could not figure out the connection of the feeling on needing to go and being able to hold it to make it through getting to the bathroom, taking off her underpants and getting on tho the potty.

She was in daycare and seeing all of those little potties all lined up and watching the kids go to the potty, it finally clicked for her.. It only took her 2 days to be totally trained.

There is really not words in our vocabulary to explain exactly what your child should be feeling when she needs "to go". And how do we explain to "hold it"? Until she can figure this out (maturity) she will not be interested or able to go.

6 months is a long time to work on something.. Give it a break and let her lead the way. Each night as you get her ready for her bath, set her on the potty and then turn on the water to start the tub.. Maybe she will have some results every once in a while.

Hang in there. This is normal.

Has she ever gone several hours being dry, then been able to tell you she needs to use the potty, and successfully used the toilet? If not, then it doesn't sound like she's ready. Personally I would back off for several months, and then start again slowly. Children are all on their own time table. My first was 3 1/2 yrs, second was 18 months (potty trained with his big brother!), and my third is now 2 1/2 yrs and not even close (he loves to sit on the potty and pretend, but is scared to actually go for real). Give yourself a break and don't stress over it.

My daughter was easily trained. Daytime trained by the time she was 2. My son on the other hand was much more difficult to train. He wouldn't use the potty period. No matter what I did or promised him he still would go in his pants. Finally I stopped fighting with him and eventually when he was ready he started going all the time on the potty. I know how frustrating it is, just give her some time. Good luck!

She isn't ready. I'd suggest putting back back in diapers full time for another month or two and then trying again. If she bulks then give it more time. My middle son will be four next month and is just this month wearing underware during the day and doing it without anything but praise. It will happen. Don't push it.

She has to want this...and it doesn't sound like she does...yet. Give both of you a break and put her back in diapers until after the holidays are over. She'll get it when she's ready.

I agree, she's not ready. Wait a few months and try her again. I hated potty training! Instead of diapers now, you could switch to pull ups (essentially a diaper). It has a picture on the front that disappears when the child pees. You could start to get her familiar with it and when you are ready and put her on the potty Avery few hours, praise her when the picture is still on the pull up. Sme moms don't like pull ups but I had no problem with training I them. Although, when I was training my son, he kept using it as a diaper so I had to put him in regular underwear so he could feel what an 'accident' felt like. Well, he didn't like it at all and was upset about it. After 2 accidents like that, he was good. Once they learn that they can control the pee (my son stood there and would stop and start.thats when he really got it. Potty training is a pain but you eventually get through it. Right now I'm working on getting my son (who's 3 1/2 by the way), to wipe his butt good on his own.

She will get it and do it, when she is ready.

My son, was already 3, once 'he' was ready.
We did not force it or push it or lecture him or ploy him with things.
Once he was ready, he was ready... then HE was proud of himself.
Not because we gave him rewards or toys or M&M's for it.

Your child... ALSO is NOT ready... for just being in underwear.
It goes in stages.
She cannot control her impulses yet nor her bladder or bowels.
Underwear, does not 'make' a child potty trained.... especially if put in it, before they are even mastered at the potty or ready for being on the potty.

With both of my kids... I did not have them in underwear inside or outside of the house... UNTIL they were mastered at their biological impulses and KNEW their bodily cues... AND could hold it... at least a couple of minutes until, getting to the potty or toilet.
If you do these things TOO soon... you will sabotage, them.
Then they will think, they cannot do it right nor please Mommy.
Then they may not try at all.
And/or rebel about it.

Your child does not seem ready nor has the biological readiness... nor the timing... of her internal organs, ready yet. Hence, she has accidents.

Keep in mind... that night-time dryness... is a whole OTHER process and is totally SEPARATE from daytime pottying.
Night time dryness is a physiological maturing of the organs/brain/myelin nerve sheath and bladder/bowel development. Not that age of the child.
Night time dryness... is something that does NOT occur... until even 7 years old. And is NORMAL.
Until then, a night time diaper will still be needed for naps or bedtime.
My son is 5, potty trained by now, but at night and for naps, he still needs a night time diaper. He is still wet at those times.

My daughter did the same thing. We worked at it for a long time. She finally got the peeing part down but would hide on the play ground EVERY day at day care and poop in her pull up or underwear. They tried every day before they went out to play but she would not go. Then she would hide and go poop while everyone else was playing. Im not sure why but finally just one day she went all by herself in the bathroom and did it. She came out of the bathroom naked and was all excited. I had to follow her and she was so proud fo herself. Of course we made a really big deal about how she was a big girl now. It was just like she turned on a light switch and she just got it. She is now a few months over four but we still have problems at night. About 4 out of 7 days she will be wet so we still use pull ups at night. Hang in there she will get it. We did try a chart. Each time she would get a sticker.1 sticker for peeing and 2 for pooping. If she filled up a row she would get a small toy. If she filled up the whole page she got a bigger prize like going to the store and picking out a toy. The toys for the full line of stickers was just some small things I piced up at the dollar tree.