I have an 11 year old and a 2 year old. The older child never slept with me as a single mother, he always had his own bed, etc. The younger child has slept in our bed since he was 6 months old. Keep in mind, different cultures have different customs. I am white and my husband is Chinese. I had a hard time dealing with the idea of my child sleeping in my bed, in my culture that is unheard of, in his culture it is very common. I then did some research and have even noticed in my own family what I found was true. My parents never allowed us to sleep in their bed. My family and I do not have a very strong bond. On the other hand, my husbands family have all slept in their parents beds, etc. Their bond is incredible. Research has even proven that children who sleep in their parents beds have a stronger bond, will be more motivated in school work and will have all the skills necessary for employment and their future family. I am not saying that your children will not have these skills if they do not sleep in your bed. You are dealing with an attachment security issue. A solution, what I have done in my own home, I was not getting a good night rest, either, so I moved my younger son's bed and placed it next to ours. He sleeps in it and we all get a good nights rest. So before you "throw" your children out, its really about bonding and security. Make adjustments to your room to include them in and forget about what people say. My parents are furious my little guy sleeps in our room. All children will eventually want their "own" space. I hope this helps!