Mommy Needs Help in Baby's First Birthday 9/30/07

don't worry about not having too many kids there, as long as there is a lot of family and/or people she feels comfortable with, she will still be happy. And she'll be just as elated that all the fuss is about her!

I agree that the first birthday is for the adults. We invited the grandparents, and some other close relatives and our son had a wonderful time being the center of attention.

We thought of inviting the kids from daycare, but that would have meant all the babies, all their parents, and likely all their siblings. It wouldn't have been as much fun for our son and I would have been stuck playing hostess instead of enjoying my baby's birthday.

I personally think the 1st birthday is for adults. This was the case with my son's first Birthday as well. They don't really get it at that age, but it's nice to celebrate and have pictures. I had a brunch, and my guests were mainly adults. My theme was "Baby Einstein", and everyone enjoyed it. Don't stress yourself about not having kids at the party, just enjoy the day. Good luck.

L.,

No need to worry, my sons first birthday was 4 kids and 30 adults. Your daughter wont remeber it anyway. I was all excited about it too, and I did so much running around that I didnt even get to see or talk to family that came from another state. Now I wish i didnt go so all out about it....wont do it again.

Hi L.,

Yes, I agree with the other ladies here that the First Birthday is really an event for you more than for your baby.

I have photos of my girls digging their hands into their slice of birthday cake, and having the little party hat snugged to their chubby faces by that elastic string... They are too young to open gifts and appreciate the presents they receive.

All the people that love them will be there.That's what will matter most in years to come.

For my 2nd daughter's parties, I always let my older daughter (five years older) invite a friend or two, to make the party fun for her too. Maybe your 8 y/o could do the same.

These girl are right - the first birthday is for the adults - baby is just there to be doted on and to smash the cake, so do something you guys will enjoy and appreciate! Good Luck!

Hello,

I had the same dilema for when my son turned 1.I invited all my friends who knew my son or were a big part of his life. So they were all close friends. I had a pinata and party bags. I stuffed the party bags with elmo sticky notes- i thought this would be a useful "toy". I filled it with candy also. Everyone had a blast when it came time for the pinata the grown ups went for the candy too and they hit the pinata. They felt like little kids again. We all had a good time. I hope this helps.

M.

doesn't sound like you really have a problem. my daughter's 1st birthday party consisted of 1 child 1 yr older then her, and the rest were adults (there were 2 other kids w/in 1 yr of her age invited, but sick and couldn't show up). she had so much fun w/ the family members (and my brother's dog) that she didn't even pay attention to the kid her age (until everyone else left and it was just her and the boy lol). just take lots of pics for her later on to see. but she won't remember. good luck, just remember, usually...the 1st birthday and xmas, is all for the adults (we get more of a kick out of seeing the child's reactions, they really have no clue what's going on!) just remember how it was with your other 3 kids! good luck!

Hi, I'm very busy today -- but this caught my eye & I wanted to respond. I'm in a hurry;sorry if I sound short. My very first thought was .. she's only 1 she won't realize what's happening. I think children that age may not really know how to play w/other kids yet ... They have just as much fun having all the 'adult' attention to themself. (maybe moreso) I wouldn't worry about it.. you have 'family' & that's what counts! If you're worried about the family photo album.. when your daughter is old enough to ask.. she'll also be old enough to understand what a wonderful & loving Mom she has! If you really want other kids her age? If she's in daycare, this could be a good opportunity to get to know some of the other children (&Moms), invite them. If she's NOT in daycare.. maybe the daycare would allow a party? Or you could look into those "less fortuntate" areas/children ... mabye there is a way you can do something with that I don't really no .. just a thought. I am a firm believer in teaching children (when they're older of course) to 'give' .. take them to say the Cancer center or Homeless or Adoption places to share, learn to give-- maybe their old toys. But for now--you can call the Adoption center, possilby they have a party room (or should!) Well just some quick thoughts. Hope they help. Remember.. you have family.. that's more then most have.. embrace that on her special day.
PS: Remember this for the future .. when you'll look back & ask yourself "what was I thinking".. Your daughter has plenty more b'days to come.. next year.. when she's "2" & you have a bunch of 2 yr olds running around, screaming, crying, falling, breaking.. you'll remember last year (now) & sigh! Enjoy!!