Mom with One Child, Cannot Concieve Another.

I would definetly recommend an infertility clinic. We did for my 3 year old and 1 year old. They have better testing a tracking methods to determine what the issue is and plan the best method for you.

Good luck!
-P.

If thats what your doc recommended then I would do as suggested. But it also sounds like that you have a ton of stuff going on in your life. Stress is one thing that will definitely supress or delay the process of getting pregnant. Like any other time although you said you have never ovulated, timing is very important. So I would go and see what the specialist say, but I am sure that your overload is also playing a part in this. Hope this helps.

In my opinion, I would consult a specialist. We have had to use a specialist with both my pregnancy's and it was very enlightening to find out that the reason I really don't ovulate on my own happens to more women then realize it. In addition, he stated, there was actually a good chance due to having difficulty getting pregnant the first time to get pregnant on our own the 2nd time. This didn't happen in our case, but has happened for many. However, he also stated, he has seen couples who very easily got pregnant with the first have fertility issues with the second.

Hope that helps.
T.

One recommendation is to stop using the patch. I know a few women that died from clotting and other blood disorders. Go see another doctor. You may also like the book supernatural childbirth. I know it's helped encourage me. Good luck!

Hi C....So sorry to hear of your troubles conceiving. I always feel for women in this situation because I was there too. It took us 2 1/2 years to conceive my now 9 month old son. I also did the Clomid, 2 rounds of it. To no avail. The difference between your case and mine was that I was at least having regular periods. We have no idea why I couldn't conceive, because I was charting, faithfully, for 2 years. And we hit my ovulation every cycle. Those little buggers just weren't getting to the goal line! lol Eventually one did, though! How do you know you don't ovulate? Since you DO have issues with your wonky periods though, I would see a specialist. Good luck with everything, C.. Keep us updated!

If you trust your doctor I would follow his advice but I also agree that you seem to have alot going on and stress is a major factor is getting pregnant add to that not much alone time with hubby and that might be your problem.

I had my first child very young… I was only 17 (1994) when I had her. I had the implant put in my arm (5 year thing) then went on the shot for about a year. I went back to school in 2000… and figured when I was ready to graduate in 2002 I would have my second baby before finding my new job in my new field. But nothing happened… we tried for over a year “after the drugs were all out of my system” which was 6 months. So in all we tried for almost a year and a half… I did go to my doctor - no period means no baby. I’ve never had a regular one. The doctor ran test to check my hormones and see if I had gone through mentapaulse (guess you can do that as young as 23), but all that checked out ok. I was sent to two fertility clinics to be checked out… both of them did ultrasounds on my ovaries and found cists around my ovaries that made a hard shell around them – those making the passing of an egg nearly impossible. I was told I could take meds to dissolve the cists, but that it would take a lot out of me and I might not be able to get out of bed on bad days. I’m the only income for the house… my want of another child didn’t out weigh the need to care for the one I had. I was also told that I was lucky I had her so young because I’d probably never would have had her if I had waited.

In July 2003 we bought our starter home, after thinking for nearly 2 years there was no way… we found out a week after closing that I was expecting. My girls are 10 years apart… baby girl looks up to her big sister and my oldest even though she wanted me to “send it back” – she can’t see life with out her or their brother now.

Now here we are in 2007 and expecting #4 in June… I have a 12 year old girl, soon to be 3 years old girl and a 1 ½ year old little boy. All the test in the world can be ran, some things can be helped and some can’t… I love all my kids, they are all special. I wouldn’t give one up in a million years and I have been blessed with 5 loves in my life, but I wouldn’t have known my last 3 loves – I would have been happy with #1 and #2. If and when you are suppose to have your 3rd love enter your life it will, till then cherish #1 (your hubby) and #2 (your girl).

Only your heart can tell you where to go from here… fallow it. But don’t loose site of the family you have for the one you want.

Please take care!!! And try not to work your life away, it goes by so fast.

C.,

Understand that I do not mean this unkindly: you are already HUGELY busy. You work full time AND work a side job AND take on-line classes, so who is raising the child you already have? Have you noticed the planet is already overpopulated? My sister-in-law would give her right arm to have a baby of her own--after 3 miscarriages in the end of the first trimester, she and her husband have adopted a boy. The adoption process was so long and expensive (and they are BOTH doctors) they doubt they will have a second child. Maybe you should give up on the extreme measures, continue with your very busy life, and cherish the one child you were blessed to get and raise her to the best of your abilities. You know, count your blessing and don't send your daughter the message that she wasn't somehow good enough so you had to try again.

Just a thought.
K. }{

C.,
I too had many problems but I must say when I stopped worrying and stopped living only for the thought of conceiving another child, that is when my second child happened. My girls are 5 years apart. I wonder if you aren't feeling so much pressure and not being able to relax enough. My doctor sent me home and said if you aren't pregnant in a year then come back. I think you are young enough to wait before jumping into a fertility doctor situation.

Hi C.. I too had secondary infertility problems after having my son. There are many reasons for this problem. Mine turned out to be insulin resistance. It can really mess with fertility. Unfortunately I did not find this out until after 9 years of trying to conceive. But I am happy to say that I finally have a second child so don't give up. I would at least consult a fertility specialist if that is what your doctor has suggested. They can run a full panel of tests and maybe find something you ob/gyn missed. Also if you haven't already, have your husband checked too. Their fertility can change after time and the test is quite less invasive and much less expensive than the ones they put women through.

I wish you luck and if you ever want to you can email me with questions. My email is ____@____.com

C.

Hi,

I will be 36 in March and have a 2 yr old daughter that was concieved through in-vitro. Never was able to figure out why we couldn't concieve on our own, but tried everything...clomid, fertility drugs and 4 artificial inseminations - nothing worked. Have you ever looked into accupuncture with meds? I never knew about it when I was trying, but someone I know got pregnant this way. It might be worth a try and is way cheaper than in-vitro. If you decide to see a specialist I would highly reccommend Dr. James Goldfarb at the Beachwood Cleveland Clinic. He is an expert in his field and a very nice man. Did you have any problems with your first?

Good Luck,
L.

We had the same exact problem and I was also on the Patch after my first child. I say go to the fertility dr. I went to the Ohio Reproductive center up north and they are wonderful, very informative. I ended up getting the HSG thing..the xray w/ die to make sure there were no blockages and then IntrUterine Insemination that same month. I conceived the very first try after 1 1/2 yrs trying w/ clomid and all! We naw have a happy, healthy 7 month old daughter and are trying again to conceive on my own..if not, we will go back to the dr again! HTH
D.

Hi
I have a friend who had the problem of not ovulating becuz of irregular periods as well. She was my employee. She decided to get on a juicing program that was available through a local Juice/Smoothie Cafe here in Toledo. She began having regular periods every month and after having tried everything for 5 years, she became pregnant within 6 months of juicing (actually it was within 3 months)! Her first daughter is soon to be 7 yrs old this spring and her second (the one she couldn't conceive) daughter will be one in June. It is something to consider. She went through a nutritionist at this place, got put on 8 oz of customized juice a day (ate her regular meals but did add alot more raw fruits and veggies to her diet)and it worked for her. It is alot less stressful than the medical route and it worked. The place that she went to has a website and you could probably get info from them there. Its called juiceblasters. Its www.juiceblasters.com.
Hope that helps!
Becky