Misbehaving 2Year Old

I don't have much experience with 2 childs of different ages. But i do with 2 year old twin girls.
Me and my husband have found out that they want to do things that we do, basically mimic us. So we ask them to help a lot. And my god you should see them, they are so proud of helping us. Like they help their dad unload dishes (spoons, plastic ware) from the dishwasher, get the shoes from the shoe rack to wear when we are getting ready to leave, help mom with opening the cap for the diaper cream, put their dirty clothes in the hamper etc etc. Start with small things. So the trick is to get the toddler to help as much as possible. And giving your 100% attention when the baby is sleeping. This way she feels needed and loved.
I just feel most of the girls have an inbuilt system to take care of others, feel needed.
Let us know how it goes.
Good luck.

My kids are 2 years apart and had the same jealousy thing. One day I enough and asked my son if he wanted to be the baby. Of course he said yes so I put him on a blanket with some baby toys. This made him completely happy...for about 20 min. Then when he wanted a big boy toy I told him no hes a baby and needs to play with baby toys and stay on the blanket.

My son (almost 4) is still determined to draw out mommys baby as long as he can. But he understood that day that it is good to be a big brother and help the baby rather than be the baby. We still have our ups and downs but he understands babies cant do as much, big brothers can and that he should help his sister (or at least not hit her)

Good luck!
K.

I have the exact same problem exceptthe 2 1/2 year old I'm taking care of might become my husbands and mines. What my husband and I try to do as much as possible is get him to help us. So I totally agree with Mandy. I might ask him to get my 2 month old a diaper or the wipes. Or to get him some socks or a blankey. I let him help me heat the babies bottle in the bottle warmer, i just let him push the button to start it or have him go get me something if i know he knows where to get it. We discovered that he is very jealous. But we'll tell him to be careful with papa and mimi's baby and he'll say "No my baby". We just try to include him in everything we do with the baby just about. We still have alot of problems. He is one of the worst 2 1/2 year olds I've ever seen but we still love him. And he ask for more negative than positive attention. But trying to include him in things seems to be working. He has hit and spit on the baby a couple of times, but he hasn't done it in awhile. So we are making progress. Try getting her to help you it really has worked for us.. Good Luck. Let us know how it goes..

Very good advice! I did what Mandy did with all my kiddos. I have three boys and before each was born and afterwards I always called the baby 'their baby' and really involved them in the care of the baby. She will get more attention if you're calling for her to help all the time- which with all that you have to do for a baby- you will be talking to her constantly! :) Good luck!

I agree with Mandy, I would ask her to help you. When I had my second child I told my first that he needed to help me alot with the new baby. He was so excited when the baby finally came along. He would help me feed him and change diapers. He would even sing my youngest to sleep. I am now pregnant with my third child but I haven't told them yet, because I had told them about the last pregnancy that I had and then I had to explain to them that I had lost the baby. So I am going to wait until I am farther along and don't really have to worry that much about miscarrying. I think they will be just as excited about the new baby. Kids like to help do things, and if you let them then they won't act out because they feel like they aren't getting any attention. Good Luck!

Ask for her help. Tell her that he is her baby too and you need her to help you take care of him and keep him happy. From the time we knew we were prego with number 2, we told my son that it was his baby. he has never hurt her or really even shown jealousy. Good luck.

I would be firm with her on the misbehaving and put her in a time out then ignoring her. She is looking for attention, and sounds like she rather has negative attention than no attention. But, when she is good, make sure to take the time often to praise her on her good behavior, don't just ignore her then cause you are so happy cause she is good.
I always try to give my daughter attention before she requires it, then when I am too busy to give it to her she accepts it easier because she knows it is coming.
Good luck and BE CONSISTENT both in the discipline and the praises