Losing a Child - Hialeah,FL

I'm so sorry. I lost my brother to cancer in August. My mother is devastated- he doted on her every whim. She has bad days and better days, but she is just plain heartbroken. She just takes it day by day.

Oh T., I am so sorry. You are absolutely right, this is the wrong order. I have not had it happen to me but my ex-MIL & FIL lost their son 44 years ago. She was never over it, even when she died ten eight years ago. My best friend lost her son to cystic fibrosis in May. Life is pretty much on hold for their family.

Best of luck to you!

I have not, but I cannot even imagine, so I am sending you large hugs. I know there are websites and support groups to help with grieving and support. Please don't be afraid to take advantage of them. My heart is with you!

I lost my son 5 years ago to drowning in the bathtub. He was in his grandmother's care. He had a seizure (we think) and she left him alone.

The pain never goes away, but it gets alot easier to deal with. It doesn't seem like the pain will ever get easier, but then one day, you'll wake up and you wont think of him every second of the day. Then when you realize you got through the day a little easier, you'll feel guilty for it. It's such an emotional roller coaster. I'm sorry for your loss. I get through those hard days a little easier now because I'm a christian and I know I will see him again.

10 years ago, my daughter received the heart of a 12 year old boy. That boys parents STILL struggle with it, but I know that they belong to a group called compassionate friends. I know that has helped them a lot, but they still mourn him. I don't know that the loss of a child is ever something that you get over, but something that you learn to live with. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

yes, we lost our daughter. It's been 19 years, & I still feel my loss. I say a prayer for her each time I think of her. I make sure I say a prayer each time we have a family event. I buy flowers on her birthday. & each Christmas, I bought a Snowbaby ornament in her memory until last year. Those ornaments are the 1st on the tree.....

little ways I make sure she is still a part of our lives. & yes, I still have her photos out & about thru our home. :)

Prayers to you. I wish you Peace.

May God bless and give you peace and comfort that is beyond our understanding.

Oh dear. No I have not lost a child. And in my self absorbed pathetic way, your post actually makes me feel guilty that this happened to you not me.

I wish I could come to your house and make it all better for you, I wish I could take on your pain.

So I will send you the collective strength of every mom I know and hope you will use it to reach out in the ways suggested by the wonderful women on this board. I also hope you'll post again.

I will be thinking about you and agonizing that there isn't more I can do for you.

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I am so sorry to hear this. My sister lost her daughter and my friend lost her son to leukemia as well. He was 13. I was by there side through it all. I hope you can have the same support from someone close to you. I would look into group therapy it's good to find people you can relate to. My heart goes out to you and your family. I send hugs your way. If you need to talk you can message me.

I have. A baby daughter. She was beautiful and precious, as all our loved ones are.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you have someone to hold your hand on the hard days, and someone to talk to on the easy days.

Did you do anything special to remember him this year?

May God bless and keep you as you go through this. It sounds like you loved your son very much.

Most of my friends have.

Which is an odd thing to say, but I met most of my friends while my then 8yo and I were living at Children's Hopsotal for 6mo.

A few kids made it out (my son, pulmonary;, a friends daughter, rare neuro disorder; a friends daughter, meningitis)... But most of the kiddos didn't make it either then, or over the next year & a half. I've been to far too many (Yeesh, 1 is too many) funerals for kids over the past couple years. Some are doing okay, some are off and on (we've been in the ER over 50 times in the past year, stupid desatting), some are still fighting hard with at home nursing care or inpatient.

Are you dialed into local support? Or, a year out, are you largely on your own when you still need help?

My heart breaks for you and the life of your son that was cut way too short. Be kind to yourself, grieving is such a long process and a year is not very long in what is a very long, hard journey.

I buried my son almost 12 years ago. He was on hospice and passed away when he was only 17 days old. <hugs>

I'm so sorry.

I haven't lost a child.
I've had miscarriages but its not the same, I know.
I lost a very good friend to leukemia last year.

I certainly don't know any answers for you but if you're looking for a support group, most local hospices, etc can provide a list of groups, meetings, etc.
I don't know if that would be helpful or not. There's also compassionate friends.org as a resource.

Are you familiar with a group called Compassionate Friends? It's been awhile since I was referring people to them but if they're still around going may be helpful. It's a support group for parents who've lost children.

You are so right. A parent should not have to bury a child!

A very good friend of mine lost her daughter a year ago to cancer. She was 19. She said it was so hard to just breath and get out of bed. But she seems to be getting stronger. She says you don't get over the death of a child, you just learn to live with it. I agree, a parent should never have to bury their child. That is not the "order" of life.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. My prayers to you and your family.

I am so sorry for your loss.... It seems I am hearing so many such stories recently unfortunately.....
There is nothing I can say other than I'm sorry.

Someone mentioned a group compassionate friends? My best friend died several years after her sister did. Both girls were adopted. Their parents never got over the pain. They joined a group such as that and have been able to find some peace. Only time will make it burn less but your son will always be a difficult situation in your heart.

I'm so sorry, mom. Please call the social worker at the hospital and ask where you can go to get some support. You really need to do this.

Dawn

i havent personally lost a child. the feeling doesnt seem to ever go away i think you just become more at peace with it. i have no idea what you are going through and i could never begin to guess. if it was me i honestly dont think i could come back from it.
have you try counceling or anything like that just to talk to a neutral person who can ease you through these transistions.

I have not either, but I am so sorry for your loss and can't fathom what you are going through. Hope you can find some peace throughout your life.

My adult cousin passed a few years ago, and even though he was almost 35 it nearly crippled my aunt with grief.
It doesnt matter their age, the circumstance....as you said a parent should never have to bury a child.
I am so sorry for your loss. You must have amazing strength!
Sending love and hugs :)

I haven't but my best friend did. She lost her son when he was only 1 year old to juvenile (type 1) diabetes. Have you looked into "Grief Share"? Their website is www.griefshare.org - they have local support group meetings and send you daily emails to help. My girlfriend said it was of tremendous help to her. There is also a group www.compassionatefriends.org which is for those suffering the loss of a child. My heart goes out to you. I can not imagine any greater pain. "God is near to the brokenhearted." Lean on Him. I am so sorry.
Kristen

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine having to go through the loss of a child.

My cousin loss her 17-year-old to a enlarged heart which no one knew about until that day she went jogging and collapsed. My other cousin has her 17-year old in the hospital right now, and we don't know what the outcome will be. She's been there since November. My cousin, whose daughter died, said it took years and many chronic headaches to start living life again. She is now doing well, and honoring her daughter in her music and poetry.

My prayers are with you. Hugs!

I am so sorry. I lost an infant two hours after birth. It is hard. A friend of mine lost her child at a young age. I dont know the age and I refuse to ask. It was before we got accointed. I do know that her daughter was hit by a car in the middle of a small town.

I know the pain will never go away. I know what its like when no one understand when you just cry. I know what its like to want someone to talk to who knows. If you need a day or week to let it out to someone who will not judge I am here and I am sure my friend will have amazing advice that would help.

I lost my newborn son, and then 12 days later, my mother was killed in a car accident. You are right that the grief never ends and that is because the love never ends. And the deeper the love, the more intense the grief feels. You are not alone.

No, but last August one of our closest friend did. He was my husband's godchild. He passed 1 week before his second birthday. It literally went from planning for a party to planning for a funeral. It was heartbreaking and I can not even begin to imagine how the parents felt or what you are going through. Our friends' situation was tough. They told the nurses and resident that there's something wrong. They in turn told them to stop looking at the monitors and stop thinking like a nurse. He passed the next day. It was that stupid herpes simplex I virus. The one that gives people a cold sore. Somehow it got in his bloodstream. He died of multi system failure 2nd to sepsis. To make matters worse, their 3 year old was still in the hospital the day they buried their 2 year old son. Also with the same issue. We are all very grateful that he had survived.

I do hope it gets easier. Although I don't know how it could. Maybe the heavens are running out of angels...

(((HUGS)))