Looking for "Mentor" or Unbiased "Friend" to Rely On

If you have insurance for it... (crossing fingers)

My definition of a good therapist is "A great, and well educated friend/mentor that you just didn't happen to meet on the street."

I've had 2 that I absolutely loved and adored, and several that were just plain good. Over the years I've gotten good at "shopping" for psychologists (adhd and I move a lot). The 2 signs you've got a good one:

1) You leave their office feeling amazing. Things to think about, burdens lessoned, ideas to try, or just a friendly ear to vent to. Even after a "hard" session, you walk away with something to hold onto, a perspective or a kind of hope. And great sessions leave you feeling like you can take on the world no matter what comes your way.

2) They "never" ;) use the words always/ never/ should do/ this works for everyone etc. They work via questions to help you figure things out on your own, find your own truth and make SUGGESTIONS about things to try, and aren't "hung up" on those suggestions. Things like "Have you thought about "x"?" or "This is a process called _________. This is how it works_______. Would you be willing to give it a go?" And then EITHER a yes or no answer is perfectly acceptable in any case Whatever your answer... they can work with that and don't guilt/ blame/ get resentful/ or have "pet theories".

Michelle Teyke
Professional Life Coach
Founder MomEmpowerment
www.momempowerment.com

She is wonderful, I met her when I started my business. She conducts her coaching via phone.

I understand what you are saying I have zero relationship with my mother, kinda sounds like we have the same one. Hang in there Great mommy friends and confidants are hard to come by, but you will find one. align yourself with people that parent similar to you:) and have the same values that you share~D.

http://www.aarp.org/relationships/
The organization, AARP, which is for Senior Citizens... has various programs.. .and maybe you can find one that would suit your needs.
(the link is above).

A lot of senior citizens nowadays, do 'volunteer' work, or through AARP.
Maybe you can contact them, and find out if they "Mentor" adults... etc.

good luck,
Susan

I agree with adopting an older woman in a care home. It's a win-win for both of you.

Have you thought about "adopting" an older person. Many people in assisted living homes have no real family, no one that visits with them and talks with them, and they have so much life experience and wisdom to share. Many homes have programs that match these lonely souls with people just like you!

Have you thought of making an appointment with a counselor or psychologist? I'm not saying that you have a mental problem, but it might be a great way to get things off your chest.