M.C.
For drinks over apple juice
For foods offer the one-two bite foods.
Mini cupcakes
mini brownies
2 bite cookies
small rice crispy treats
pizza rolls
chicken nuggets
For activities
Have some coloring pages and crayons
Toddler friendly games like Connect 4, Memory
Have a DVD playing like Wishbone, or something
Timing wise, I would keep the 'tea party' piece of the party short. No more than an hour.