I have got to get a grip. My mother is having a masectomy on Good Friday in Dallas which is 2 hours away. I have got to go and be there with her and she'll be there for 2 or 3 days. I am trying to figure out what to do since I will miss Easter Sunday. My boys are 4 and 6 months old. I know the 6 month old will be fine but, what about my 4 year old? Should I have my husband do the Easter egg stuff and me not be there or do I wait until I get home on Sunday night or Monday to do the Easter hunt and all the traditional stuff? I really want to see their faces and be there with them. My 4 year old is very attached to me and I hate leaving him in the first place but, I have to. He's going to have ahard enough time as it is with me being gone and me missing Easter on top of that. I just want to make him happy and feel loved even though I'm gone. Am I crazy for asking this? Any advice would be great!
I'd probably want to wait till I got home. Maybe hubby can take the kids out for breakfast and to the park or a movie or something... then you can do the basket thing when you get home. 4 yr olds really arent all that perceptive on time or anything either. If you dont talk a lot about it, the 4 year old wont even know Sunday is Sunday, honestly.
I am willing to bet that unless your 4 year old is extraordinary that he won't know one day from another and all days are the same...so if you had "Easter Monday" - you get to be there and he won't know that it is a day late, and as far as the weekend there is probably a public egg hunt somewhere that the kids can participate in with Dad for the "guy's weekend"!
You're not crazy. Definitely, wait until your home. In fact if your 4 year old doesn't know it yet, you don't even have to tell him that your going to celebrate late. (I know my daughter is 5 and she doesn't always get her days straight) Go be with your mom and do your Easter celebration when you get back.
Best wishes to your mom for a quick recovery.
FYI: If I could have rescheduled my daughters first soccer game last weekend while I worked. I would have. I hate missing her firsts or any type of holiday event.
I totally understand wanting to be there and wanting to see his face but make sure his basket is sitting there Sunday morning and let dad do an egg hunt with him. Then do another one when you get home. It is so hard when we moms have to be in 3 places at once but since the 4 year old is old enough to know what is going on this weekend I'd try to keep it as "normal" for him as possible. Have dad take tons of pics.
You're not crazy. But I'm sure he'll be fine. Do the Easter egg hunt either before you go, or save it as a "special treat" for when you come back. And if you sell it as a "special Easter with Daddy!" I bet they'll find a lot of ways to have a great time, even if it isn't very "Easter-y."
Good luck to you and your mom.
You could do Easter egg hunts twice. Once with Daddy and again with you. My kids are just as excited the 2nd, 3rd, 4th time as they are the first. They just love Easter egg hunts! See if you can dye the eggs with them before you go, and if you want to save the baskets for when you get back, then do so. Or not. Even 4 year olds don't care if Easter is Sunday or Monday.
I would let them do something special with Dad... maybe he can take them to a church or park easter egg hunt, so he can have some fun, and do the traditional celebration when you get home?
Find out what your husband wants to do or is willing to do. You can always write a letter to the Easter bunny and tell him that you will be gone for an important surgery and to come the following day or week or whenever. Your husband can have some other fun things to do that you can repeat when you get back.
You are not crazy for asking. You are a good mom and daughter and sometimes it's hard to figure out how to be good at both at the same time.
Your hubby can handle this for you while you are there for your mom. Time with dad is really important for children. You can always celebrate when you come back, it won't make much difference. Best wishes to your mom.
You're not crazy at all! I would have your husband do a warm up but type a letter from the Easter Bunny that you will be having your own special Easter Egg Hunt when you get home. Make it something special that he can really look forward to. Or maybe even have your husband and 4 yr old set up an Egg Hunt for you - i'm sure he'd enjoy doing that! A few years ago I had to fly out to AZ because my dad was real sick & was out there for Mother's Day - I missed my girls a whole lot & my husband, but they made it an extra special extension of Mother's Day when I got hom. My thoughts and prayers go out to your mom during her surgery and I hope she has a speedy recovery. And enjoy your belated Easter!
Is you mom still going to be in the hospital on Easter? I assume so since they wouldn't be discharging her a day after surgery. Assuming she's still in the hospital and it's only 2 hours away (by car I'm assuming?) I'd rive home Saturday late afternoon/evening to be with my family for Easter monring and then drive back mid-day to be with my mom. pateitns who are only 2 days post-surgical generally get very attentive care from the hopspital staff. i think she'll be jsut fine for an 18 hour period for you to be away. Frankly, she'll need you more when she goes home. My BFF jsut has a mastectomy last week and she is still in a lot of pain. She need a lot of help at home and her mom and 3 sisters have all chipped in to be there for her.
If hubby is ok with waiting till you get home to do all the traditional stuff then wait. Big basket, egg hunt, specail food, whatever you do.
Maybe on Easter morning can hubby have a small easter basket for the 4 year old to find. I am thinking of the really small ones, maybe have a piece or two of candy, a little toy and a note from mommy that say I love you.
Maybe you could be there for your mom on friday and saturday and sunday morning drive home and do the Easter thing and then in the afternoon on sunday go back to your mom. Help her get over the hump. I'm sure she will understand.
Let the kids have their Easter on Easter,.They deserve to have things go on a usual. Dad can handle it.
You will be with your beloved mother, make sure to do something Easter for her, she also deserves it. Maybe your kids could draw her some special pictures or make a video on your phone you can show her,. This will be the most important thing you will ever do for your mom. {{HUGS}}
We used to hide Easter eggs for the entire next week following Easter. Hiding them outside and hiding them inside. My mom loved searching for them! It was fun to watch her search.. we would laugh and laugh. She was a big kid sometimes. Let your kids hide eggs for you when you get back.
FYI< DO NOT leave town with your mother in the Hospital. That is the whole point to you being there in case you are needed. I am sure your mom is going to do great., but if something were to happen and you were not there or at least in that town, you are going to feel terrible. This will only be a few days on some of the most important days in your mothers life. Everything should be focused on her needs and her health at this moment. She wants you and needs you there.
