Kid's Age Spacing

My very best friend from college and her older brother are about 12 years apart... she was an "oops" long after her parents thought they were done having kids. They were never close during her childhood (his teen) years, but when she became a young adult (after she turned 18) they had a very close relationship. They shared an apartment for many years and even moved out of state together. She is in her 30's now, he in his forties and they still have a close relationship and live closeby.
I on the other hand am 3 years older than my sister. We each hated each other as kids and only started having a good relationship after I moved out from home.
Even close spacing is no guarantee for everyone to get along and if you are planning to adopt a child later on, you could consider adopting a child closer to your daughter in age... older kids have such a hard time finding an adoptive family.
Good luck!

I have three daughters, there are five and seven years between them. The oldest had a different biological dad, but she and her baby sister were always very sweet and loving. The second was a handful, and I honestly didn't know if I wanted more, but seven years later her baby sister came along. I worried again that the dynamic would be weird. But both older girls have special relationships with their baby sister, especially the oldest who is like a second mother to her. Still the space between them I think creates less jealousy, since they have such different interests etc. due to being so far apart in age. And they all got their own time as "my baby". I have been very happy and relieved that my girls all get along as well as they do. I wouldn't change a thing! I grew up with friends who had three closer girls in their family and it was interesting to watch how the sibling relationships changed over time. There were times when two would be particularly close but it changed with various combinations at different times. I feel like this will naturally happen with my girls, for instance the younger two might become closer for a while after the older one leaves home for college.

If you have younger ones closer together, they might be closer during the childhood years, but they also might be more competitive, and having the older sibling there can be a really nice dynamic. You can spend special time with each, and the other two can entertain each other.

A lot depends on personalities, too I think! Good luck!

Oh yes.......mine are Alex just turned 4,Kristen will be 11 in Oct and Tyler will be 16 in December. People have always been curious, was the spacing ok, are they close? My kids are all very close, sometimes it has been challenging to find activities to do as a family and the hardest is finding movies that is appropriate for all = ) But otherwise I love my crazy spaced out family and could not imagine it having worked out any better.

My kids are 6 years apart. He wasnt at all thrilled about having a sibling (at 6 he wanted a dump truck instead) and they fought a bunch as kids, and now they are close as can be. They are 34 and 28 now. Boy /girl

You are young and can launch a career after you have a second child. My kids are 5 1/2 years apart. They are close but not extremely. Don't bother to stabilize your career because you will never be able to take the break to have a child.
I've seen that dream get away from so many women. The second child forfeited for a career. A career can take off at 33 or 35. I never had a book published before I was in my 40's. I had built a splendid career over many years taking many breaks for my children's sake.
Believe me your career won't ever call you up on a Sunday morning just to ask you about something or find out how you are. Your children will.
A cousin of my mother once said to me "Don't put all your eggs in one basket." He had an only child who never had a child.

I can happen, and sometimes not.
It just depends and you cannot predict that.

My Mom has siblings that are much younger than her. 5+ years apart.
She was not close to them growing up, but the other siblings were close to each other growing up.
Same for my Husband. His siblings were pretty much out of the house, before he came along.

But some kids even if aged far apart, may be close.

And yes, the eldest child, often is like a parent.. .because they have to mind, the younger sibling and in order to 'help' Mommy.
That is what my Mom had to be and do, since she was the Eldest. She hated it.
And well my Husband's older siblings, well they were off living their own lives already, when he was little.
So, separate lives.
Even if they get along or are 'close' sometimes.

My brother is 8 years older than I and my sister is 6 1/2 years older than me. My big sister is my very best friend. It wasn't always that way, but we are now.
My girls are 3 and 10 and I want one more (eventually). I wanted the youngest and the future baby to be close in age but it turns out that my Aubrey is totally wild and crazy and I can't imagine another one right now. So, by the time we have another one, she'll be at least 5. My girls are wonderful and don't always get along, but they love each other so much! My little one always says, "Sissy is my best stister!" Lol. :)