E.D.
I highly recommend Dr. Goldberg's book "Ever Since I Had my Baby". There are some diet and lifestyle sections in there that really help with incontinence. And then I also recommend Kamin Physical Therapy, Pelvic floor specialists in Park Ridge. ###-###-####) They can watch you do a Kegel on ultrasound and help you get it just right. It's possible the way you're doing Kegels is causing your problem. For some people it's not the best for their body depending on where everything shifts after pregnancy. You might even be absolved of having to do them altogether! (Your "annoyance" just might be intuition.)
They turned all of my post baby symptoms around and gave me a feeling of empowerment in my mastery of these little annoyances. I cannot recommend them highly enough!
Good luck!
Emilie