Just Found Out I Was Pregnant, Yeah 15 Weeks and No OBGYN

Updated on January 05, 2013
A.C. asks from Black Mountain, NC
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I went to the ER last night with tummy pains, Found out I was 15 weeks. So today called 8 OBGYN in the area, and well. No one would accept me because I am too far along, One even suggested that I terminated the pregnancy. I am not a smoker, a druger, or a drinker. I am 25 own my own business and married. The ER Ultrasound Tech said that my baby's placenta was smaller then it should be, I was on BC when I got pregnant. I don't know what to do. I do not understand why no one will see me. I have Highmark bluecross. What did I do wrong? Should I really think about termination? I called the hospital and was told I was not able to get my records so I can take the pictures to a OBGYN instead of calling. I need help.

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C.B.

answers from San Francisco on

Call the hospital back - medical records belong to the patient, not the hospital. You have every right to have them.

It's crazy that no one will see you bc when you go to deliver, if you haven't had prenatal care, they will call CPS. I would keep track of everyone you call, the name of the person you speak to and exactly what you were told in case someone tries to make a complaint.

If there are any free clinics or county medical facilities, that is where I would go next.

Good luck and congrats on the pregnancy!

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B.C.

answers from Norfolk on

When we did IVF, once we were past the first trimester it was expected that we switch from using the fertility specialist to a regular OB/GYN.
There were no difficulties.
I had a prescription from the specialist to continue with hormone shots until the 5th month (self administered) and the practice I found had no problems with it.
Now it's possible that some doctors are not accepting new patients if they are already over booked but if you keep calling around you should be able to find a doctor who will take you on sooner or later.

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S.B.

answers from Redding on

Wow. I would have thought that the ER would at least give you a referral.
15 weeks along is NEVER too late to receive proper prenatal care.

I would ask your primary care physician for a referral or consult clinics in your area. Even your county's health department should be able to help you.

Just to let you know, my first baby's placenta was small and she was born completely healthy in every sense. No one ever recommended termination.
I'd been told I couldn't have kids so not one single person tried to steer me in that direction.

Some doctors don't readily take on new patients, but that doesn't mean you can't get the care you need.

Check into every resourse you can in your area, even women's shelters. They have access to things you wouldn't believe.

You're not the first person in this world not to realize you're pregnant and I guarantee you'll find someone to help you with your prenatal care.

Just keep checking.

I wish you the best. I wish you a healthy baby and a happy birthing experience.

Hang in there!

P.S. I worked in medical records for a hospital and you have the right to a copy of your records. You may have to go in and sign a release, but they really can't withhold things from you. You have a right to your own protected health information.

Find an advocate through a clinic or midwife. They will help you.

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A.M.

answers from Kansas City on

this sounds all wrong to me. you're 25, self-employed, married, WITH insurance? first, i have a hard time believing that an OBGYN would turn you down because of how far along you are. much less 8 of them. the only thing i could imagine, is if they aren't taking new patients. but then how have you been getting your birth control? S., your medical records belong to you - they are yours. the hospital will not keep them from you - they can't, legally.

if nothing else go to the health department. there IS care for you, promise. don't know if you misunderstood what they were telling you, or i am misunderstanding what you're saying. just take a breath and keep at it. keep calling until you get the help you need. you'll get there. good luck, and congrats!

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A.C.

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Get your regular-care doctor to give you a recommendation. I have found that it is often true that OBGYNs aren't taking new patients (because they have to be there at all hours for every birth, so they can only handle so many at a time) but I was able to get an "in" with my first OB because of a recommendation from my doctor, and I was able to get an "in" for my second OB because of a recommendation from my first.

Good luck.

ETA: You AREN'T too far along, and that's a weird thing for an OB to say, too. Two of my best girlfriends didn't even find out they were pregnant until after 20 weeks, and they both found OBs easily. Try Planned Parenthood - they will not turn you away. If you truly can't find one, consider a midwife. Take care.

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R.K.

answers from Appleton on

Call Planned Parenthood. You will receive excellent care.

And your records are YOUR records they can not stop you from getting them.

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M.P.

answers from Raleigh on

I'm pretty sure there is a Planned Parenthood in Asheville. They will not turn you away and you will get the prenatal care you need. Call, make and appointment, and explain your situation. Good luck!

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T.V.

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Why would you think about termination?

Your post doesn't make sense. If you have good insurance, they need to cover you and your unborn child. Blue Cross should be contacted up to the highest level.

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M.M.

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Agree totally w/ Cheryl B., Angie H.,Adansmama,
Your records are Your records,

Do start taking vitamins, if you were on birthcontroll, stop taking it Rightaway..
I am not a medical dr.
First pregnancy I also was about 12+weeks.
and did have prob trying to find a obgyn. Perhaps if you have a friend that can recomend you a dr. ? ,

Make sure you doc. as s.o here said, who you have talked to when you call.
name, date, time and phone no. you called..
also on the insurance area..
Cover yourself and family first.

Take Care.
w t f?!! terminate pregnancy...
I would not say this is right,
Your body, you need to be examined correctly and talk to your husband.

Prayers comming your way.

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A.H.

answers from Omaha on

One of the doctors told you to terminate?! I would mark that one off the list for sure. I would get a referral through an existing doctor you have, your insurance company could also help you locate someone and you may even try a find-a-physician line through your local hospital. Keep trying. How did you get your BC pills? Did you get a yearly exam with a doctor? Start there and something should work out. Good luck!
HTH,
A.

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M.S.

answers from Portland on

The Er should have given you a referal to the ob on call. They have to see you once even if they don't want to. This is how I got in last year. They will get your records and then you can get them from the ob office.

Then, call your insurance and tell that that you are pregnant and need an ob that is taking new patients. I have had them go through with me for over 30 minutes trying to find a doctor. If nothing else, go to county health or planned parenthood. I wish you were here in Portland, I would give you the name of my doc, but its just too far to commute:)

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A.E.

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I would go to a free clinic. You just found out so tell them once they see you and ask who you can get seen by. This is odd, there may have been a misunderstanding.There is no reason to terminate I would keep seeking till you get answers feel free to message me would love to talk and walk with you through this journey as I am expecting too.

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

DOCUMENT all of this, in case someone reports you as the others have posted below.
Document, what the ER Doctors told you.

Seek out a local health clinic/planned parenthood etc.
Buy Prenatal vitamins from your local drugstore.
Get your medical records. It is YOURS.

Don't you have a Primary Care Physician??? If so, maybe he/she can get your medical records, AND refer you to an OB/GYN.

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K.T.

answers from Indianapolis on

Ok this is strange!and that obgyn has no right telling you that before he has seen your files!! I would have went through if that phone...... I was 16wks and 17wks before I got in to see and obgyn! Where do you get your BC? I would call them all back (except the one who told you to terminate) and try afain.. then go through your insurance. They should be able to find an obgyn for you that accepts there insurance and they know are accepting patients.. there is someone out there for you. And pls take it easy and rest until you know more. I hope everything works out for you!

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☆.H.

answers from San Francisco on

Periodically I see a post on here from someone who is self employed (or husband is self employed) who finds out after getting pregnant that the insurance policy they have purchased does not include coverage for pregnancy.
Perceived fear of not being able to collect from your insurance company may be one reason why OBGYN offices are turning you away. Double check your policy if you are not sure of your coverage. If you do, next time you try to make an appointment try stating that you have confirmed your coverage when asked about insurance.

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answers from Miami on

This doesn't make sense. No one in their right mind tells you to have an abortion because you're too far along. Where on earth do you live?

Call your insurance company and ask them for referrals. If some gal says this on the phone, demand to talk to the office manager and tell her that you are sure that it's not legal for them to turn you down because you are 15 weeks along.

You can go down to the hospital and sign to get copies of your records. They won't do it over the phone.

Also look up an association that deals with ob/gyns. If you talk to them, I'll bet they could help you get a doctor.

This just doesn't make sense.

Dawn

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K.G.

answers from San Diego on

I have not read other responses but why not call and say you just founf out you were pregnant and need an appt. I would not say anything about how far along you are or the hospital that way, they have already seen you and more than likely will continue to see you.

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G.B.

answers from Oklahoma City on

Call your insurance person and ask them if they know of one of the ones on the card that is taking patients.

BTW, aren't you too far along to have an abortion? That is a wrong way to think in my opinion but who knows....

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K.C.

answers from Los Angeles on

I agree with posters who suggested you don't tell them over the phone how far along you are. Once you're there, it'll be easier to fight for them to see you. If they insist, say you think you are about 8 weeks. Anything under 7 weeks and they probably will make you wait until then for an appointment anyway.

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H.B.

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I agree with Kelly. I was around 15 weeks with all three of my pregnancies when I first saw a doctor. The first time I was young and kept waiting for my period to come and it took awhile to get an appointment. The second time I waited for insurance to kick in. The third time I spent 2 months looking for a doctor (I was on public aid and no one was accepting new clients). I would not tell them how far you are. Or I would start with "I can't seem to find a doctor that is accepting new patients, are you?" Hope you find a doctor and congrats!

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R.J.

answers from Knoxville on

i would not terminate the pregnancy unless a doctor told me that something serous could definatly be wrong with it.. i would suggest to keep looking for a doctor close to your area until i found one.. i reall wish you the best of luck and you and your baby are in my prayers and i hope that everything works out..

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