What are the norms regarding ex's girlfriend over stepping bounds?! Shouldnt just the parents be considered when deciding custody? Is there anyway to refute unfavorable evaluation? Anyone know of evaluator bias and unethical reports? Has anyone ever heard of shared physical across states for a toddler?
What does your attorney say about all this? That's who you should be talking to.
is your ex mean or abusive? harmful to your child? is this woman not good for your daughter to be around? if not then why not let wel enough alone?
Once you put in a rule it will bite you in the butt. as in what if one day you need someone to care for your daughter?
My daughter is cared for by my boyfriend at times when my Ex and I cant, I assume my ex's girlfriend who is moving in will at times care for her as well. All the more people to love her.
I'd strongly suggest getting an attorney if you don't already have one.
The court/mediator will consider all persons who live in the home so I assume the gf lives with your ex.
As far as refuting the report, if you have evidence/facts to refute it with, I would put that in the form of a declaration with exhibits attached and file it with the court.
When my daughter was going through mediation we also felt that the mediator was biased but there was really nothing we could do about it. The courts trust these mediators so it's really hard for you to get the court to believe they are biased and/or unethical. Again, if you have facts/evidence, put that in your declaration.
Shared physical custody across state lines might be pretty tough, depending on how far away you are from each other. If you're close enough to switch off on a regular basis that might work. But if you're too far away to do that, then one has to have primary physical custody and the other visitation.
Sounds like you are not happy with the way things are going. You should seek the advice of an attorney.
