This is probably more of a vent (Lee SMITH, start laughing sister!!) ;)
Everything's set and paid for (except the cake, she wants the money when we pick it up). It's all the little stuff from here on out. My parents are so generously paying for this... BUT THEY DON'T TALK TO EACH OTHER!! At all! And they're putting me in the middle, driving me nuts.
I'm trying my best to do everything via email as far as communicating with them, because it's easier to cc them both on stuff as opposed to calling dad, then calling mom, then calling dad back to report mom's opinion, and vice versa. I HAVE A JOB! I HAVE KIDS TO RAISE AND A HOUSEHOLD TO MAINTAIN!! Not to mention my poor fiance, who's been thrown to the wayside worse than when I was pregnant!
They are literally arguing about silly stuff, like the placement of the chip bowls and what color the coolers should be for the beer. SERIOUSLY?! STOP IT! You're acting like my 5 and 7 year olds!! I tried throwing my hands up in the air and waving my little white flag and saying 'GREAT! Sounds good, do whatever you want'... but they HAVE to have MY opinion. OMG. I don't care. I really don't care. So, because they NEED an answer, I'll say 'Right there looks good'... but then I have to explain WHY and hear both sides of their opinions.
They're basically trying to make me side with one of them, not both. (Someone please shoot me, this is ridiculous).
It's REALLY not this difficult, right? RIGHT?! I'm not going to be pulling my hair out for the next 3 weeks, right?!
They just make me sound so ungrateful when I DON'T give them an answer... they've always been manipulative like that.
AND I WANTED TO ELOPE!! Everyone else (fiance included) said no :/
Do you have a bridesmaid, friend or family member who can deal with some of this stuff? Who enjoys deciding where chip bowls will be placed? Don't hesitate to ask, they'll likely be flattered that you want their help.
Yes, it is THAT difficult! :) One of the MAIN reasons we eloped...
Tell your parents, while you appreciate them paying more than you can express in words, it is your wedding and you will put stuff where you want it. Beyond that, remind them you are their child and you shouldn't have to parent them.
Personally, I thought launching a space shuttle into outer space was less complicated than wedding planning. And my parents talk to each other! I wish you could just email them both and tell them to work out the details, you'll be at the church (or wherever) on time. And until then...do whatever you want!!
I think the next 3 weeks are going to be crazy. Why, oh why, didn't you elope?:)
I recommend copious amounts of alcohol. Or a massage. Find some impartial third parties to get out your stress! Oh wait, that's US!!!
No, you won't. Once you start telling these people to stop involving you in their stupid bowl arguments. =)
I am serious. Stop talking to them about it. Let them argue amongst themselves if they must, but you shall not be bothered. (I visualize you saying this with nose in air, shewing them away with your hand).
You can do it!
3 weeks - you are almost there. Really, when you tell them you don't care just say "work it out - see ya later" and walk away. You'll make it (and so will your hair!)
Yes, it REALLY is this difficult. And YES, you will be pulling your hair out for the next 3 weeks. And if that's the worst of it, you're doing great!
And yes, I'm laughing. Not at you, just with you... :p
Well, DUH, the chip bowls go next to the SALSA bowls, and all beer coolers should be blue!
There, tell them I said so!
Sorry, Rach, it's nearly over!
:)
Yep, unfortunately when someone else is paying for it, then they get a say so in it. And...it really sucks when the people paying are divorced. Parents can be really petty sometimes, I remember when my parents divorced they fought horribly about a freakin bean pot and a lamp!!!
Just say "whatever you'd like is fine." and leave it at that. Let THEM be the adults that they are, right?
Breathe and smile!
(p.s. We eloped and I STILL had hives!)
I agree with Abbys idea,, Do you have a bridesmaid or maid of honor who lives where the wedding will be? Call and tell her whats going on and let her be in charge of the fine details so you can relax.Tell M. and dad this person is to make the decisions and they are to call her, NOT YOU. Tell them its just too much stress on you so you are letting her help out. Lee Smith,,haha.
