Is This Normal?

You need to relax, they say if you try too hard it won't happen. they also say that if you don't want it as bad it will happen. try this, find a sitter and go on a romantic over nighter. Get a hotel room with a hot tub init, and relax... you never know, just relax....
And if it doesn't happen just be greatful that you have been blessed with at least one child.
I hope this helps

When my husband and I had my daughter it took us 11 months to get pregnant. We have been trying for the second and it took us 12 months. I was told by my dr. that if you are on the pill it can take up to a year for your body to completely regulate after taking birth control of any kind. My friend and her husband tried for 6 months before they got pregnant. She was on the pill for 6 years. I think everyone is different and if you call your OB they should be able to give you the best idea.

My Husban and I were struggling too to get pregnant. I was 35 and he was 45. I went on www.americanbaby.com and they have a preconception fertility site where you put in your last menstrual date and it gives you your most fertile dates for the year. We used that and got pregnant right away. the baby is now 3 months old and 9lbs. Good Luck!
A. W.

With our first child, it took my husband and I almost 3 years to get pregnant. If after trying for a few more months, I suggest going to see you OB-Gyn or midwife to talk to them. Also, there are ovulation kits on the market to help increase the odds. Alos, the old addage of "Once you stop trying you'll get pregnant." With our daughter we decided it was the wrong time to have a child, we had just moved into our house and I was starting a new job. Wouldn't you know it, that is when i got pregnant. With our son, we weren't trying. Heck, we weren't even considering it as our daughter was only 10 months old. I agree with the other when they say, relax and enjoy the ride. Stress can lesses the chances of getting pregnant. Just my two cents.

I can be normal. The more you worry about it, the less likely it will happen. Relax. It will happen when it's supposed to happen. I wouldn't worry about it until a year has passed.

Maybe being so busy is the problem! You are at the perfect age to get pregnant so I wouldn't worry about it too much. Are your periods regular? I would say that if in a few months more you haven't become pregnant I would see your gyno. just to check it out, otherwise, relax and have a good old time! Also, some of the websites like baby.com or ivillage.com have those ovulation calenders where you enter the date of your last period and it estimates where your most fertile time is so you can get lots of action in when you are most likely to get knocked up! Good luck and have fun, but really, relax, I think that is the most important thing! Also, do you notice how many people who are trying to conceive and end up adopting because they think they can't have a child naturally end up getting pregnant once the heat is off? I think that it is your body responding to less stress!

i agree pretty much with the other posts.
my sister in law had been trying for over a year(never did go see her gyno though) and they got pg just recently. i know my sister tried for a year too and finally it happened. my dad kept telling her the same thing everyone is saying, relax:-)
friends of mine who tried for 5 years with 3 invetro procedures with no pregnancies what so ever. gave up, took a year off, finally took a vacation to europe. came back started the adoption paperwork. wam! she got pg! all on her own . no fertility help.
and now she has 4 kids under 6!
i would suggest an ovulation kit. so you can track when you are ovulating. you may not be ovulating when you think you are. if you're periods are regular i would talk to your dr. i would try not to worry until there is something to worry about basically.
like said, most dr's don't consider you for tests until it's been a year of trying or after 2 miscarriages or more.
my exhusband and i went thru 6 miscarriages(two with fertility help and the last pg wtih triplets. they never could tell me why i kept miscarriaging at 12 weeks).. and now i have two healthy toddlers( plus a new husband.) i tell you all these stories to hopefuly let you know there is hope:-))
good luck!

When we tried for baby #2, it took us 5 yrs to have her. After her, we decided to wait a few yrs before trying again, and 24 months later, we had #3. lol So my advice is try not to get pregnant, and you will! lol Ok, all joking aside, basically what happened to me is that we tried so hard to get pregnant that it didnt work. Yeah I know there are those people out there that can look at each other and wam, a baby is made, and if you ask me its not fair, but it happens. So sit back (or lay back, which ever is most comfy ;) lol) and enjoy what you have. It will happen, but maybe not when you want it too. All things are possible. My best friend has a 6 yr old and has had 6 miscarriages, is going to have her #2 in a few short weeks, after being told it cant happen. I say a similar story on A Baby Story on TLC. I hope this brings some comfort to you and Good Luck!

Doctors don't consider it a problem unless you have been trying for over a year. So, I wouldn't worry. Are you using an Ovulation predictor kit? I found this very helpful in getting pregnant my second time around.
Relax, and watch for when you are ovulating.

sometimes the underlying stresses can thwart your efforts and even when you think you're relaxed about, you subconscious is still stewing about it. The saying "sometimes you need to quit trying to be sucessful.." i think is very true. Especially if your doctor has said you're healthy and no problems.

A doctor won't be interested until you're been actively trying for 12 months (6 months if you're over 35). If you really want to get your timing down, I suggest this book: http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Annive... It will teach you how to track your cycle and when your most fertile days are. It is different for each individual woman. Since you have already had a child, you can rule out a lot of medical issues but there are lots of cases of secondary infertility. If you still have not gotten pregnant in 6 more months time after using the methods described in the book, then you should definitely consult your OB to discuss any potential medical issues. I certainly don't mean to post a scary note, but as someone who had to endure years of fertility treatments in order to conceive, I feel the need to counteract all the well-intentioned folks who tell you to just relax. Relaxation never cured endometriosis, blocked tubes or immunity issues. If someone's infertilty is caused by a medical issue, no vacation is ever going to help. Would you tell someone with cancer to just relax and they'll be healed too? And there are so many possible reasons that can cause infertility that whatever worked for someone else doesn't mean that it will work across the board for anyone who is having trouble conceiving. Okay, getting off my high-horse now, sorry for the rant! I wish you the best of luck!

M. I just checked my email and saw your request and thought I wouild pass along a great web site...
www.babyhopes.com
I know of 7 couples that got pregnant with in the first three months with the help of this site. Go to the site and scroll down looking on the left side you will see a icon that says ovulations calendar. Enter your info and it will give you your most fertile days in the next three months.
And remember to relax... Good luck let me know if this works
A.

I think so, at least it has been in my ecperience. my husband and I tried for 2 years, we gave up and started to get things going to do a suragate thing and two weeks later found out we were pregnant. I also have an Aunt who tried for years and adopted a child and found out she was pregnant about a week after there adoption was finalized :) I think it has something to do with stress. Once we took the stress off our selves about getting pregnant it happened. So just relax and keep trying. Good Luck!!!
J.