Is It Wrong to Be Angry over Inconsideration of Other's?

No it is not wrong to be angry about how others treat you, but living in a constant state of anger is not healthy for you or your son. You need to ask yourself what is it that you want in life and then you have to set a goal and a plan to achieve that goal. Is the dad involved at all? If not, would you really want someone who doesn't want to be a responsible loving parent around your son? Would you want his "dates" hanging around your child? I was a single mom for 8 years with a very negative ex husband who made my life miserable. We have a daughter together. I have always wished her dad wasn't around, but I made the best of it by trying t do the right thing and staying positive. What I've learned is that you are the choices you make in life and you control the path where your life is headed. Don't fret about what others are saying and not doing for you. If you want something bad enough like moving, then find a way to do it. When given lemons, make lemonade! Try to stay positive for yourself and your son. Congrats to you on providing for your son. That's what a responsible parent does for their child.

I know you do sound very angry, and well justified also, but anger is not helpful. Do you think he cares that you are angry--NO! It sounds like this man does not care about anything except himself and his wants!

So, you do what is right for you and your son. Having this much anger is not good for you or your son. It will be hard, but you need to let go, because it is not helpful and you have already realized that by his actions. I agree with the other mom you might want to seek counseling--it does really work for some.

I also would suggest looking up a dead beat dads association,I do not know anything about this, but legally you have the right to child suport and you should get it--even if this means you wait for this man to get a job and it takes years!

I do hope all works out for you. Hopefully venting to us might make you feel a bit better:)

The first thing that's wrong with this question is the word 'wrong'... When it comes to feelings, you feel what you feel.

It is easy to feel overwhelmed, as a single parent or as a stay at home parent, or even as a parent with a live-in helper. Let's face it, parenting is overwhelming. It challenges us in ways we would prefer not to be challenged and asks us to grow up about things we prefer not to grow up about.

I suggest you enjoy your anger, sit with it and see what it changes into. Don't try to pretend you're not angry, because that's the short road to insanity... but see if you can figure out what else you're angry about.

It is simple and obvious to attribute this to 'other people letting you down' but it is likely it is more complex than that. Being angry about circumstances is frustrating... but is usually more about how we feel now about choices we made then that seemed reasonable.

With support (even as simple as making online connections with other people who've been there, done that) you will make it through this, probably with a growing sense of forgiveness of yourself and your choices, and come out the other side with greater personal strength and pride.

I think you can thrive.

I say screw them. Do what is best for you and your son.

Being angry isn't productive and it could harm you physically. It is really fear in another form.
Call Gryphon Place and ask them to direct you to a counselor you can afford. They will guide you toward what you CAN do.
Read self-help books.
Count your positives and your blessings. Dig deep on this one.
You can take control of this situation.

I was you twenty years ago.

I understand why you feel so angry. People in your life have been very irresponsible. You should be proud of yourself though, because you have taken the responsibility of motherhood and according to what you wrote - you are doing a great job. Be proud of yourself. People RARELY do what they should. Dont focus on them - focus on your baby. You are his best friend and advocate. Be there for him - as you are. It is wonderful that you are picky about who watches him. You keep doing what you are doing. You may not see the rewards right now, but believe me raising a healthy and well adjusted human being is an awesome feat!! Good Luck. Dont waste anymore time thinking of the immature people in your past!!

You do what's best for you and your child. If moving out of state is what you need to do then do it.

My niece just did that with her 4 year old daughter.
It was very hard for her at first. And her daughter misses her family that they left behind. They talk a lot of the phone and mail letters and pictures to each other. And plan lots of visits.

You need to make a better life for you and your son. I'm not sure how old he is but, I'm sure he's picking up on your unhappiness and frustration.

Do you have a friend that could watch your son so you can have some alone time or date? If they have kids, switch babysitting nights with each other.

Why isn’t the father giving financial support for childcare?

Good luck!