Is It Okay to Ask Your Nanny to "Wear" Your Baby?

I don't see anything wrong with asking her to wear it. You can't "force" her to wear it of course, but you can certianly tell her you would like for her to wear it and see how she feels about it. I would think that she would be more than happy to wear it if she knows it would make you guys happy, especially if it will make her job easier (freeing up her hands)for some of the day. Nothing wrong with making a suggestion. Hopefully she'll love the idea! Congrats on Baby #2!

Congrats..
The only problem I see is that part of the reason for the sling is a one on one relationship with you and your baby. The baby will know your smell, your touch, your voice and the nannies will be different. He may react a little differently to her.
We used a front papoose carrier when our baby was new and if anyone but me or my husband wore it he acted different. But he was still was a good baby.
But one thing you might want to think about is the nanny will be spending time with you 25 month old alot and she may not feel as comfortable with the sling as you because she will be running and playing with you daughter. Just a thought.

Good Luck,

I do believe that the sling is used to help in the bonding process to mom and dad. But if you want the baby to bond to the nanny that is up to you. I agree with the fact that she will be really busy with the other two, also. I think you will find it difficult to do, too. Your 25 month old will be needier and want your undivided attention too. If you are working it will be more important than ever to really give your 1st born that bonding time too. This is probably a new technique that someone is suggesting. But remember many techniques are trends, or a way for someone to make some money with this new invention. I do believe that babies need to be held all the time too. And hopefully the nanny will be doing that anyway. If there were an emergency would she or you be able to get out of it fast. Without hurting the baby or others??? Try it on and put something around 8 pounds in it and play with your 25 month old before baby gets here. Can you handle it?? Now add a third to the mix. Baby number three in my family got a lot less holding time...but a lot of sibling and friend time. He is so independent and loving. And I must say the best behaved of all of them...He is going to be three.

I wonder if this is the same wrap I bought for nursing purposes. It was hot and a pain to wrap. SO good luck and practice. Remember to spend more time gazing into his/her eyes. AND talk talk talk to hin/her. The work will get done later. Have fun !!!

ABSOLUTELY!
I think it's awesome you like her enough to wear your baby, and awesome that you care so much for your baby to go that extra step for her/him.

My best friend nannied while in school for early childhood ed. and she wore the baby while she cared for the toddlers.

Baby wearing is convenient! It will help free her hands up too, so it's super practical for her if she is into it.

It does promote bonding but who cares if it's not the mom or dad! I let friends wear my baby. It's body-on-body, babies like bodies no matter who is attached to it. Tribal people wear each other babies. I to this date carry my son's best friend (they're 3 years old!) in front of my son, and they take baths together. I treat him like my own. I think it's good for my son to see me be shared with others. And I think it's awesome for a baby to know lots of people and feel comfortable with others. Baby wearing is creating social personality too.

I hope it goes well, I think it's a great idea!

(PS You may have to find the style of babywear that is comfortable for her. Personally, I liked slings over wraps.)

Hi DaVinci,
I was a live in nanny before I was mom and did wear my charges it made my life easier for the same reasons it makes a mom life easier. I am sure if you bring up parenting styles the same way you bring up other issues with her she will be receptive to wearing the baby too. Congrats on number two!
J.

I have a 5 month old and recently took in a 4 month for in home childcare and she is a bit fussy and I wear her ( in my moby wrap or baby bjorn) during our walks and to help get her drowsy. She started with me just last week and today her mom told me I was doing an "amazing job". She said her daughter has a happy demeanor and they get sleep now. Previously she was sleeping with them in their bed and refused to stay asleep in her crib. Currently I have her sleeping with my daughter in her crib and without a swaddler blanket. Perhaps the baby wearing helped with our new and fast bond. Either way the parents mentioned they wear her so I offered to do the same. I don't see why your nanny would oppose! = ) And your right it would be a plus for her as the other little ones need her arms available for other tasks!

First of all let me say "Kudo's" to you for being so informed about the importance of attachment nurturing and bonding. I wore my both my kids (now 18 & 21) a lot. First in a front carrier and then in a back carrier.

We also have a daughter 13 who we adopted at age 4. She was never given the opportunity to "attach" to anyone in the first 3 years of life which is the most critical time in a child's life. Now she suffers from Reactive Attachment Disorder and to say the least life holds many challenges with her. She was also born addicted to crack.
But thank God has no disabilities other than adhd.

I also wanted to tell you that for many years I directed a large childcare center. I encouraged the baby room staff to wear the babies as much as possible.
I myself would often go get babies from the baby room and put them in a carrier if they were having a very bad day and just needed some comforting. I would then go about my usual work routine with them in the carrier. Parents really appreciated this.

So talk to your nanny, sounds like she won't mind a bit.
Good luck!
L.

I'm guessing that, because this will be a newborn, your nanny is going to be holding the baby a lot, no matter what. My daughter hated the sling; my son liked it but not for long. I personally didn't like it - it was never comfortable to me. I would talk to her and would encourage her to wear it but, if she doesn't want to wear it, how are you going to feel about this "really cool nanny who you love" If she doesn't oblige? I think the greatest thing that you have going for her is that you have a nanny you love - that speaks volumes. Yes...it's your child but....you entrust her with your baby. Good luck and hopefully, this is a non-issue and she loves the sling, too.

Nanny sounds like a great gal, so certainly do bring it up with her and see how she feels. She may not be able to wear it as long as you'd like because she will be busy with her daughter and yours during the day. I think it's true, too, that the baby may react differently to her wearing it than you. You have a great relationship with the nanny, so it sure can't hurt to sit down and talk about it. In the end, it is definitely more important for you to wear the baby anyway, so just try it out with her and see how it goes.

I had a wrap with my son and am getting a sling for my second child. If the nanny is watching her daughter, your toddler, and a newborn, she may appreiciate being able to wear the baby so she can have at least one free hand for the other children. I know there are lots of grandparents that babysit and wear the baby, so I wouldn't worry to much about the wearing making the baby bond too much with the nanny. I doubt she will be offended if you asked her to try it, and you can always tell her that she doesn't have to keep doing it if she doesn't like it.