Today one of my husbands employees (female) was to return from vacation in the Dominican Republic. She had a lay over in FL and for some issue with her baggage did not make the connection and was put on a waitlist with 12 others. There was a flight scheduled to go out at 4pm today and another at 9:30pm. As soon as my husband heard they didn't let her on the plane he immediately started looking for another flight for her and her two kids. Nice, however the complany paid for it. Considering she was not on a business trip don't you think it's odd that my husband used (what he says) the business flyer miles to pay for it.
A little more info. The employee works customer service (through email). I myself have done her job and my husband frequently helps her so the excuse of, "I want her back so she can work" seems fishy. Also, this is not the first time my husband has helped her. She's been employed maybe 6 months and this is the 3rd time they've (husband and his partner) done something like this. So, what do you think...overly nice or crossing the line?
She's not a single mom. Her husband can't enter the US though so she's here by herself with her kids and he's in the DR.
Definitely a little fishy. Maybe he is just trying to help her out since her husband is in another country? It doesn't sound like her job is too pressing, so I would definitely keep an eye on it.
I guess I am in the minority. Since it is your hubs and partner that is accomodating her I think they are being kind. She may be married but if her hubs can't enter the U.S she is essentially a single parent and they are doing a good deed. I am far from idealistic, however, it is a shame when a kind deed is done and everyone is suspicious. I got one and a half questions for you....Do you trust your husband and has he given you reason not to? Your answer will guide you to the right conclusion.
Is she a single Mom? Just wondering if she is and acts like she's a damsel in distress with your husband....
Definitely odd.
Uhm so what? Sorry to be so crude but unless you find a real reason to be suspicious, business is business and if you don't treat your employees properly they go somewhere else.........
I don't believe men are all innocent but I do believe that as a woman it can be hard sometimes be seperate our female anxiety from logic.........the way I see it if a man is cheating on a woman, all it takes is 5 minutes in a back alley........as woman all we can hope for is that if this is happening the truth comes to light.......BUT I myself have way to much dignity, pride, and work to fish around.....if I find out I move on........all I can do is hope that my husband love me enough not to play games.....
Something seems fishy....
You know, it's hard to judge something just from this message. It sounds like your husband and his partner are really decent guys. I don't think I would go looking for trouble, but just praise your husband greatly for his kindness and compassion. Tell him how much you respect him for what he is doing for this woman. How hard it must be to be here without her husband! Make sure your husband gets his affirmation from you. :)
I hate to say it, but I would look into it a little more closely. Hopefully he's just being nice.
You know what they say...if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck....
Hopefully your DH and his partner are just awesomely sympathetic and kind people.
I doubt too many people are in that desperate need of having their CSR back to work. Weird.
He's telling you everything and he's doing it with his partner that's a good thing. Are you on good terms with the partner's wife? Why don't you call her and see how she feels about the whole thing? If it bothers you than be up front and speak up, you'll understand him once he tells you. I'm a firm believer in my gutt instinct. Go with your gutt too. Always confront, don't hold back. Things will get resolved a lot faster. Hope everythin goes well.
Why would his boss be involved too I don't think a married women with kids would be involved with his boss and your husband though he really shouldn't be involved with her when she's on vacation who contacted who?
It sounds fishy to me. Unless she missed her flight through her own negligence, the airline will take care of putting her on the next available flight. Sometimes, they'll do it anyway...even if it wasn't due to a delay and you just missed it for whatever reason.
Whether or not her baggage made it on the plane has nothing to do with her getting on the plane. As long as you got on a plane at some point with your bags, the airline takes possession of your bags. I've flown through Miami to the DO several times...I've always had to get my bags and clear customs before catching my connection. Maybe the bags didn't get on in DO and she couldn't clear customs until she had them?
Last minute tickets can be hard to get (I travel several times a months for business and can't remember the last time there was an available seat). Buying them with points would be a little crazy too...limited seats and a whole bunch of points.
Your husband could be a genuinely nice guy that was worried about her being stranded...but I think the airline could get her out faster than he could.
Why are you asking??! Clearly, there is much more going on than this for you to become so suspicious. After all, would you be asking these questions if this employee were a man? (If your answer to that is yes, then my response is that it's really none of your business how nicely your husband and his partner treat their employees) You need to talk to you husband, not about this employee, but about whatever else it is that is making you mistrust him, because mistrust has no place in a marriage.
Not normal in my book.
It does seem fishy. I would talk to your husband and tell him your concerns. It doesn't sound like it is a cheating issue if you say his partner is also helping out. She may be one of those women who flirts to get what she wants. It sounds like she could be one of those manipulative women who like to create drama and then reap the rewards when people come rushing to help her.
Also, ask him how much they have spent fixing her problems. Is it worth the extra revenue that she has made the company? Or is she a user?
yes, sounds weird and not exactly professional
I wouldn't say it's crossing the line, but would agree that something is quite right.
I don't know. If he was interested in her, would he making such a public display in front of you? My husband is chivalrous to the ends of the earth with or without me around. I would expect nothing less from him.
What would I do? I would ask why - in a non-accusatory tone. When you ask, show sincere concern for her and her situation (yes, a little manipulation) - your husband may respond with the answer your looking for. Now, if he gets defensive...you may need to worry (unless you have shown jealous tendencies before).
It sounds like maybe your husband owns his own business w/ a partner. B/c he is a owner, using the flyer miles would not be that unusual if the company has a lot to use.
I hope you find your answers and are comfortable with the situation...
When you say "partner", I'm thinking that this is perhaps a law firm. I've had the experience of working for corporate America and working for a law firm where there were partners. In corporate, what your husband and his partner are doing would be a big no-no as there are policies in place that prohibit this kind of thing from happening. They would have to answer to human resources if something inappropriate was going on. People in corporate tendb to be more self-oriented and not personal with one another. Now, when I worked for the law firm, it was more of a family like environment whereas something like what you are describing is very normal in that type of workplace. When I switched industries, this type of friendly helpful family work environment was shocking at first and I thought it was unprofessional, but it's the norm in some firms. In fact, several of the bosses would do things for their support staff like drive them to the airport or even help them pick out wedding dresses and vice versa. I hope this helps you rest easier:)
M.
Ditto what Anna Lee B. said.
