L.H.
here is a great resource:
http://www.centerforautism.com/
search for a local autism support group, via the above site, (asberger's falls under the same 'umbrella' as autism) for parents because the people will know all the dirt on what services a diagnosis will get you, where to go for a faster diagnosis, what providers have good services etc. Your basic gossip hotline...
here's another good resource:
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/healthinformation/autismmenu.cfm