Inappropriate Behavior

I don't think your son's behavior is uncommon. I've heard about behavior and have seen behavior like that alot at that age. If that makes you feel any better.

My daughter is in kindergarten and comes home daily with reports of this little boy in her class kissing all the girls. My daughter is terrified of boys and things it's just gross but apparently some of the girls in her class like the attention and do it back. I think at this age it's harmless curiousity and they're just really curious. Acting out what maybe mom and dad do at home. I would definately have a talk and keep reminding him of appropriate touching and playing. I wouldn't worry about it unless it continues at a older age.

My daughter had a playdate over last week. A little boy. Being a only child she was extrememly excited. She chased him around and flirted and kept pretending to tackle him. Then he asked my 5 year old to be his girlfriend. I thought it was really cute and funny. Until my little girl was hysterical and was hiding. She kept saying she was scared and she didn't want to have boyfriend they all have cooties.

My middle son has problems with touching at school. He just can't keep his hands to himself for the life of him. They told me of one incident like this earlier in the year where he grabbed a hold of the back of a litle girls pants while she was sitting in front of him and pulled them way out. Right now we are using a sticker chart at school. He gets sticker every half an hour he keeps his hands to himself. It works pretty well. Of coarse we aren't expecting no x's yet but we're working up to it. (he gets an x on his chart if he touches someone instead of the sticker) I would see what the guidance counselor has to say. He is probably just a curious little boy that doesn't fully understand that it's wrong to look up someone's skirt. Good luck to you!

I don't think its anything to worry about. I remember when I was in grade school (I went to parochial school, so all the girls had to wear skirts) the boys used to chase us around out on the playground a lift up our skirts. This was in probably first/second grade. I remember the principal coming in to our classroom several times to reprimand the boys and to tell them if they didn't stop, then the girls were going to run around and pull down their zippers.

I have a child enrolled in my program that has a similar personality of loving to hug and kiss and hold other children. He too is 6 years of age, when this behavior first began taking place, I became concerned because I know he's just trying to show affection, in his case, I beleive it is due to lack of (he does not live with his parents, but rather his grandparents) so I think he's overly affectionate due to his lack of affection from his parents. Obviously this situation is a bit different, but although he hasn't looked up skirts, being overly affectionate with others can be a turn off or even frightening to other children if they do not wish to be hugged or kissed etc. What helped in this situation with me, was to continue to discuss that we ask permission before showing affection, LOL, obviously I know your son cannot ask permission to view what is hidden underneath someone's skirt. Is he curious about your undergarnments at home? Not saying he looks up your skirt in particular, but does he show interest in your personal clothing in your drawers? I would definitely meet with the counselor, as planned, and just continue to talk to your son about how inapropriate his behavior is, and let him know it has serious consequences, and that it makes people very uncomfortable. I am sure this advice is something you're currently doing, all I say, is keep up the good work, continuing to talk and keep the communication open between the two of you is the best advice I think. Maybe asking him what his reasoning is? Is he curious? Like the colors? Etc. it could help you to understand his want to do this. Obviously, you know he isn't doing it out perversion, he's 6, he's probably being extra curious about something that he shouldn't be, but he doesn't understand.

I'm rambling...as always. Good luck!

S.

I think he is just curious, nothing to freak out about. Just remind him that not ok. I had a 4yr old that loved to try to look down my shirt. At first I was shocked, but then I realize its nothing to make him feel ashamed about, he is curious. We have to understand that but thats a sign that they are ready for the good/bad touch talk and privacy parts. Good Luck :)

You know, I have to say, I think the school is overreacting with the counselor. I mean obviously he can't be looking up people's skirts, but he's, um, 6? It's not like he's a junior high kid, you know? If he's getting such a huge reaction, he might just be doing it for the attention. Follow through as recommended, but I would support you in making sure your son isn't overly disciplined and shamed on this.