In Need of Some Motiviation

Just in case, next appt get tested for anemia. I had it my last pregnancy and stayed exhausted.

I give you permission to lay about and gestate in peace. Do only what must be done to keep people alive and well, and let the rest go. Now give yourself that same permission and be happy.

Hugs. I felt that way too, but between moving house, and reporting to work, I didn't have time or the option to wallow in it.

Would it help if I reminded you that as tired as you feel now, you will likely be more tired after labor, delivery, b/f and tending to your needs, the needs of a newborn, your kids, your hub and your home? That might get you up and going.

Best,
F. B.

Give yourself another week or two to be a slug. You deserve to slow down a bit and let others pick up the slack. Growing a human is a lot of hard work so be kind to yourself.

When I want to get motivated I write stuff down. It feels good to check things off a list and see progress being made. My oldest daughter has a white board in her kitchen and she loves to cross things off. My second daughter has a chalk board at her house to keep track of stuff to do.

I never nested other than making sure the baby stuff was washed and ready. I never cooked ahead of time and froze a single thing. The house was stocked with food all the time so really other than someone needing to stop of bread or milk there was nothing to really get done. Plus unless you are hauling stuff to the laundrymat it's pretty easy to throw a load or two in while you are doing other things.

Well, that was going to be my first comment - what about nesting? Write a list of what you need to get done. That's the first motivation you need. Then start tackling the list. Decide on a particular stopping point with each job and make that the goal - when you get to rest. Breaking up a job into small pieces will help when you really aren't motivated to do any of it. Mark off each job so that you get a feeling of accomplishment.

If you knew you were going into surgery in a week, what would you want to make sure you got done beforehand? Paying bills, preparing meals that could be pulled out of the freezer and pulled out easily, making sure there's enough groceries in the house, making sure you have the supplies at home you are going to need to recuperate (stool softeners, maxi pads, etc) so that you don't have to send your husband to get these personal items, these kinds of things. And making sure you have the beginnings of what you need for baby.

Honestly, it seems like 8 weeks off is a lot. What you don't want to have happen is find yourself in early labor and then be upset that you didn't get anything done, and here you lay in the hospital or at home on forced 100% bedrest. Then you'll be kicking yourself for not having gotten your work done.

Drink lots of water and pee as often as you need to go. The uterus is a smooth muscle tissue and if it becomes dehydrated (which happens if you don't drink enough), it will contract. And, if you have a full bladder, it presses on the uterus and causes it to contract. So drink and pee, drink and pee! You might not even realize that you're having contractions, and you do NOT want to go into labor at 32 weeks.

This next month is very important to the health of your baby. Look at this month as your last rung climbing the ladder to the health of this baby. You can do it! And while you're doing it, you can finish preparing for the birth of the baby. And the more you do it, the less you'll feel like the fat cow, I promise!

It's okay. Every pregnancy is different. This time around, you're feeling like a beached whale. Remember that you won't be that way forever (you'll even meet your feet again)! Thank everyone in your family for all the help! Do what you *can* do, which may be mostly mental. Plan for the "nesting" (do you really have a lot to do?) and see who can help you. Keep your attitude positive and gracious. You might talk to your doctor about your lack of energy, just in case there's a question of anemia.