In-laws Want to Bring Dog When Come to Visit - Allergic!

I would absolutely put my foot down! I realize that some people are really attached to their pets, but really, they need to have some respect for the situation. Although I think it is really nice that you have made arrangements for their animal in the past, I would not even go that far. I don't mean to sound so crabby about it, but I used have a similar situation with my ex-sister-in-law, and found it unbelievably rude and frustrating that they were more worried about leaving their dog than my family's feelings/health. Good luck!

Hi S., Wow, I am sorry you have to deal with such insensitive in-laws! They should ALWAYS respect your wishes. Tell them it's no dog or no visit. I have had horrible problems with my in-laws over the last 6 years but I FINALLY put my foot down and said if they can't abide by what is best for our kids then they can NOT see them.
I would also tell them to think of your son instead of themselves or their animal. In fact, why don't you ask them, "Do you care more for your dog than you do for your grandchild?" It's an honest question.
Once I stated the boundaries with my in-laws, things got much better. It took 6 months of no contact with them (and we live 12 miles apart) to make them realize that they were in the wrong and that we meant business.
Stand your ground! You have obviously had to do it before but I am telling you.....Don't ever feel bad for stating your boundary! I hope your hubby backs you up 100%!
They do not have to understand why, their job is to respect you, your hubby and your son. Be as honest as you can be. Many people are self serving and don't care about anyones needs other than their own until they are held accountable.
GOOD JOB!!!! :)

Very inconsiderate is all I have to say! We have a dog and she sometimes travels with us, but we would never take her if the host did not want us too. Even if your son is not allergic, the fact that you do not want a dog in your house should be enough reason. I say, if they can not respect your wishes, they should not stay with you. If they want to come and insist on bringing their dog...give them a list of local hotels that accept dogs (many of them do).

Dear S.--It is so difficult when people, especially family members--do not take the time to understand the protections kids need when they have allergies. I think you firmly need to put your foot down about the dog coming to your home. Maybe your MIL needs some "other authority" information--internet support or info from your doctor --that would point the direction and alleviate the stress on you to be the "bad" guy. Make your hubby stick up for your home--it's HIS mom!! Good luck--I feel for you!

Hi S.,

I would think that your in-laws would be more concerned about making their grandson sick than where their dog has to stay. The only possibility of them bringing their dog would be if they have a kennel and would leave their dog in your garage. I don't blame you for not wanting dog dander in your home, although I love pets, I still understand where you are coming from. If I had a child that had allergic reactions to pet hair, I would be the same way. Maybe your husband should talk to them about this situation...they might be more willing to listen to him. Good luck!

C.

I would stand firm on what you expectations are. When you say no dogs it should be no dogs. This is your home and you have that right to say so- As for you inlaws they as adults should respect that. I understand how you feel- I grew up with dogs in my house as a child however I do not want one in our home. My kids keep begging for a dog, but I have to say no. I have allergies and I do not want the extra responsibilities in care and clean up of a pet. I have enough with 2 kids, a house & a full time job doing this solo. Good luck!