First of all... our "A little about me" sections start out exactly the same..lol So, at first I was thinking--I didn't post this did I?
Well.. you are getting some VERY conflicted advice on this subject, which doesn't surprise me because everyone feels very strongly about this subject and very differently on it.
I thought that I would chime in and add a vote to team "Don't let her cry it out". A child's only form of communication is to cry-and they need to know you're there. You know that feeling that you get when she cries? That "in the pit of your heart and gut" feeling that just tells you that you HAVE to do something-that you NEED to do something to make be happy and okay???? That's there for a reason. It's because as a mommy it is our job to be the one that never lets our kids cry.
Having said all of that..... I know for a fact what it's like to have a kiddo who cries in the crib. My son is 15 months old and when he was about 8 months old I put him in bed with us for a "few days" just like you did..lol (You live you learn, right?) He is still in our bed because we are moving next month and I don't want to put too many changes on him at once. I've heard that's really bad to do. But about a month after we move and get settled in he's in the toddler bed for good!
He has been introduced (and actually has come to like) the toddler bed at nap time though... He's "accepted it."
But--now that he's older he will sleep in a toddler bed BUT not a crib when I want him to. I was really surprised when I figured this out. I finally realized that once he got used to our bed he didn't want to go back to the confinenment of a crib. It makes sense to me now.
So, my advice if nothing else works... get a toddler bed (put lots of pillows on the ground but she'll learn fast not to roll out even being that young-if she ever even does at all. My son has never fallen out of it). Skip out on the pillow for a few months until she's at less of a risk for SIDS-but then I would add a pillow in there too.
The great thing about laying the baby in the toddler bed instead of a crib is because you can lay them there and squat down beside it and lay your head down by theirs too while you pat her or sing to her until she falls asleep. Then you can go crawl in your OWN bed.
My son has learned that when he's on the toddler bed that I'm going to walk away. He expects it and because of this he is also better at getting himself back to sleep when he wakes up. He'll roll over or whatever instead of just crying and waking me up.
I know you might think she's too young, but I would say try it and it will work. Think about it... Let's say it takes you a month to get her into her crib (of sleepless nights) then 6 months later you have to introduce her to the toddler bed anyway... you'd be killing two birds with one stone here.
Let us know what you decide!! Good luck!!
J.
PS--If you wanna chat with another 22 year old UALR student email me. :)