I'm about at the end of my rope, with my 4 year old. He is acting up in preschool, too were they are treating to kick him out. He want sit still, he's jumping off his bunk beds at home and the tables at school, hitting the teacher calling her names, hitting the kids in school. Last week he pulled down his pants, his peeing on himself, when he is fully potty trained. When I talked to him about his action he started laughing, and I told him son that is not funny AT ALL. Yesterday, I just broke down and cried at work, because everyday they call me about something he has done Iin school, and my sitter has to go and pick him up for acting up in school. He was doing this when school started but stopped. And now he is starting up again. I said to myself he just had to get used to going to school and being around other children. Because his grandmother keep him since he was a new born. And my kid loves school, that's why I don't understand why he acting this way in school. To make a long story short I told the sitter not too take him to school today or tomorrow. Because I just don't want them calling me any more about my son action everyday. They said I should have him checked out for ADHD. I have a aunt who is the chief doctor for babies at the University Hospital. She wants me to bring him to her so she can check him out. I just want some type of help for him if he needs it. I told his father I will not send him back until he see's my aunt. Are any of you moms going thru something like this.
We go to the doctors on April 21st, so that my aunt can check him out. I will keep you posted. Thanks for everyone's comments.
Kim I've been there just go to your local school district for testing start their, they will help you along the way. Oh, yeah you can stop spanking that will not help. Explain to your son that together you can over come this. My son was in 1st grade, now he is in College and doing great.
Hi K.,
I am a mother and also an educator. Of course we all want what is best for our children. My first suggestion for you is not to rush into your son being tested for ADHD.
Many people are quick to diagnose children with this disorder because of a child's behavior. Continue to research.After a child is diagnosed with ADHD they are quick to put them on some type of medication and also label them within the educational system as having some type of behavior problem which makes it difficult for them to learn, hence the child is the one that that is at a disadvantage. Also many children use ADHD as a crutch which eventually escalates into another problem. Secondly send someone that you trust into the school where he is attending and observe the classroom structure. If he behaved like this, stopped, and then regressed, maybe its something that is happening in the classroom to trigger this type of behavior. Thirdly, talk to your pediatrician about perhaps placing him on a special diet for a while and see how he responds to this. Many times children act out because of the types of food that they are consuming. Good Luck!
If you know there is a problem, I would send him to your aunt for evaluation. If he does have ADHD, let him receive help before it gets too out of hand and unable to control. Go to this site and read about ADHD and see if your son is experiencing some symptoms, http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/adhd.html. I am studying child psychology in school and have read a lot about children with ADHD. I hope everything works out for you. I am happy that you are admitting it because most parents don't and are denial.
Good Morning K.
I have a child with ADHD and it is challenging! My suggestion to you is, take your son to a doctor. He may need medicine for this. There are a ton of different medicines out there now, so you will need to find the right doctor who is up to date with ADD/ADHD, who will work with you and your child. I know there will be some people who respond stating no medicines, but if someone were diabetic, they would take medicine for it. ADHD is an illness also which needs medical help!
Hang in there! Hope this helps
God's Blessings to you and your family
D.
If he is having so many problems then it is time to have him tested. Have him seen by his dad's aunt, but also ask your local public school for a complete educational evaluation. (Do it in writing and keep a copy.) Your local school may not have a public preschool, but they do test them. This is a federal law, so it doesn't matter where you live, although local laws can vary. Medical diagnoses are not the same as school testing, so definitely do both. If he is having so many problems he may qualify for Early Childhood education. He may have ADHD or another learning problem or just be acting out in school, especially if it only happens in school. Luckily your aunt may be able to steer you in the right direction.
I have two children with pretty severe issues, mostly medical, so have been through testing over and over again. Sometimes it is difficult emotionally but worth it to get the right services!
hi i'm sure your aunt will tell you this i've heard on talk shows about adhd, check his diet some foods he may be eating can also be the source. dairy you may need to go to organic products. i hope this helps it worth a try, be blessed
I completely understand your frustrations. While my son isn't exhibiting such "severe" behaviors, we can definitely sense something, especially since his father has ADHD.
I know they don't like to diagnose ADD/ADHD so early, usually waiting until 6 or so. At least that was the advice I was given. So I talked to a few friends with children in the same boat and I'll pass along what they've told me.
Find a developmental pediatrician if your reg one isn't helpful. They are trained in ADD, autism, etc... Here you'll hopefully get a clearer picture and trustworthy diagnosis.
In the meantime, watch his diet. Eliminate red dye #40 and yellow dye, which tend to be in everything, and high fructose corn syrup, again, in most of what we eat. I've been told of great success with this. How much calmer the kids are, and capable of listening and making good decisions.
My son sees his regular pediatrician next month, so in the meantime I'm altering his diet and researching some discipline/behavioral methods that I can use now at his age.
Good luck, I know for many it's a long road, fighting for a diagnosis and then appropriate treatment and educational support.
J.
Talk to the Daycare, they should know if he is showing signs of ADHD.
We noticed signs from my son at about 8. The school actually suggested and they tested him. We got the evaulation report then went to our doctor who referred us to a physcoloist (spelling sorry :( ).
My has a very mild case and is on the lowest possible does of Concerta. His grades improved, his behavior improved. And now is going on 14 and I can tell when he "forgets" to take it. He now doesn't like taking it because he loses his appetite...so on the weekends I let him not take it.
