"I Now Get Whiney Daughter."

Sounds like you got whiny daughter AND whiny husband. Maybe they both need a nap or a time out!

:)

Before he knows it she will be getting ready for her Senior year of high school, applying to colleges and be too busy for daddy daughter dates.

Time flies!! our daughter is just what I described, except she is kind enough to still enjoy precious family time. She will head off to college in the fall of 2013

Thank God ny husband is pretty good about not behaving like that. Isn't it ironic how they are usually away from the kids MUCH longer than we are yet have no patience for anything? What are the kids supposed to do do? Just be difficult with mom?

He needs to quit griping.....he needs to just appreciate the time with her...period.....just take what ever he can get from her. He's got to experience all levels of her personality...whether cranky, or happy. :-) He can't just have one. It's unpredictable.

Your post is cute! And of course, Theresa's answer is darling!

If your daughter takes a usual nap, try to keep her on her schedule. Of course, a child's b-day party is important, so you definitely let her do that.

However, rather than dad having a daddy-daughter outing after the party, he should change it to another day. They will both be miserable.

And yes, he does experience the whole person, but he also has to understand that there is a REASON why we schedule kids.

Dawn

Personally I wouldn't hang out with whiny daughter so I wouldn't expect anyone else to.

Do you really go on outings when your daughter is below standard or are you speaking of life in general. It is one thing asking him to watch whiny at home but I would never ask my worst enemy to take any of my kids anywhere when they are sleep deprived.

He's gonna eat his words when "teenage daughter" arrives, and I hear she comes earlier and earlier these days.

This is funny to me. My (older) kids were at an all night Lock-In last night. I picked them up at 9:00 this morning, whereupon they both informed me that they stay up the ENTIRE night and did not sleep one wink.
We proceeded home (they had breakfast at the lock-in) and they fiddled around the house for about 30 minutes, then changed into their martial arts uniforms. I took them to their school, where they went with a group to the mall for demo's (kid's day at the mall, or something like that... it was a big thing). So they were at the mall for a few hours, hanging out, doing demo stuff, breaking boards, what have you.... then back to the karate school, where they were treated to pizza. I picked them up about 3:30, and they both fell asleep in the car on the 20 minute drive home. (As in, upright in the car, mouth agape and snoring loudly).
We got home, my eldest woke and said, "well, time to go inside and take another nap."

I sent them both straight to bed. They have been asleep since then, except for when we woke them up around 9 or 10 to go to the bathroom. Then sent them back to bed. Immediately back to sleep for both of them. Completely missed dinner. No shower.
But hopefully they will be recovered by morning. LOL

They had a blast at both events!

I'm with Jo on this one in that... We don't schedule back to back things. If my son missed his nap, we cancelled other things to accommodate for that.

Um... By we, I mean me. Even at 10 if my son is tired/hungry he'll fall apart.

It's a 'lesson learned' for dad not to plan in downtime / not schedule 2 big things (like birthday party then outing), and that plans change based on other things.

Well Yah! Of course she's going to be a mess after. We knew that when we RSVP'd.

DOESN'T mean that he should only parent her during the good and you get the everything, though! Just means planning ahead when possible. PERSONALLY, I'd do a movie afternoon / low energy afternoon so that quiet time can help mitigate the tired factor.

Yep, right.
He is a Dad... and that means, you don't get to choose, when to be with your daughter. You are a parent 24/7.
No matter what age they are, no matter what mood they are, no matter if they are sick/ill/whiney/moody/hungry/tired/sleep deprived/over-tired or whatever.

I have a daughter.
My Husband, even if she is whiney... he knows how to, manage her.
In a nice way.
My daughter is not usually whiney... but when she is... my Husband is sometimes more tolerant than even me.
My Husband and daughter, are close.
Even if my Hubby did not grow up with sisters.... and he can be irritating himself... I gotta give him credit... for being understanding of a "girl." Our daughter.

Heck, EVEN Husbands, get WHINEY.
Right?

Your Husband... would be wise to bond with his daughter... NO matter what mood she is in.
For example: when/if my daughter is whiney... my Husband will sit by her... talk calmly, and will ask her what is bothering her etc. Sometimes she just wants a hug. Sometimes she needs to talk about something that is bothering her. And my daughter knows... that her Dad, is there for her. NO matter what mood.
My daughter is 9, almost 10. And a daughter, NEEDS their Dad.
What if, the problem was reversed? Meaning, that your daughter did not like her Dad, when he was in a certain mood???? Would your Husband like that??? I doubt it. She would probably get punished for "whining" about her Dad.
TELL him that.

And instead of taking her out for Daddy time... why can't they just do something at home... or reschedule it??? For another day or another weekend?????
OR, they could have had their daddy-daughter time, IN the morning. Not after, that party.

Hubby also has to realize... that "whiney daughter"... no matter what age... will go through all the age phases, and then become a Teenager.... and may still whine... but with a different tone.
Hey, woman get PMS.

And one day, he will be walking her down the aisle... at her own wedding. And the pre-jitter wedding "whines" will.... occur.
LOL

Tell your Husband, to stop his, whining.