I Am Desperate to Find Help for Bedwetting Preteen Daughter

There is an oral medication (by prescription) called DDAVP.
You do not have to take it all the time, but you can. She could just take it on the nights that she goes to someone
elses house or all the time. It has great results. Talk to you daughters doctor to see if she is a candidate.
Good luck!
D.

B.,

I highly recommend that you try the drug free route first. I have heard my Chiropractor talk about helping children that wet the bed. I see Dr. Christine Moore in Plano. She also deals with nutritional issues. She is very gentle and will be able to help you. At least go for a consult. Her number is ###-###-####

B., I,know a great chiropracter that can does great with bedwetters just by adjusting them. It worked for my friends eight year old. The chiro can explain more how it works, but she can usually get rid of the problem and does many other things for children. I've seen her for my back and other things she's great. Dr J. Ridley @ ###-###-####.

Hi B.!

Have you tried Chiropractic care? I am a chiropractor and I have treated many older children that had problems with bed wetting. The nerves that supply the bladder come out of the spine. If there is pressure on those nerves the bladder can not function properly. Kids usually respond very quickly to chiropractic care! We can also test for food allergies or nutritional deficiencies. If you are interested, give me a call at ###-###-#### or ###-###-####. I have locations in Plano and in Mesquite. If those are not convenient, I can try to refer you to someone in your area.

Dr. Sandra S.

I agree that she needs to be worked up by a doctor. Not only for bladder issues but it can also be a sign of type 1 diabetes. Please take her soon....

My daughter went through this. It turned out she had a sleeping disorder. A normal person's body functions slow dramatically during the night while their body is sleeping. Some adolescents have a problem with their body functions still running at normal metabolism --even when asleep. My doctor prescribed a nasal spray (sorry, don't remember the name) and it worked like a charm and she only had to use it for a short time and she was fine after that. You use the nasal spray at night before bedtime. btw -let her know that it isn't her fault.

B.,

My oldest daughter had this propulem until she was 12. I took her to many doctors, who ran many test. She was dignosed with ADD when she was in 1st grade and we choose to medicate that first year, which completly stoped the bed wetting. The doctor said many children with ADD are very heavy sleepers, so they do not feel the urge to go/ or wake up. However; I did not like the idea of medication, so after a year I begain researching some other options. Like you we tried everything, and found a bed wetting tablet at a whole food store. It really seemed to help. I believe walmart carries it now. I'm sorry I can't remember the name, but they also have teething tablets. It comes in a small white bottle, you place the tablet under your tongun and it disolves. It's worth a try:), and FYI my daughter did grow out of it around the time she got her first peroid. Hope this helps.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but in my situation and my son's NOTHING has seemed to work. My son is almost 9 and wets nearly every night. We have been to the docotor who prescribed DDAVP. It did not work. In fact before the DDAVP, he only wet about every other night. He is now after being off the DDAVP for a few months is almost back to only every other night (still alot, but better). He has also seen a urologist who did not want to do anything except the alarms. I HATE THE ALARMS!! I was a bedwetter until I was 18!! Yes, 18! Nothing worked for me either. Also, most of my bedwetting life, I was spanked for being wet. My aunt and uncle (I was living with at the time) did not realize that is was a medical issue. They thought I was too lazy to get up and go to the bathroom. I think the spankings were probably part of the reason I wet the bed so long. But anyway, then as soon as all the puberty changes were through (I was a very late bloomer as well), I stopped wetting the bed. Anyway, the urologist wanted to talk more about my daughter who had had a kidney infection with a fever!! I was so mad. I had made an appointment for my son and they hardly said two words to him. The little bit of advice I got from the urologist was LOTS of fluid during the day hours (before 6pm) (avoid Chocolate, Citrus, Caffine, and Carbonation), use the bathroom every two hours (and make sure ALL is out before getting up), bathroom before bed, and make sure that your child thinks it is as big of a problem as you do. My son does not really seem to be bothered if he is wet or not, so I do not have his cooperation on the liquads, bathroom, etc. The urologist said that until he decided he did not want to wet the bed anymore, it would be pointless to try to get him to stop.

Good luck to you. I hope something works out for you soon. I truly understand. Sorry this was so long.

J.

Please take her to a pediatrician that specializes in adolescents/teens. If you take her to a urologist - please take her to one at Cook's or Children's - depending on whether you are Tarrant or Dallas County. A family doctor or general urologist will not be as helpful. We are in a wealth of great doctors in this area, so don't waste her time with the wrong one. Good luck!

My brother had this problem up until college. The doctor can prescribe medicine for this. I believe it was a nose spray. It helped him A LOT! Hope this helps.

Have you tried chiropractic care? I have heard that it really works. A. B.

Hi B.,
Poor girl! That must be so frustrating. Have you spoken with her pediatrician about it? By this age something like this could be an issue beyond childhood bedwetting...not to scare you, but if you haven't already I would definitely talk to her doc about it.
God bless,
K.

Try removing dairy from her diet. I was a bedwetter until I was almost 10 and didn't learn until years later that a dairy allergy was likely the culprit. Here's an article that discusses this as one of the symptoms:
http://www.caringmedical.com/conditions/Dairy_Allergy.htm

I also noticed that there seem to be disposable "diapers/underwear" targetted for bigger kids with this problem. That might be something that could tide her over until you get the problem resolved. I wish they had been available when I was a kid.

Also, as others have suggested, you want to rule out a true physical issue, but I would have assumed your pediatrician had already done that. Your daughter may also just be a very deep sleeper and just hasn't matured enough for the signal that she needs to pee can wake her up.

Yes, my son wet the bed every night for 11 years and still does once in a great while and he's 16.

The doctor said some kids lack enough of a hormone that tells their kidneys to shut off production of urine. This hormone is triggered by sleep. If you're kid doesn't have enough, then the kidneys don't shut down and the bladder gets full and they wet the bed.

DDAVP in nasal spray or pill form can be prescribed by your doctor to help your daughter. You need to go in and ask specifically about this med.

My son has the same problem with wetting daytime and nighttime. I took to an urologist and had him scoped. The dr said his bladder walls are thicker than normal and could be having spams he can't controll which is causing this. He also is a very heavy sleeper so the bellpad didn't work with him either. But now that he knows it is something he can't totally control he feels better bout it. Luckily over time it has gotten better for him.

Have you seen a dr about this issue? I know there are many medical problems that can cause loss of urine (I am dealing with "accidents" now myself), but there are also medications that can help! I am going to go see my dr next week about going on the medication that stops the frequency and urgency that could very well be causing your daughters problem...

Definately something to look into!!!
Keep us posted!
hugs
H.

B., I think this is an issue that needs to be addressed with your daughter's doctor. This is obviously not the norm for an adolescent to have this type of problem so some medical intervention sounds very appropriate. I know this has to be weighing on her self esteem so get her to the doctor soon. I hope there's a solution not too far off, this can't be fun for her.

Hi! My sister was a bedwetter (she started right after my parents divorced around age 5 and continued until she was about 11) and all of the obvious "fixes" (limit fluids, bathroom right before bed, etc) weren't working. Apparently there were some family issues she was having a hard time understanding and that was the ultimate cause for her bedwetting. We had no idea because she seemed fine and appeared to understand as well as a child her age could and our parents relationship was still very friendly. Our life was normal except for dad now lived down the road. Anyway, we took her to a psychologist/therapist and it wasn't too long after that that she stopped wetting the bed. I have no idea what they said or what came out to fix the problem, but it worked! I guess it could have been coincidence...who knows! Hope this helps and good luck!

B.,

You need to have her bladder checked. If this is happening this frequently, there is a medical reason and it is not something she can control.

My parents had to take me to several specialist when I was in the 3rd grade. Finally one of the doctors found that my bladder was mishappen. It is supposed to be shaped like a fist, mine was shaped like a football. My uterus was also shaped like a heart, so my body is the game of operation. Who knows what my funny bone looks like. Anyway, that being said, you can't stop with one doctor. If one is telling you she is just lazy, they are wrong! Go to another one. I had to have surgery to correct mine, but I have heard there are great medications for similar issues.

I remember the embarrassment and having to come home early from a slumber party. They didn't have pullups back then and I don't think I would have worn them anyway. It does affect your self-esteem tremendously!!! I completely feel for her!

Good luck to you and her!

Jodi

My doctor had me take my son to Childrens to get some tests to make sure nothing was wrong. Then he gave him some medication and he stopped wetting the bed after a few months. Talk to her dr if he wont do it find a dr that will.

Most definitely start with your pediatrician, and don't take "laziness" as an answer. Like any other medical issue, keep a log of every episode, what she had to eat & drink as well as what time, etc. I know this sounds funny, but ask your daughter what she is dreaming about when she wets the bed. While it didn't happen often, it still happens and I'm 43 years old...if I dream I am in a bathroom or sitting on a toilet, I may be actually going or about to go. The dream probably comes on because my bladder is full. That might be something to add to the log. Documentation is very important when you go to the doctor, and especially if you are referred to a specialist. Good luck, and as difficult as it is, try not to make a huge issue. Just keep clean sheets available, make sure the mattress has a plastic cover over it (use shower curtain liners--much cheaper!)and keep clean PJs out for her, too.