Dear D.,
I have to go to work in just a few minutes but I had to respond to your problem. Please do not let her go to school like that that will lable her for the rest of her school life. You know how awful kids can be. My son is 6 years old, well he just turned 6, july the 10th. At the first start of summer I made up a list of chores that he had to do dailey. You know like pick up toys, bath etc., bed "without a fuss", and behavior. That kind of thing and at the end of each day he gets a star: red, his choice "not gold", for great: blue, for ok, and grey for not good. At the end of the week we sit down and add it all up. Red=$1, Bule=$.50, Grey=$.00. You will have to do this with your other daughter too but make hers more grown up, like dishes and so on. If you do not want to do money do something else, like as a reward take them to the movies just you and them. If only one does good then take only one to the movie or whatever. The other one will feel left out and do their best to be in on the fun the next time or make more money than the other wich ever choice you take. My son has saved over $200.00 now. It sort of makes me sad that I dont have to tell heim to take a bath any more or anything. You have to understand that he is an only child and we tried for a long time to have him. I dont want him to grow up too fast. Good luck and God be with you.
K.