Husband's Rough Scratchy Face!

RIGHT!?! Just shave men!
My daughter, who is now 4, does tell my DH that it hurts her and that he needs to shave. I do too. She probably got it from me, but I'm ok with thtat because she doesn't get these scratches anymore.
Just like children, men respond well to positive reinforcment. DH gets lots of kisses after a fresh shave (it is really funny, he has made a rituatl of getting smothered with kisses after a fresh shave)and as he gets more prickly, he gets less. It hurts, he knows it. He can choose to shave and get kisses or not and get cringes and limited kisses.

Tell him to either grow the beard or shave every day. If he goes to kiss her take her away and tell him you wont let him hurt her with those wiskers. Now reading that back sounds harsh you can be as nice or as rude as needed. Our parents were super gentle with us and some times we would get hurt while other kids could take the knocks. What I am tring to say is that you can raise your kiddo to be able to handle the rough cheeks.

This is going to sound ridiculous and your husband may not go for it, but....I saw recently on the show, The Doctor's, that a man had some sort of peel or something along those lines. His wife was complaining of the exact same thing. His face was really smooth afterwards and he looked so much younger. It's amazing how much better the man's face looked on TV. He looked so much younger.

This may sound mean but may work. If his whiskers are scratching your baby then it is in fact causing abrasions. Maybe put a very mild guilt trip on him and tell him that those abrasions can become infected with bacteria that could lead to dermatitis which not only could lead to her having to take antibiotics but also scarring. My husband has a mustache and goatee and it would poke me and our daughters when he kissed us so he has learned to do the fish face with each pucker so that he doesn't poke us anymore.

Just reading that made me think of my grandfather. He passed away 20 years ago but I still remember his razor and watching him shave 2 times a day. He used one of those old fashioned kind of razor with a double side and shaved both in the morning before he left and in the late afternoon when he came home. It was part of his afternoon ritual to come in put on his coveralls, shave and then go about his late afternoon evening business. I remember how bad it hurt when he didn't shave the 2nd time and he rubbed his face on us. I don't know any other way to approach him except to just tell him. Your stubble hurts me and I my skin is tougher than (insert name of child). Maybe he will get the idea. Good luck!

I have the same problem with my husband! After months of telling him, he finally told me, "if it hurts her she will let me know. She probably figures it is worth it to get kisses and snuggles from daddy." and I figured he was right. She might get irritated skin, but if it really bothered her, she would let me know. I know she loves it when he plays with her, so I wouldn't want him to stop unless it really did bother her.

I understand what you are saying. If your child cries because of this, it is hurting her. If she does not cry, I am going to guess, she is not being as irritated.. That being said. You should remind your husband that your child's skin is way more sensitive than an adults skin. Remind his that even women usually try not to hold a child too close to her hair or neck if she is wearing hairspray or perfume when we hold young children for the same reason. We do not want to hurt the child.

I remember when actor Kevin Kline said he and Tom Selleck had to do their kissing scene in the movie "In and Out". Kevin Kline said he did not mind the kissing part, it was the chafing from Toms facial hair that was the hardest to deal with!

I sale a shaving cream that helps soften up the hairs as well as the skin. It usually takes a couple of weeks. But it helps.
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Ug. good luck. My husband shaves only twice a week- sometimes once a week! He has sensitive skin and doesn't do well with any razors. My Dad also shaved twice a day so I wasn't used to that at all!
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This is a problem many men must deal with, and frequent shaving seems the best answer. You don't want to discourage the contact between Daddy and daughter, BUT you also don't want your daughter to have facial skin irritation which can change the soft texture of a girls skin and even lead to scaring as she grows up. So Daddy needs to go to that extra length to protect his little princess. That's life - get the best razors etc, tell him it's so worth it - just do it.