New here. How do you guys handle a husband who can't or won't remember to do anything? For example, he forgot to put flea med on the dogs AGAIN so now my poor dogs have fleas. We went through that b4 it was expensive and a lot of work to get rid of them. I don't want to spend the rest of my life nagging but if I don't see what happens.
I saw a sign recently that said:
"Ladies, if a man says he will do something, he will. There's no need to remind him every six months about it..."
Isn't that the truth!!
My ex and I were both genuinely forgetful. We got a big dry erase board and hung it in the kitchen. Anything that needed doing got written on the board and either checked off or erased when done.
I've had this problem with my hubbie. He said a list would work so now he gets a "honey do" list whenever I need anything done, and can't complain becuase he said it will work for him :)
My solution is that I do the important things myself. Important things have to do with the health and welfare of our daughter or our pets (although he tends to take very good care of his dog, better care than he takes of himself), money management, and anything that could cause longer term hardship if not done. Less important things I remind him, then if he forgets I let him deal with the fallout. If you jump in and help him clean up from his forgetfulness, there isn't any incentive for him to do better.
Welcome to the world of men.
I just think they are not as good at multi tasking & they take c/o what's top
priority in their book which I don't have a problem with. I've learned to
adjust.
I would let him take over all tasks that you know he is good at.
Then I take over stuff that's easy (fleas, cars washed etc).
I've taken over the mowing & now I like it.
I leave all the heavy lifting to him. He puts up the Christmas lights etc.
Don't nag just ask a couple of times. Maybe leave him a note. Then I'd take over the dog lea meds. Sorry for you and the dog.
Just try to remember of the things he does do while you're de-fleaing the dog.
You know what they say, if you want the job done right it's best to do it yourself!
Seriously though, my husband probably wouldn't be good at remembering stuff like medicating the dog. But he IS good about going to work every day and fixing things around the house (I have NO mechanical aptitude) so it pretty much evens out in the end.
If you REALLY need him to remember something I suppose you could leave post it notes on the bathroom mirror, or TV or computer screen (?)
One of my friends said something to me that has stuck with me...I clean our pool to bless my husband. It is his job and he wants to do it but doesn't get to it. So instead of nagging him, she chooses to clean the pool for him when he hasn't as of yet without giving him guilt. He appreciates her help. So little things, I choose to do to bless my husband that he doesn't get to: mowing the lawn, cleaning up after our dog, etc. I am very thankful that my husband chooses to go to work everyday, and works extra when he can and that blesses me. But I did find, nagging not only doesn't work, it makes them not do it more! Good Luck!
I am the forgetful one in my marriage. I have to make myself a list of what needs to be done and by when. If I don't make myself a list, both of us know I will forget. It gets put on our whiteboard. When a task is completed, usually another gets put on. But at least I know what to do.
Leave him little notes to remind him. :) Add smilies, hearts, I love you's, and compliments so he won't feel nagged.
Can you remind him without nagging?
