How to Handle 2Yr Old Mommy Preference

Honey, two year olds just like their Mommas. That is life. Just you wait though. It doesn't last forever. That little boy will dump you like a hot potato for his Dad when he gets older. It is nothing to get upset about, it is just life. If you want him to go running for his Dad even quicker, have another child. That will do it quick!

Enjoy this time that he prefers you. It won't last forever. One day he will be off and going and you will miss him needing you so much.

Well, since he is two, he may not have a very elabrate vocabulary, but you should try talking to him. See what the problem is, like why he does not want "daddy", and see if you can fix or help the situation/ If that does not work, try having "daddy" come with you and help your son when he has these times.

I know when I used to babysit twins, one of them did not like my boyfriend at the time, they seemed to be afraid of him or something, they just did not want to go near him. So what I did was I would always hold her, and get closer to him, and eventually I would be sitting on his lap with her on mine, then me on one knee and her on the other, and eventually, she was on his lap, and even fell asleep. The ting is, I had to work with her, and help her get more comfortable with him, and now she has no problem with him.

It's a mother son thing, your husband will just have to be a big boy and deal with it- it is NOTHING personal I am sure. You can't really make your child prefer one over the other- it's just nature- he's used to mom comforting him.

I know how you feel. I have a 2 1/2 yr old son and a 2 1/2 month old daughter. I am a stay at home mom (since a few months before my daughter was born). My son was used to just me and wanted comfort from just me. I could see the hurt on my husband's face. He works full time and long hours, so he doesn't get to spent a lot of time with him. He does help out a lot, playing with him when he gets home, putting him to bed every other night and weekends are always family time. When I was in the hospital for 4 days after having my daughter (C-section with a few issues), our son spent all his time with dad. Once I got home with her, he didn't want anything to do with me. I'd lay next to him during his nap and he would wake up and go curl up with daddy. It broke my heart! I literally cried over it. I know it was partially post-partum depression, but it gave me a little insight into the rejection my husband felt all that time. Now, things are back the way they were. I'm home with both my kids all day long. My daughter is breastfed, so when she cries and daddy picks her up, she wails for me. And our son comes to either one of us when he gets an owie that needs kissing, depending on who's closer. And he cries for daddy at night if he put him to bed or me if I did.
It's just a phase, and they will go back and forth in who they want to comfort them. It's good that they learn the differences between the way daddy comforts and the way mommy comforts and that both parents are there for them.

This is a phase that will go away on his own. You might want to start with both of you going in the room to make things right. You could sooth him and have daddy get his drink of water etc that way he can associate both of you with his needs. Or you can wait it out.. I know it is hard but it is not a personal thing, little boys generally just like their mommies and little girls like their daddies. Have no clue why but it works out that way. Good luck!

My daughter was the same way, she always wanted me to comfort her, so to me it is not a mother-son thing and for us it was not a mother-daughter thing. For us it was more I was the one that always comforter so my daughter for the first two years only was comforted by me and she thought I was the only one who could be there for her in a scary time.

It is just a habit (mine and her's), finally I stopped going in if she woke up at night and only let my husband go EVEN if she asked for me. It will be hard if he is screaming for you but he has to be taught that he can be comforted by both parents. My husband would tell my daughter, "Mommy needs her sleep but I am here for you." Also tell your husband what you do to comfort your son, rub his back, pick up & rock, sing a song or whatever (even show him what you do). Your husband might have to create his own techniques to comfort your son but most important is that if your husband goes in to comfort your son you have to stay out so your son learns that your husband is a person he can be comforted by and trust.

After a week or so your husband should be able to comfort your son without any problem. It might be a long week or so but it will really help the two of them create a closer bond. I have also found that I have my hubby take my daughter on errands to run so they spend more time alone (go to the park, pick up milk, library, whatever).

Hope you find something that works for your family!

When my children were young I did all the bathing, feeding, kissing the owies, most of the disipline and all of the diaper changes and toilet training. I held them and rocked them to sleep and my husband did what daddy's did back then. He came home turned on the tv, played with them and let me deal with the rest. It isn't surprising when one of them was hurt or woke up scared they cried for me instead of daddy. My brother in law on the other hand bathed and changed his daughter, got up during the night with her when she was a baby, rocked her to sleep and fed her when hungry and when we went camping with her when she was 18 months she woke up scared and cried for her daddy. My husband was shocked and asked why our daughter never cried for him like that. I told him when you bond with a child you teach him that you are there for everything, not just the fun stuff and for that reason when they need something they go to the one parent who gives it to them... in our daughters case it was mommy.. in my nieces case it was her daddy. He was much better with our son who was born 4 years later.. although he has yet to change a diaper or fix a bottle or give a bath...lol and we have our 3rd grandchild on the way.

We just went through this last year. However, I can say that in the last month it has changed from Mommy to Daddy. So just make sure to continue to include your hubby as much as you can (but don't force it) and just ensure him his time will come around.

At about that age, both of my girls preferred me over their dad. My husband being in Iraq for a year didn't help the situation with my oldest. I bath my kids, dress my kids, read to my kids, etc. Why wouldn't they want their mom? My husband was also hurt at first but has come to realize why it is probably happening. As my oldest is almost 6, she has started to change. The majority of the time she still wants mom but she's letting dad do alot more for her. Children naturally want their mom when they are hurt or scared cause it's usually mom that fixes these things.

Mine are now 5 and 7 - and they both went through stages where they prefer one parent over the other. I've found that over the years we parents get presented with opportunities to bond with our children and we have to take advantage of them. My daughter always preferred Daddy but Daddy wasn't always available with his work scheduled so sometimes I was her only choice. Recently, she started wanted to do "girl" things with me - like helping out in the kitchen or following me with her little lawn mower :-) My son always preferred me but he started wanting to do "guy" things with Dad - like target practicing or building things. I think we each have different skills and talents to share and I think that's what makes the bond stronger. I know it hurts when they give you that little scowl and say "I don't want YOU, I want Mommy", but try not to let it get to your heart. He doesn't mean to hurt anyone, it's just natural for him to want Mom's comfort. There will certainly be times when he'll only want Daddy. After all, Daddy IS the only one who can show him how to potty standing up :-)))

Its a phase. Just give it some time and he will probably do the same thing to you. ;)