We homeschool as private school is too expensive for us, so we based it on the most expensive private school until college, plus since I make all meals from scratch ( love to cook, not to save money but it does save money) we assumed that hubby would not have the time to homecook every night so either more eating out or more frozen meals that can be microwaved and that is more expensive. We also thought that an extra 1000 to 2000 a year while the kids were small would be helpful.
This ended up being 250,000 per child. Every time I have a new baby we get another 250,000, 20 year level, term, life insurance on me along with a child funeral rider (meaning if said child dies they pay for the funereal up to how ever much you want that to be... Ours is 10,000 dollars and is a .10 add on). Hubby has 800,000 on him but that doesn't reflect his income, more the fact I like the security of extra cash, just in case. Also we set up a trust to be the beneficiary of the insurance money, not me or hubby. The reason for this is if the unheard of happened and both of us dies at once we then wouldn't both have 55 to 60% of the money taken in death taxes for the kids. It cost us 1000 dollars with an attorney but gives us such peace of mind! Also we have a bank as executioner of the trust because You don't want the people/person that is going to care for your kids to think: JACKPOT!!!!$$$$$$$!!!!!!!, you want them to think: I love them so I want to raise them. If you just leave it to each other the money to raise the kids just goes to the new caregiver of the kids and they can just spend it on brand new cars and expensive vacations and then in 3 years... well, grandma gets the kids because the money has run out and the new caregiver doesn't want them anymore (and I know that no one thinks that their family would be like that, but when that much money is just there... well, some people go CRAZY when they were not before.)