How Late Do You and Your Husband Sleep in on the Weekends?

I don't get up until around 9-10am on the weekends. My kids sleep in until 8:30 at least. My husband works night shift, so he can't sleep in in the morning

My son is 8 and he never wakes up before 7. My body is kind of programmed to wake then since I do all week. About one or twice a month I'll sleep til 8 and it feels so late to me! But it feels great once In a while. My husband will get up with my son on those rare days.

My husband seems to hang in bed longer onthe weekends, sometimes past 8. I don't really care since I like being up. I chat with my son, have breakfast, play. My husband is sometimes just reading which is fine. That's how he relaxes.

my 13 year old is very independent these days so it's really up to us but when he was younger and needed more supervision, we would tag team it, i'd take sat to sleep in and my DH would take sunday or visa versa. Go Team. :-) S.

I woke my 16 yo up at 1:00 this afternoon. My 11 yo woke up at 10:30. My husband and I were the early risers today getting up at 10:00 am.

I think your kids are certainly old enough to take care of themselves until you get up.

It does not bother me at all when my husband sleeps in on the weekend. I do it too after all!!!

There is no need for you to get up on a weekend when your kids do! They are old enough to fend for themselves for a few hours in the morning. They can play quietly, watch TV and get themselves breakfast.

8:45 is not outrageous, honestly. Stop babying your kids and leave your husband alone. Unless there's a reason that he has to get up, just let him sleep and you do the same for yourself.

Our weekends depend on what's going on. When there's an early morning hockey game or practice, one of us will get up as early as 4:30 AM. If I'm teaching a 9 AM class, I'll often get up before 7 to workout and shower. If I'm not teaching and nothing is going on, then on Saturdays I'll still usually be up by 9 and will go to yoga at 9:30. On Sundays during the summer, I was in bed as late as 9:30, getting up to walk to church by 10:15. With nothing to do, my husband will get up whenever he feels like it, and sometimes he'll get up earlish (7:30 or 8), make a big breakfast, lounge around with the kids and then take a late-morning nap.

FWIW I have 4 kids ages 8 - 16. I stopped worrying about what they were doing on lazy weekend mornings when they were 4.

Why does it bother you? Maybe he's tired and catching up. Your kids are plenty old enough to get up on their own and have some cereal and watch a cartoon. I did it as a kid. Sometimes my husband or I or both of us sleep in until 8:30 or 9:00. I'm glad we give each other permission to relax a little. Not like the kids are toddlers or babies anymore. Sometimes I come up and he's lying in bed reading at 9am. Unless I needed his help, so what. If I need his help, I tell him vs stew over it. Maybe your husband is working times you're not. Does he track every minute you rest or relax? Lots of parents of older kids sleep in who I know. We all say we're glad we don't have to race out of bed every weekend morning anymore.

if they were babies i could understand this, but your kids are easily old enough to get up, fix themselves some cereal, and chill with some cartoons on weekend mornings.
when my kids were too small to get up alone, my husband and i took turns sleeping in on weekends (unless i was working.) no brainer.
my husband gets up at 3 to go to work, so to him 8:30 WOULD be 'very late' but for me that's just about the right time to wake up. i'm very glad that my husband didn't get snitty with me just because we were on different schedules.
khairete
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Why do you feel the need to get up with them? It's time to train them to let mommy and daddy sleep awhile. Kids don't just know this....they have to be taught.

At 5 years old, I started leaving a bowl of cereal on the counter for each of them, with a cup of milk in the fridge to pour in it. I put the TV on the cartoon channel at an appropriate volume so they only had to press one button to have it on. I gave them instructions and showed them the clock...don't come knocking until the clock says 8:30.

Yes, there were some messy mornings. Yes, they sometimes got loud. But over time, they learned.

By the time my boys were three and six they were able to get up, turn on the tv and get themselves a snack while they waited for me to wake up. They usually didn't get up before 7:30am, and I usually wouldn't sleep past 9:00am. My husband normally sleeps later than me because he works nights. Teach your kids to be independent in the morning and sleep in!

We started loooooooooong ago teaching our kids to let others sleep in. So, they know how to get their own drinks, make a simple breakfast and turn on a tv show. They also have Saturday chores to do before going out to play so they often start those before we even wake up. Kids are 14,11 and 8.

The amount of sleeping in depends on our day's activities. No, my husband is not the sleeping in type. He is also not a tv watcher and detests video games. He is strange :) Most Saturdays, he gets up before me and starts cleaning around the house and doing various outside jobs. I loooove him!! Sundays he is up and off to church meetings.

Just stay in bed with your hubby!! If he isn't feeling the need to be up with the kids..why do you?? Have a family meeting...tell the kids you all are changing how things go down on Sat and Sun. Teach them to leave you alone unless the house is burning down ;)

I'm an early bird no matter if it's a weekend or not, so I let my husband sleep in on the weekends. He usually sleeps until 8:00 or 8:30. It doesn't bother me, esp since I am up anyway, and it's something nice I can do for him since he does so much for me.
I will say that when my son turned 6, he didn't need us to get up with him. He goes in the living room and watches TV until we get up. Usually though- I am the first one up in the house on the weekends.

Your kids aren't that young. My kids 10, 9, 7 look forward to weekend mornings because that's their time to watch t.v. They wake about 7-7:30 and are so quiet that we don't know their up till we get up around 9-10.

When my kids were younger, my 3 yr old daughter loved to make pancakes (they were frozen) for her siblings. She even decorated them with redi whip & choco chips. Can your kids be more independent?

We don't sleep in late on Sundays because we have church. Sometimes my husband sleeps till 11-12, but he works long hours and has a very long commute so I don't mind him getting his rest.

No, the kids leave us alone unless the need something. They graze on cereal and easy to fix stuff. I often get up earlier than my granddaughter by far on Saturday but for the most part we get up when we wake up. No alarms or anything.

My kids are 11, 9, and 7, but for years they have gotten up and played quielty so we don't have to get up at 6 with them, if that's when they get up. The 7 year old is normally up first, but he enjoys his quiet time just like anyone else. Your children are absolutely old enough to take care of themselves until you wake up.

We are normally awake by 7 on weekends, but sometimes stay in bed a while longer. I only get frustrated when my husband sleeps in if he makes a specific request for breakfast, I make it, and he comes down when we are all finished even though he had the same warning call as the others. Otherwise I could care less.

Our kids are 12 and 14 and we all sleep late on the weekends. I'm up a bit earlier, usually by 7:30, kids are up around 9:30 and husband sleeps till around 10. It doesn't bother me. Kids are growing and need their sleep. Husband doesn't sleep well in general so I'm always happy that he can get some good rest. Selfishly, I love the quiet mornings....more "me" time! :)

Have you told your hubby it bothers you? That is the first step.

Around here, my hubby may sleep about 4 hours a night, he is up and about at least twice a night working. We do international business and 2am is sometimes a conference call. It is normal for him to be up and about by 4-5 because he often catches a 6am flight. He is usually up by 5 on a normal day. Therefore, I am awake at least 3-4 times a night.

On the rare occasion he sleeps in, I just make sure I am quiet if I stay up and most of the time, I will sleep too. My hubby is one who never stops working... he is always working on something either our business or working in the yard, etc..

He sacrifices a lot of sleep, time away from us and works very hard so I have no issue if he chooses to sleep in sometime.

My daughter lives on her own right now but she has always been one to sleep in.

We alternate Sat and Sunday. That way we each get a 'sleep in day'. We're both usually up by 9am on our respective sleep in days. I don't think that's too late.

If you aren't the sleep in type, maybe you could take an early morning walk alone. The kids will be fine:)

My kids are 12 and 14. Occasionally I have to wake the 14 year old up at 10-11am. Most often they wake up by 8-8:30 on weekends. I sometimes sleep until 9 or very rarely 10, but most mornings I wake naturally by 7:30 whether I want to or not.

My husband will usually sleep later than I do. It doesn't bother me at all. If we had somewhere to be, he'd be up. If not, I don't see a problem with his sleeping. He gets up on the weekdays a little earlier than the rest of us.

Assuming no special needs, your kids are all old enough to be able to play quietly and not wake you in the morning if you'd like to sleep in. The 10 year old can be in charge of breakfast too.

By the time my boys were 3, 8 & 9 they were old enough to wake up, turn the tv on and be quiet. Yes we got up to spilled juice or a bowl of cereal tipped over sometimes. they were capable of getting up and seeing to their needs on the weekend mornings. If yours are not you might want to start teaching them to be self sufficient. And give your self permission to start sleeping a little more.

As others have said, your kids are old enough that you can relax a bit. Let them know they can have cereal and watch TV, quietly. All 70s and 80s kids did this on the weekend for sure :-)
I know it's hard to REALLY sleep in when the kids are already up but even laying in bed lightly dozing for an hour longer is nice. If it bothers you so much then you must not be getting enough "me" time. If you really want to sleep in one morning, completely unbothered, let your husband know that, and maybe he can sleep Sundays and you get Saturdays.
Personally I preferred my down time a few nights a week, taking a long hot bath, or going to a class or walk or workout with a friend. Even though my husband was the only one "working" he knew it was important for me to get a break.
Just TALK to your husband about it, when you are both relaxed, preferably over a glass of wine!

When our daughter was under the age of 5, we got up when she got up. On the weekends we took turns sleeping in. On Saturdays, I let my husband sleep in and on Sundays he let me sleep in, unless we had something we needed to do or to attend.

Once she was about 5, she got up and watched Tv or played quietly by herself, she could even get fruit or make herself some cereal.

She did not go outside. She did not answer the phones.
She knew the rules and did great.

It seems like your children are old enough to get up on their own as long as they follow the rules. Now if they are involved in weekend sports, classes, etc.. That may mean you and your husband need to swap weekends for sleeping in.

Since we own a small business, we pretty much work every day, but on the weekends, if there are no pressing emergencies, we will sleep in. Our kids are 12 and 9, and know that if they wake us up, we won't thank them for it. Sleeping in for us could be 8am, but it has been 9am on occasion.

It seems to me that your kids are old enough that if they wake up at 6am on the weekends, they can amuse themselves quietly and get a bowl of cereal or some fruit to eat. There's no need for them to involve you with that, if you'd like to sleep in. If you don't like to sleep in, then it's not an issue. Either way, I don't see why it would be annoying for your spouse to sleep in. It's only 2 days per week.

Our three year old is usually up between 7-7:30, our 5 year old around 8-8:30, and the baby around 10:30, so on the weekends the big ones come into our room, snuggle, and watch cartoons while hubby and I doze until someone gets hungry or the baby wakes up. If one of us is significantly more awake than the other, we will often take the kids downstairs if they're restless and let the other sleep until the 11 or so or the baby wakes them. Sometimes we even pack baggies of Cherrios and dried fruit with water cups the night before to toss at...I mean, hand nicely to the kids to get a little more snooze time if it's been a particularly late night the night before. There's no set schedule as to who gets to sleep and who doesn't, but if one of us feels we really need it we simply let the other know and they take the kids downstairs early, so actual peace and quiet can be had.
If it bothers you, speak up. If you don't speak up, you have no one to be annoyed with but yourself.

My kids are 10 and 6 and get up anywhere between 7 am and whenever. They are fully capable of turning on the tv, reading, playing a ds and getting a bowl of cereal and letting the dog out.
My husband and I can sleep in on the weekends if we like. Saturday I think we all got up at around 7:30 b/c we had football but Sunday we all got up around 9 am. It just depends.
My oldest will help the youngest with his cereal and make sure the dog gets out first thing and he is usually the first one up on the weekends. He is a morning person and an early riser. He very quietly shuts his brother's door then comes to our room and gets the dog and shuts our door.
My husband will sometimes sleep until 10 or even 11. He needs more sleep than I do and he works long, crazy hours during the week. If I sleep until 9 that is really sleeping in for me. I am usually up by 7/7:30. I let him sleep until he wakes up on his own, unless we need to be somewhere or if I am sick or extremely tired I will tell him the night before and he will get up and let me sleep in.

my daughter is 12 and for as long as i can remember has slept in LATE on the weekends. so my husband and i sleep in , until whenever. he usually always sleeps later than me. BUT now i am 37 weeks pregnant! :) we have decided that we'll each get 1 weekend day to sleep in, like he'll get Saturday and I'll get Sunday , etc. I think that's only fair when the baby comes.

DS is 8. We usually get up between 8-8:30. DS usually wakes up between 8:00 and 8:30. He tiptoes in to see if we are up. If not (or we keep our eyes closed) he goes back to his room and reads or plays. When he was littler, he would often sleep until 9.

Well, 8:45 doesn't sound like sleeping in to me. My hubby works on Saturday but I stay in bed until around 8:30 or 9:00. My girls usually occupy themselves. On Sunday, it depends, if hubby is working on a project he'll get up early and start working. Otherwise, I get up around 9 or so and hubby will sleep until breakfast is done. Sometimes we both sleep in after 9 and I'm like Ahhh it's so late, lol. Anyway, you don't say why it bothers you. You said you couldn't sleep later than 7:30 and wouldn't want to anyway so I don't get it. I'm assuming your husband works during the week. If so, I don't see the big deal in him sleeping a little later than normal.

No, it wouldn't bother me unless my kids were still babies and yours are far from that. Maybe your husband wants some time away from you.

If I slept in every weekend until 8:45 and she had to get up with our son (5), my wife would really be pissed off, and rightfully so. If either of us wants to sleep in, we agree the night before. That happens about once a month for the both of us, and we keep it even.

I don't sleep in well - I'm an early riser by nature. And during the school year, I have to get up around 5am. But I do let my husband sleep in because most night he stays up late, usually watching a movie and cleaning the kitchen. He lets me go to bed early, I let him sleep late. Win win.

It would depend on the big picture. Many mornings DH (who is an early bird) will wake up around 7 when our DD does. When possible, I can sleep in til 9 or even 9:30 but rarely beyond that. Most mornings I am up around 7:30 to get DD ready for school. DH and I fairly equally (though informally) trade off weekend mornings. If I know he's not been well or been working hard, I will get up with DD and get her breakfast, etc. and let him sleep in however long he needs to. Unless we need to be somewhere, I don't really watch the clock. Some days 7:30 is sleeping in (weekdays he's up shortly after 6) and some days he might sleep til 9. If you're the early bird and he is not, can you work a deal where he does baths or something to ease your load in other ways? I personally don't think 8:45 is overall that late (teens sleep forever) but if you're up at 6 with the kids it can feel like an eternity when YOU are tired.

Kids are 12 & 10 and they get themselves up - usually 7ish for the 10 yo and 8ish for the 12 yo.

Hubby often works late, he has business in Asia and frequently gets only 4 hours of sleep during the week so I typically have no problem letting him sleep in. I will nudge his tushy out of bed if he's not up by 9:30 though, otherwise he won't sleep that night.

This is unless we have a sporting event for the kids, then all bets are off and I dictate wake up time for everyone :)

If you have a problem with him sleeping in you need to speak up. If you don't you have no right to complain.

Why are you allowing him to sleep in every weekend? Tell him he gets one day and you get the other. If you go to church then you alternate weekends. All I heard in this post is that you let your husband dictate your weekend morning. Take your morning and have him get up!!!!!!

Everyone else is right, your kids are old enough that you should be able to sleep in. If they can't, then you have some more training to do b/c they are at the age to be very capable.

My 3yo sleeps with us. Yesterday morning, he wanted to get up before 8:00 and watch TV in the living room, right next to our bedroom. My husband walked in there with him and set him up with the television set and a bowl of cereal and then came and got back in bed with me.

I think that your feeling of obligation to get up with your children is a perfectly viable personal decision but not a universal parenting requirement. If your husband is more functional with more rest, then it works in everyone's favor to leave him to it. Part of having your children get older is putting away certain levels of required supervision.

Now, I wouldn't send my 3yo to another part of the house where I couldn't see him and call out to him while I lie in bed; I can still stay on top of what he's doing from the next room.

PS. I just realized that I didn't answer your question. I usually stay in bed until 8 or 9, though I typically wake before 6. We're a napping family, so at least two of us will usually sleep for a couple of hours in the afternoon, depending on what's going on.

my husband never sleeps in. we got o bed early, and get up early during the week. on weekends i sleep in until 9 or 10 and he takes care of breakfast for kids and himself.

My kid is nearly 4. He wakes up sometime between 7:30 and 9 if left to his own devices. If I want a lie in, I ask for one. Hubs knows how much I value my sleep and naps. Were it that he wanted a sleep, I would take it very seriously as he is not so inclined. It would mean he is very overtired or under the weather.

Best,
F. B.

Sleep in?! What's that?
I don't have a little kid to deal with anymore, but the barking beasties have to be let out every morning, no matter what day of the week it is, or there will be nasties on the floor for me to clean up.
I never have been able to sleep late unless I'm sick. All of my exes could sleep until noon if left alone.
It bothered me that I got stuck with all the morning chores, and that they didn't care enough to get their asses up and help.

Yes it would bother me. I am up at 5 everyday. My kids are 8, 4 and 1. They are up by 6:30. If hubby sleeps in until about 8, I do get a little annoyed.

When you said sleep in I figured you meant 11 or 12, not 8:45! That wouldn't bother me with kids that are the ages of yours. They can certainly manage getting something to eat and find something to do around the house. Do you have something going on that early in the morning that your husband is skipping by sleeping in? I'm not sure why you feel the need to be out of bed by 7:30 on weekends.