How Do You Celebrate Mother's Day? - Missoula,MT

If my husband "demanded" me to do anything I'd pack up the kids and be out of there in a heartbeat.
Oh wait, first I take off and leave HIM with the kids for a few days and see if his tune changed at all. The MAYBE give him another chance :(

Demanded? I would have left for the day. Maybe even spent the night at my mother's. Why did you let him tell you what to do?

There's a rule in my house for Mother's Day, I don't have to make any decisions or do any housework. You should raise your standards :) Happy Mother's Day to you, I hope your husband learns to appreciate all that you do.

I had a great Mother's Day, probably because I deliberately married a man who is fair, kind, thoughtful, and a feminist.

My sons (11 and 14) wished me Happy Mother's Day and gave me lots of hugs and kisses and love. My husband wished me Happy Mother's Day and was affectionate and appreciative. I had a mellow afternoon, went for a walk, and then we went to an art museum as a family, because that was what I really wanted to do. Then we went out to dinner. At dinner, my husband had the idea that each of the three of them should say three things they appreciate about me, which was so sweet. Back at home I got three really nice cards, and a little gift (a dvd). Then I hung out and read and went on the internet while my husband paid the bills.

The thing is, my marriage is not just based on love and attraction, it is also based on fairness, equality, and mutual respect. It kind of sounds like your husband doesn't really appreciate or respect you and the amazing work you do any other day of the year, either. He probably just takes you for granted.

You deserve so much more, 365 days a year. Can you guys talk about this? Get counseling?

i'm so sorry.
i think you deserve better than this every day.
:(
khairete
S.

Demanded? No, No! We work together. Once last summer he had a mood for a week or so where he thought I wasn't doing enough, or right. He still pays for that, lol. (Once last summer he was like "Why am I eating pizza? What have you done all day?" and last week he was like "Why don't we just eat a pizza?" and I'm like "Because you ask what I've done all day and I'll have to hit you over the head with a baking pan. It's not healthy for the kids"....he laughed, knowing I'm still "punishing" him for that stupid day...not really punishing, but he'll be teased about it).
For what it's worth, we are raising our boys the way we are BECAUSE of men like your husband. Jeremy teaches them how to respect women, how to be a gentleman on a date (I'm their practice, which is adorable), and how to be a supportive husband. I am teaching them that women can do ANYTHING, and how to do their own dang rooms, dishes, chores. Marriage should be a team, not one lording over the other. What's he gonna do for Father's Day? Mow the yard, edge, trim, clean out the garage, and change the a/c filters and care for your child while you play Farmville?
I've very sorry about your day (and other days as well, I suspect?)....but hearing your little one sing "Happy Mother's Day to You" sounds very sweet, very special. Hold on to that.
As for your actual question: I don't really have a set tradition, we do whatever feels right that year, but we do always have a nice breakfast (Jeremy usually makes it, but if not, I will make something special that I am in the mood for), and we do go "somewhere" (a children's theater, a movie, a park, the beach, it doesn't matter where).

I hate to say it...but you need to have a talk with your husband. It is not a healthy relationship (with our without kids) for one to put demands upon the other.

If my husband demanded I do anything, he'd have a broken nose to take care of. And possibly an empty house. This is the jerk everyone told you to leave, correct? Now I see why they said that. I'm sorry all your Mother's Days are spent with someone who has no respect for you, or your family.

As for us, we don't do anything for Mother's or Father's day. Chalk it up to hating Hallmark holidays. IF we did, I have no doubt my husband would be wonderful.

This year they made a big deal out of it. I've been pretty stressed the last few months and so hubs made sure today was fun and relaxing for me. We ate and did what I wanted to do and there was "no griping allowed"...

Tried to get my mom to come have brunch with us but she said "it's my day I'm going to a bead class"...

Other than that...last night we went to my dad and "other" moms house...gave her, her gift and I cleaned up her kitchen for her so she could enjoy the evening.

It has been a great weekend. I'm sorry so many of you have not had such a fantastic weekend. :(

Our only tradition is brunch which is the best brunch of the year at the country club.

Other than that... It's an ordinary day... No expectations. I'm happy

We don't have a set tradition... Some years we have done it with my mom, this year I did it with her yesterday so I could just chill out today and we plan on doing that in the future. Less stress, which we all need. Who needs the pressure of being in 3 places on the same day.

Anyway, today I was awaken by crafts/cards made by DD (first year where she truly made everything herself I was teary eyed looking at everything!). That was what I've been waiting for since I've had her, honestly. I love that kind of stuff. Another card from her from the store & one from DH & some tulips followed by breakfast out.

We are not fancy or super crazy on holidays because I am not the hugest fans of forced holidays like this, honestly. But if the rest were like this, I wouldn't mind at all & I certainly don't need an expensive brunch/tea, designer bag or Tiffany necklace to know I'm a good mom & appreciated. If I want the damn bag or necklace, I'd just save & buy it for myself!

I am sorry your DH wasn't the greatest today. Hopefully he will get with the program.

I don't.... I do the same thing I do every Sunday and that is clean the upstairs, do wash, take care of the kids. Would love it if my husband would have even just got me a friggin card, but nooo. My kids are only little and I hope when they are bigger, they will make it special for me, but 'I' will need to be the one to teach them. So, you are not alone in your unappreciation. Are we married to the same person? :)

I checked papers for my high school English classes.

Wow that is crappy huh?
Of him I mean.
I find a lot of Husbands.... are similar.
per the other stories I hear from other women I know.
They say "well you aren't my Mom.... " Um yah. But can the children.... actually take out Mommy and pay for a nice lunch and take themselves shopping? Don't think so.
So then that leaves "Mommy" on Mother's Day... doing the same ol' things... like any other day.
Except, then the Husband, wants attention and to do his own thing.
WTH?

I can't believe... your Husband "demanded" that you do laundry and clean up and vacuum.

I think, some of the Moms that raised these Husbands, didn't teach them a thing, about being respectful. Or maybe their own Dads, treated their Mom like that too. ??????

I am sure, your kids appreciate you.

Some don't think Mother's Day is anything special because we should feel special everyday. But, isn't it nice... to have a special day at least once a year... when it doesn't seem to happen, other than that. Not even on a Birthday?

I'm venting too.

I bought myself... flowers for myself for Mother's Day.

I don't really have any set traditions. My kids made me gifts at school and my parents gave me a plant. My husband is pretty good to me all year long both as a hubby and dad, but he doesn't really do anything extra on Mother's Day.