I agree that age is relative to what you are used to. If these kids parents had children in their early 20's they still look young, because they are young.
I did not have our child till I was 30, now that I am almost 50, I am shocked that one of my friends has a Great Grand child! Not a step childs gandbaby, a real great grand child.. I saw them at our daughters High school. She was there because one of her grand children is going to graduate this year!
My friend is only a year older than me and looks like she is 20 years older.. She does not smile.. Even though she is a very nice person, so I think she looks tired and stressed. I would be too.
Keep in mind, I have been in retail for 30 years so I was thinking how would I make her over?I kept thinking she needs to get her hair in a more modern cut, a better color and at least get her lashes and brows dyed. Her eye glasses were dated and her clothes were in pastels! She looked so washed out.
All of us need to stop and take a real good look at ourselves and evaluate what could be improved. I do this each spring and each fall. I also do not like putting on make up, but I noticed if my lashes and brows look tidy and bright, it opens up my face. I also found a place online to order starting at $8.00 prescription eye glasses! I can afford to have more with it frames, without spending hundreds of dollars.( www.zennioptical.com)
Maybe now that your child is in school, you can be good to yourself. Get a massage, get a facial, mani pedi and have a glass of wine or your favorite beverage and just take care of your own spirit. You deserve it.
I am sorry for the loss of your father. Take care of your spirit too.