How Do I Breath and Be a Single Mom

Hi R., I have not been through what you have but I do know about the feeling you are going through and I am so sorry you have been put in this position. All I know to tell you is to just get through one day at a time, breath when possible and focus on your gorgeous child. Him and God will get you through this. If all else fails get mad! Sometimes its easier to deal with things mad than it is sad.

Hi R.,
I am so sorry for your loss. I don't have any advice but here is what I can give you..
My MIL just passed away almost a month ago and hospice gave us some books about grieving and children and how to deal with it ourselves. I have been told by a friend that the place I'm gonna tell you about is really good and she went there when she lost her husband along with her 2 children, so it is.
It's called Solace House, it's a center for grieving children and their families. Here is their phone # ###-###-#### and here is their website address solacehouse.org and their email address ____@____.com also here is their address 8012 State Line Road Suite 202, Shawnee Mission, Kansas 66208. If you have an email address I can copy this information about it if you like and email it to you. It says counseling is based on a sliding scale fee.
It says it is located one mile North of Ward Parkway Mall on the west side of State Line Road within the State Line Executive Office Park. I hope this helps you and if you already know about them I'm sorry I can't give ant better advice. The only thing I can say is take it one day at a time. And I can only think as time goes on it will get a little easier but then again I know there are days with my MIL that I don't feel like dealing with life. W.

R.,
I haven't been through exactly what you are going through but here is what I can offer. My dad left my mom when I was 3 years old...she had 4 children. All of them were under 5. My mom is my hero for being able to raise 4 children by herself. Don't think she didn't...she NEVER got a dime of child support, he never came around, never offered anything. I didn't get to see my dad again until I was 17 years old...by then it was to late.
Here is what I am getting to. My mom was a strong woman. She did the best she could with what she knew. We always had food on the table...struggling sometimes, clothes on our backs and warm beds to sleep in. If that is what your child has then you are doing a great job already. If you need someone to talk to please let me know. I am not a single mother but I have a lot of respect for women who do it on their own. I can be a great friend if you need one.

May God Bless and Keep you both.

Christ, Family, Friends, and a Church Family is the only way I have made it through dark times.

You sound like your angry, I would be too. Please give it all away to God, I give him the things I can't handle. When you find some peace, you'll be the mom that your son deserves. You'll lose it, heck we all lose it and half us haven't gone through what you are going through.

I just added your name to my prayer list.

I personally have not been through that but I was there for my mother when her husband did that. then a year later her best friend. I'm so sorry for your loss. I am starting a fundraiser (for lack of a better word) for women. To hlep them get back on their feet. It is mostly for abused women but a hurting woman is a hurting woman. you can get together with other women and if you need anything and we have it you are free to take. Clothes, baby stuff, food whatever. Feel free to email me if you need anything
~V.

Dearest R.~
I am so sorry for all you are going throught right now. Do you have a group of friends or family in the area that would babysit occasionally for you to have some time for yourself? Part of healing is to continue to live your life and stay strong for that little guy. If you ever want, I would be willing to meet for coffee or something, just for some "mommy time". That goes for any other moms too. We all need time to be ourselves.
Hugs to you!
Stace

R.,first sorry for your loss.Second I haven't been through that,I did have an ex though that did take his life a few years ago and I still have the pain I was his every thing and though we weren't together when that happened we remain good friends and he always looked after me and asked my mom about me all the time.I think I will always carry the pain,I saved his life once but couldn't a second time and that makes me feel very guilty.So in a way I know how you feel I know in sort of a different way though and I feel like I'm loseing it too at times.I could go on but I'll close from here,but if you ever want to talk I'm here just let me know.Stay strong
J.