You know, you got a lot of good advice from ladies about getting "out there" to do something for yourself. So true. I can tell you, though, that I have lots of things I'd like to do, and I just don't see how to make it happen without letting go of other things that I find to be so important.
The thing is, I think I hear something from you that seems to have been overlooked. What struck me about your post was that you seem to be thrilled and grateful with your current situation, but you're not getting the feedback that tells you that you're not only appreciated, but also adored.
Don't get excited because I have absolutely no advice for you...I just wanted to say "I hear ya, girl!" I was the "best of the best" in high school and college. Multi-talented. "Who's Who". I could have done any number of things and yet I burned out and got married instead. I felt and still feel so fortunate to be doing what I do, both in the first (abusive) relationship, and my second (dream) life. I cannot imagine doing anything else right now, but if I'm being honest, I've gotta tell you that I'm stagnating. The infuriating part, for me, is that (once again) I am not recognized as having made a job choice. I could be out there doing something the world regards as important, but I choose to be home. These days people seem to appreciate the concept of a stay-at-home mom, but they have no idea what the job actually entails -- we're still taken for granted. Most of what we do is invisible and frankly, the better we are at our job, the more psychologically exhausting it is. "What do you do all day?" Haha. One day I pointed out to my husband that his job must be so easy and low stress. You know -- he sits at a desk and reads stuff...talks on the phone...gets treated to really great lunches...gets to sit around and think...gets to wear fabulous clothes...DREAM JOB!! What was funny was that I was so convincing in my sarcasm, he actually thought I thought his job was easy. And guess what -- he was hurt and offended. And this is from a man who gets daily feedback about how smart he is and what a great job he is doing, and major kudos at LEAST weekly from big, important Dallas people. HE'S offended?
Anyway, I digress. The point is, I generally get nothing back but more work to do. (Although the second I start to seriously feel sorry for myself, without fail, one of my older kids gives me a heart-felt expose on why I'm the best mom ever who treats them with honesty and respect. It's like there's a personal damage-control team out there for me!) Truly I am lucky. I have an amazing family and a great life. The thing is, at the end of the day even I wonder what I did all day, and yet I have no reasonable time for myself. I stay up very late, due to insomnia, and read a ton, but even feel guilty about that because then I'm so ridiculously tired during the day.
I guess what I want (not holding my breath) is for my family to have a true understanding of the hard work I do. To know that talking a teenager down off of the ledge-du-jour is not the same as hanging out at Starbucks with a friend. To know that twenty loads of laundry a week is not only a lot of folding, but is also freaking BORING. That while choosing what dinner will be, I am very well aware that there will be complaints. That wrestling clothes onto an uncooperative toddler can make you feel that somewhere along the line you failed Parenting 101. That digging up the sprinkler system to find where the leak is is really not part of my job description. That free psychotherapy is not generally available to the public at 11:30 at night the way it is at our house. I'm not sitting around reading a magazine -- I'M WORKING HERE!! And I'm tired. And, guess what? I'd like my back rubbed, thank you.
So hopefully I'm not too off-base here, and you're thinking, "Whoa! She's totally cracked!" :) I just wanted to say that, yes, having the perfect life does not preclude the feelings of which you speak. Sounds like you're doing an amazing job, and let me be the one to tell you today, "WOW! How do you do all that?!" Keep up the great work, and let me know if you find any answers. :p