Hello moms,
I need some help. I have a 3 1/2 year old who is very intelligent but has recently had some behavioral issues after the birth of is little sister. He was in daycare and we had to remove him due to behavioral challenges afterwhich he attended two other daycares within a month. He is currently staying with a friend until I can sort things out but that arrangement will probably end this summer. He's doing great with her, loves reading and learning but she only has two kids and I'm needing to find another place for him. I'm looking for a location with small teacher/child ration and someone who is willing to work with him in the Frisco/Plano area. During his time out of daycare I've taken my son to a physciatrist and he has been diagnosed with traits of ADHD. I'm needing to find a daycare or home care who is will to accommadate him and be patient with him. If anyone has had great experience with anyone or daycare please please please let me know. I would love to stay at home and home school but at this point I'm not able to, hopefully when it's time for him to start school I will have things in order. HELP!
To help ADHD look into removing all artificials in his diet as in the Feingold diet. Add in Cod Liver Oil, consider removing milk - it greatly helps a lot of kids. Dr. Bock's book Healing the New Childhood Epidemics: Autism, Asthma, ADHD and Allergies.
Did he have any vaccinations around the time of the new baby? Go to mercola.com and research childhood vaccines and their affects on young children. The huge upswing of autism and ADD/ADHD correlates to the introduction of the earlier vaccine cycle that most MDs force on us. It is scary! Google has a ton of info as well.
Mercola has a 2 3/4 hour online video that is well put together and documented by a lady from MI that stopped mandatory vaccines for MI children. She is now fighting the push for mandatory vaccines for all adults and she shows you why.
D. M
Hello
You might want to check with your school district he may be able to go to school early even thow he isnt old anufe yet. It will help him get ready for school and get use to being other children.My son was going to school at the age 3 so it is posable for children with some desabitys to go to school early you wont know until you try. YOU are his voice and only YOU can fight for the help he needs. Dont give up
My son (4 years old) went through the exact same thing when my baby hit around 10 months. He was having really big problems at school and was also given a potential early diagnosis of ADHD. Every kid is different, but diet and supplements made a HUGE difference in his behavior. He was recommended to go on Focus factor for kids (4 vitamins per day), Nordic Omega 3, 6, 9 (2 per day) and Animal Parade multi-vitamin (2 per day). The brands are important because they are the ones with clinic research behind their effectiveness. We also significantly reduced his sugar (he loved yogurt, bread, milk and Peanut Butter, but there's a lot of sugar in yogurt) and took him off dairy because it was impacting his desire to eat other foods. The change in him has been incredible. He is eating a much wider variety of healthy foods and his school called yesterday and said he's like a different child -- no problems at all with listening and staying with the group etc. Lastly, we also had him evaluated for sensory processing issues and found out he does have some. It's important to understand this because the symptoms look very similar to ADD/ADHD, but the treatment is completely different (occupational therapy vs. drugs). I also recommend the book Healing the New Childhood Epidemics by Kenneth Bock. You will learn a ton and BELIEVE in the power of nutrition to help with a lot of these issues.
You said you need to find someone else because your friend only has 2 kids. Are you wanting him around a whole bunch of children? Some kids are more sensitive and get over stimulated easily, so fewer children just might be what he's needing. I have 2 boys whose behavior worsens when there is too much commotion. I also have 2 boys who do not have this problem. Each child is different. My oldest son was very intense, very sensitive, very aggresive, diagnosed with ADHD (and others). He was a challenge for so many years and I learned a LOT about patience through him. He is not on any medications and he calmed way down when he hit 13 (he will be 15 on Sunday). I tried public school for him when he was in 4th and 5th grades, but there were just too many children and his problems intensified. My youngest son shows some intensity and sensitivity to overstimulation, but he does not have the ADHD tendencies. I am also MUCH better at knowing how to handle things from the get go with him. Most of the time I can just remove him from all the "activity" and he calms down again. It sounds like your son might benefit more from the smaller, "home type" atmosphere rather than a daycare center atmosphere. It's important that whoever watches him has patience with his behaviors. By patience, I don't meann letting him just get by with whatever, but handling it in a calm manner and not in a way where he feels like a bad, unliked boy.
M.
First do you absolutley need to work? Are there expenses you can eliminate that would allow you to stay home? Can you work part-time? Maybe have your husband watch the children while you work part-time? This would cut down on babysitting fees.
ADHD. My theory is maintain a structured/consistent disciplined environment. No television/play stations in the bedroom and limited television/movie viewing. Concentrate more on reading, playing board/card games, and of course recreational games. Have meals together as a family, attend church as a family... Bedtime same time every evening. No sugary products and limited yeast product intake. Again structure/consistent discipline is very, very important with ADHD children.
Good luck.
If he's doing good with your friend I would see if she would keep him FT. He may just be craving that more personal one on one attention from your friend since he has a new baby sister at home. He might just be acting out. Docs are so quick to diagnose ADD and autism these days. See how he does with the more personal setting at your friends and if it works out I would keep him in an environment like that. Hope that helps. Good luck
